What do you do when your best friends b/f keeps calling you and talking inappropriately? He has done so once and i have told her (she doesnt believe me) and the second time i told her again (and she still doesnt believe me) - should i just let her ruin her life...fair enough, if she wants to choose him over me, thats fine, but what if i get dragged in a third time...what if he calls me again?!
He takes my number from her phone so theres no point changing my number, and i have to give it to her for importance...so what should i do?
And she is leaving the country for a month soon - what if he starts calling me then? I cant tell her so he would continue calling!!!
Damn he drives me up the wall!
2006-07-04 01:39:59 · 29 answers · asked by Miss Terious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Everyone keeps telling me not to answer the call, but shouldnt i tell my best friend whether he is still calling me or not, and make sure that it is him? and he calls me on private so i never know whether it is him or not, i end the call as soon as i know that it is him so then i tell her...
2006-07-04 02:37:51 · update #1
i can see that you are worried about your friend getting hurt but what more can you do? it's a shame that she doesn't believe what you are telling her as it sounds to me that you are a really gud mate jus lookin out for her! sum friends wudnt do that. her boyfriend sounds like a really jerk and you are doin the right thing by tellin her each time he calls you. i wudn't answer the fone wen he rings (thats if you no his numba) if u dnt no his number then jus hang up wen u realise it is him calling you! in time your friend will see what he's really like and she may well get hurt by him but im sure you will be ther for her when that happens
2006-07-04 01:48:22 · answer #1 · answered by charlotte b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey
Don't take any crap! What a jerk !!
Tell him u r not available, at least not for him, u do not cheat, & if he wants to cheat, then let him go find someone else, & that if he calls u a 4th time, he'll have a broken nose for repair.
Friend's BF or no, He is a nuisance.
Talk over to ur parents. Or better still, lodge a complaint of harassment with the police.
At the most, u'll lose ur good friend (temporarily)
But u r right!
As soon as she leaves, he'll start pestering u !!
Take precautions.
& if u do want 2 help ur friend, put the phone on speaker mode & record the next conversation.
I have a hint tha there's more than his romantic interest in u : he enjoys the thrill of challenging & annoying u
Take care...
2006-07-04 01:42:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a cell phone, go to the company website and get a log of your calls and show her his number on it over and over.
If you have a lan-line phone get an oldschool answering machine, dont put a message on it. Let it pick up and then answer the phone, letting it run and recording at least some of what he says.
If you have a cable phone you can go to sound recorder, and record phone conversations. Might ned to download a support program.
otherwise just tel him to quit it cause he's scum, and let her learn the hard way. Just be there for her when she gets hurt, cause everyone gets blinded by love somethimes.
think carefuly before getting the police involved. What you dont realize is something like this could end up the start of a downward spiral for someone. Courts are harsh and unforgiving. Dont press charges on someone without seriouse consideration first.
2006-07-04 01:46:52 · answer #3 · answered by Cozzette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, I know where you are coming from cauase it has happened to me. My friend just introduced me to her new boyfriend through the phone, and the next day when my friend went on holiday he started calling me and asking me to meet up with him and other stupidly inappropriate things.
I didnt tell my friend because for one she wouldnt believe me and may have thought I was jealous of her relationship and trying to break it, and secondly I just didnt want to hurt her feelings.
I would say that you dont mention anything to your friend anymore about his calls. Dont try to discourage her about him because believe it or not she would always side her bf unless she catches him red handed herself.
If he calls you, pick the phone but just be blank in your conversations. Make them boring and let him know (or pretend) that you find his conversations boring; it really breaks a man's esteem. He will get the message and eventually stop calling you. He will then have even more respect for you.
Best of luck.
2006-07-04 10:04:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
come on men you should know what you're suppose to do..simply just tell him to go to hell and back off..first of all tell youre best friend, i know it is the hardest thing any good friend can do but why should a boy be the one to spoil two girls friendship..a friend is way better than having a boyfriend.that is just how it is,and the worst thing to do is to make her feel suspicious, u cant afford to let that happen,not only would you feel bad but you would make yourself feel bad and you might end up hating yourself for a very long time..all you need to do is warn him to stop calling you and if he doesn't answer you,tell your best friend. it is obvious you care a lot about her and wouldn't want to watch her getting upset, so u HAVE got to let her know straight away, indirectly you're going to tech the boy a lesson so far you deal with this issue in an appropriate way....
good luck
2006-07-04 01:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by fifty's gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tape his next call, then tell him you are going to let ur b/f listen to it if he doesnt leave you alone. but dont keep telling ur b/f because if she didnt believe u the first time she wont any other time
if you cant record it put him on speaker phone and have someone else or lots of peeps there listening with u then both/all confront him
hopefully he will get the hint
goodluck with it all
2006-07-04 01:51:09 · answer #6 · answered by ceaskew25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down. If you don't wish him to phone you, just tell him so, loud and clear. Directly! Don't hesitate because he's your bestfriend's boyfriend. If he keeps on phoning, just hang up when you hear his voice. Ignore him in every possible way. He'll eventually stop when he sees that he can't deal with you so easily. There is always a nice good treat of you phoning the police if he doesn't stop.
For your friend, if she doesn't believe you - who cares? You can't inform her if she doesn't wish to be informed. You tried. If she wishes to live her life like that - just let her go.
2006-07-04 02:25:27 · answer #7 · answered by Psychologist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer the call and tape it. She may be trying to remember him as a nice guy if she's leaving the country but you will still have a pervert ringing you. She needs to know and so does another adult, to have proof and to protect yourself... he's not going to be harmless to you after she leaves.
2006-07-04 09:16:09 · answer #8 · answered by Wicked Top. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend doesn't believe you then there's nothing you can do, people are foolish when they are in love or being manipulated. To stop him from calling you, you should make a record of how many times he calls you then show it to the police cause he's harassing you.
2006-07-04 01:46:14 · answer #9 · answered by NJAS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ring her n say we have been friends for so long n who do u wnt to belive n say to her the next time he rings im going to record him so u can hear exsactley wot he said to me i when she hears it go round n give her a big huge n say im realy sorry i had to do that but im a true friend that didnt want u 2 get heart good look.x
2006-07-04 01:51:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋