What is the best way to get a 9 month old baby girl to go to sleep when she dosen't want to?

Question

We try to put her in bed but she just screams and screams. Most babies scream themselves out after a few minutes but our little girls a fighter.
Obviously, a 9month old doesn't understand a spanking and barely understands "No", so what else is there? Is my daughter just spoiled or are all babies like this?

Answer 1

Ahh nine months is a great time. Kids are so alert at that age and so interested in things.
I find that most of the kids that I nannied often went to sleep after a nice warm bath and a little back rub. After her bath, Make sure the room has a soft night light so that its not pitch black, put her in comfy Pjs. Hold her against your shoulder and rub her back until she gets drowsy and then lay her down. She should be okay.
You cannot ever "spoil" an infant...They should get all the attention you can give them. And yes, most babies are picky about three things, food time, potty time and bed time. Its pretty much all they know. Just remember to take your time and be patient. Children who refuse to sleep at nine months become children who sleep through the whole night. It just takes time.

Answer 2

Do you have a good bed-time routine? A lot of babies respond well to bed-time when they are in a systematic routine i.e. bath, nursery rhymes, bottle and bed at the same time each evening. Try staying with your daughter until she settles down or falls asleep and over the next week or two drop back a little bit so you start off sitting by the cot and end up by the door. Try not to take your daughter elsewhere in the house so that she learns the difference between night-time routine and day-time routine.

Answer 3

No she is not spoiled. My baby of 9 months does the same. I never leave her to cry in her cot. I make her a little bit of milk or give her a dummy. If that does not work I leave her to play a bit longer. When she starts rubbing her eyes I try again. Sometimes I'll lie with her on the bed and close my eyes and then move her to her cot once she sleeps. I've heard that this could lead to sleeping problems but I did the same thing with my son when he was a baby and he has no sleeping problems.

Answer 4

All babies need a lot of TLC (tender loving care). Although she is only 9 months old, she may still need some extra cuddling time at night or right before nap time.

I have a 15 year old who was sleeping through the night when he was 2 months old and never gave me any trouble. I also have a 22 month old who ends up in bed with us most nights.

Sometimes there is no rhyme or reason to the difference, but then again pay attention to your baby's needs. Does she get enough play time to help tire her out. Does she get enough interaction with you and feel secure enough to go to sleep when it is time?

I make it a habit of reading to my 22 month old. We started this early on. I also warn him and prepare his mind that it is almost time for bed. Before the last book, I tell him that it is almost time for him to go to sleep and that the books need to rest too. You may not think your 9 month old will understand this, but they understand a little more than you think. Just put it in simple terms. Believe it or not, he fusses a little bit, but he eventually got the idea. Mind you I still rock him to sleep, but he does also just lay down on his own sometimes too.

Answer 5

Why would you put her to bed when she's not tired?! Treat her like a human being--not like a baby... If someone took you to a country where you didn't speak the language, then put you in bed when you weren't tired and locked you in, you'd probably scream, too!! Your daughter *isn't* spoiled; she's trying to communicate, and you're just not listening.

Answer 6

what i do with my 4 month old and did with my 7 year old when they don't want to go to sleep is give them a bath. i add a little lavender and camomile to the water and let the sit for 10-15 mins and it winds them down, (the water is warm).

i get them out give them something to snack on and put them in bed and they are out in like 10 mins at the most

good luck

Answer 7

it may jsut be a boom spurt at 6 months they try this .. it very last for a week or so then it is going away notwithstanding the teething would not help both try feeding her cereal round 7-8 earlier mattress time she may be too hungry to sleep

Answer 8

well, it sounds like she is used to you picking her up when she cries. make sure she knows that you are there, put her in her crib and stand there with your back to her. every minute or two, step away one step. Then tomarrow start farther away. the next day further. She will be comforted knowing that you are there and hopefully get the idea that she is not alone. I know the crying is hard to listen to but, they are not going to learn. I had the same problems! good luck. get some sleep yourself! every parent of a young one needs that!

Answer 9

it is the age she is at right now. seperation anxiety has kicked in full force. she knows she will be away from you if she goes to bed and that is not what she wants. it is completely normal. try to establish a routine each night and keep her bedtime consistant. try a bath followed by a book. good luck!

Answer 10

Try to get her up during the day and less naps then at bed time at night she will be more ready...or with my son we say Jordan ready for night night and if he crys and runs we know he doesn't want to ..so we wait about 10 more mins or so and say it again and he will grab his blanket and off to bed he goes..