would you get arranged marriage? no not the type where u see the groom or the bride only on the wedding day, but the type where you parents set you up with someone who they think it suitable for you and you get to ok or veto the choice
2006-07-04 00:50:39 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is a highly interesting as well as practical problem a person might face.
Well...As far as my views are concerned, the probabilities of a successful marriage depends not only on the Parental Choice , or the other circumstantial pressures, it is the bonding between the persons in question, which play the most important role behind a happy marriage.
On one hand, our parents ,rich with their lifetime experiences seem to be more expert in identifying characteristics of a person ; but dear, you should not depend blindly upon them only.
We are all separate human beings and have our own points of view. So, choose the person only if your personality suits him/her; because it is ultimately YOU who have to spend the life with!
But, do not be Hasty or OVER-CONFIDENT in taking your decision...be patient, face the situation intelligently; and remember : YOUR PARENTS CAN BE YOUR BEST FRIENDS... So, trust them. Be friend to your parents, instead of being arrogant, and believe me, their wise advices taken from life itself, will also enrich your thinking and render you a new angle to tackle the situation.
So, BEST OF LUCK friend....
Wish you a bright future!
2006-07-04 01:22:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
the answer to this questions depends very much on the community where you are grown up and the traditions. western thinking does not support arranged marriages since they give more importance to the individual. other cultures support these marriages because of tradition, financial confort etc.
Personally, would not go for an arranged marriage.
2006-07-04 08:13:10 · answer #2 · answered by Amantia A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents basically setting up a blind date type thing? I wouldn't want to know what my mother would think is suitable for me at all. Or even my father. It's definitely a scary thought.
2006-07-04 07:57:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my first choice was terrible ended in divorce i was only 23 when we meet maybe mum and dad should have hand picked my groom i might still be married who knows...
2006-07-04 07:54:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother chose someone for me I wouldn't have minded marrying--had that person returned my feelings. It just happens that didn't work out. I truly believe had I not chosen my husband myself, they would have chosen him anyway.
If you trust your parents' judgment, their values are similar to yours, you are of marriageable age, that's one of your life goals, and you didn't have anyone in mind anyway, can it hurt? Your parents may see good characteristics in this person that you can't rationally see from your position. They have the added wisdom of experience.
2006-07-04 08:00:07 · answer #5 · answered by peachteach16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope
2006-07-04 07:55:15 · answer #6 · answered by not_prfikt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It works in some cultures. In the US is doesn't beacause the children all believe the parents know nothing.
2006-07-04 08:37:40 · answer #7 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously I wouldn't go for it...U should make your own choice in order to not blame your parents once ur relation crashes...Be responsible of your actions...
2006-07-04 08:25:18 · answer #8 · answered by benird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad news
2006-07-04 07:53:49 · answer #9 · answered by duke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i weren't married then yes i would, i realize now as an adult that i should have always listened to my parents. They usually always know whats best for me. my parents know a good man when they see it.
2006-07-04 07:55:08 · answer #10 · answered by toni h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋