2006-07-04 00:33:17 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can either start a secret relationship and make your life difficult and hurt your wife really deep (it will come out eventually anyway). Or you can tell your wife about it. Or you can forget about the woman at work and focus on your marriage. It all depends on you. Do you want to be honest? do you want to fight for your marriage? or do you want to jeopardize all you have for this woman? Please think before you act and dint let this ruin the life of many people. Good luck.
2006-07-04 00:36:42 · answer #1 · answered by Kathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well something left you vulnerable enough to fall for another. Some sort of emotional need not being met. But Since I have been cheated on and divorced I know the pain. You have to come clean, you owe your wife that much. and remember even when the grass looks greener it usually isnt. I bet you felt the same way you do now when you first met your wife. That sort of I cant breathe till I see them again feeling is one that never lasts forever. I dont know how long you have been married you didnt say but there are things that can help put a spark back . Maybe your energy would be better spent doing that . Changing jobs wouldnt hurt either.
2006-07-04 09:54:52 · answer #2 · answered by lisacna2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on now, have you really fallen in love with her? You're sure it's not just you wanting a sexual and forbidden thing?
There are millions of hot women that you are capable of falling in love with; you've always been able to fall in love with them and you always will be. Of all these women, you chose one. I am married too, and i've always had a hard time saying "no" to hot men that i like. Luckily, my feelings of guilt overwhelm me, and any men worth my time have always been too honorable (knowing that i'm married) to initiate any acts that could lead to adultery. Think about it this way, if your wife was not your wife, and instead she was the woman you work with (taking the woman you do work with out of the pic), the same thing would happen. You would fall in love with her. And then you would marry her. I'm sure that the woman you work with has certain characteristics that your wife does not, and maybe that makes you resent your wife and wish she was more like your co-worker. But your co-worker is lacking in many areas that your wife aspires in; only you can't see that now because you live with your wife every day. You've become desensitized to the lovliness of your wife.
2006-07-04 08:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by Kalinka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like lust. You are not able to spend enough time with that other woman to see how she truly is. She is just putting on aires right now to make herself look good in the little time that you and her have to spend together. You know how your wife is and there was something that you loved about her at one time or you would not have married her. You are in lust with the woman you work with.
2006-07-04 08:09:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it really love? or lust?
do you want to get divorced and be with this person?
do you (or her) have children?
is she married too?
It is so easy for ppl just to say "I am in love" but when the s___ hits the fan, is not that easy. When the "love" feeling is gone and reality starts to set in, is another story.
Right now I am in the process of getting divorced. What happened? My husband "fell in love" with someone @ work. We have a child, she has 4. She is still married and my soon-to-be-ex is living with her. Everything was lovey dovey while they were out sneaking behind their spouses but reality is very different.
2006-07-04 07:45:55 · answer #5 · answered by Kandela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
weigh your pros and cons...try to play the scenario all the way out before you jump in...
of course the right thing to do would be to leave the co-worker alone...no conversation, no sex, no touching etc...and focus on putting more time and energy into your wife.
we all have choices. is this relationship with your coworker something that you are willing to possibly lose your wife/family over? what is it that you have found in your coworker that you are not getting from your wife? have you talked to your wife about how you feel so she can possibly change/improve her behavior?
whatever you decide to do, be prepared for the CONSEQUENCES that will come about as a result of your actions!
2006-07-04 07:45:54 · answer #6 · answered by heresthedeal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself... do i love my wife.. of course but are u IN LOVE with your wife? do you want to be with her and make the marriage work? if not then tell her.. but make sure that this other woman wants to be with you and have a plan set up because u do not want to go to your wife well i am leaving you.. i don't know where I'm going or if she wants me or not... your wife will probably want to know why what happened.. so get Ur act together and figure out what you want in life.
2006-07-04 08:10:45 · answer #7 · answered by ~Mrs.C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all,u have to face your own marriage.r u not happy with it.try to make ur marriage work.maybe u falling in love with another woman is just atemporary thing...try and discuss out ur problems with ur wife..make things work
if they don't ,get a divorce and then analyse ur feelings abt the new lady...maybe it's just inflactuation...if not then go fr d new lady....
get a divorce rathr than stayin in an unhappy marriage
2006-07-04 07:50:38 · answer #8 · answered by sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a worry. Usually when people fall in love with someone else it is due to their own relationship faultering. I think you should work to fix your home first before visiting another kitchen.
Speak to your wife and try to resolve the core issue.
2006-07-04 07:39:31 · answer #9 · answered by v_stroke_28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What should you do? Simple, Grow Up. An adult would realize that love does not come from being around someone at work.
Love comes and stays from the commitment to be together.
2006-07-04 08:25:42 · answer #10 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋