Being in the US military I have been able to travel the world, now I have slept with many woman word wide, while married. Should I tell her? We have two kids.
2006-07-03 23:58:35 · 51 answers · asked by Joey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I would like to thank all of you for answering, I never planned on telling her and I sleep very well at night. But I now know I will hurt her and our kids so I am going to stop sleeping with other women and finally be faithful. As for most of you I am a great soldier willing to die for my country, (something most of you will not do) and I am good at what I do. I only mentioned the military to show how I traveled. I know many great military men who do not cheat on their wives and other who do. That does not mean we all do. I always wore a condom and always played safe and I am clean. I have lied numerous times to my wife and once again I am good at what I do, always having the right answer and being two steps ahead of the game, that is how I never got caught and I know I would never get caught. I am only stopping cheating because I don't want to hurt her any more and lose my two wonderful kids. Once again thank you all you all have been very helpfull.
2006-07-06 04:23:56 · update #1
go die
2006-07-04 00:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by myra m 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
The question is why? Why did you sleep with all these women while being married. Do you have a problem with sex? Do you need help? Do you not love your wife and kids? Are you going to continue to do this? If you tell her, you will break all the trust and respect you've shared thus far. Your relationship as you know it will almost certainly be over. It will depend on her whether or not she will stay with you ( I certainly wouldn't but maybe she's a better person then me). You're children will most probably be devestated. If you are never going to do it again and you would like to keep your wife and kids then maybe you should not tell her. Go on your knees. Repent repent repent and then treat her like queen for the rest of her life bearing in mind that your secret could come out at any time. I hope it was worth it.
2006-07-04 00:09:17 · answer #2 · answered by SweetyPie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This absolutely pisses me right off. You are a married man, and your are fighting for our freedom. The US Military is not sending you around the world to get your rocks off with the first girl you see. Apparently you forgot the code of honor, and you dear sir have no integrity. I feel sorry for your commanders and all the troops that have to work for you and under you. If you can not honor your marriage and the woman that gave you 2 children then obviously you can not Honor this great military and this country. I am a military wife, and I am appalled by the fact that people think that we just sit at home knowing we are being cheated on. Many men and Women have respect for their marriages and do not cheat it is people like you that blackens our reputations as Military spouses. You not only need to tell your wife but you also need to get out of the military, we do not need scum like you.
2006-07-04 00:22:48 · answer #3 · answered by ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UHMMMMMMMMM First go get an H.I.V TEST... and if its negative and you really want a married life and you truly "think" you love your wife then yes the answer is tell her........ wht you thought i was going to tell you nahhhhhh leave the skeletons in the closet?? be a man and take the risk and see if your wife really loves you enough to forgive you... who knows? then you dont have to live with the guilt eating at you, year after, year after year.. or take a chance that she would find out any other way.... if you really love someone i dont see how sleeping with other people can take place...be a man tell your wife the truth .. hiding will make it worst.Or go ahead and be a coward and dont tell her...but at least make sure you from now and on can at least keep it in your pants and dont cheat on your wife anymore... and dont worry about the kids child support awaits the will be taken care of wheter you are there or not my guess is that you are going to be there...children should not keep marriage together love is what keep marriage alive. good luck. if you do stay with your wife respect her even when you are far away for love is strong enough to travel.....
2006-07-04 05:30:43 · answer #4 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want a divorce? Don't you think that your wife has sort of figured out that there may have been other women? You need to figure out your reasons for telling your wife this information now. If you have not been lying to her and telling her you were faithful - you need to approach this very carefully. If she has never brought the subject up - you need to approach this from a different angle. If you're in the Military there are Family Counselling Assistance and Ministry Assistance for Soldiers of all Faiths. Please don't just give her this information without assistance - to break up your family would be a disaster.
If you have not lied to her, she has never suspected anything, and now you want to tell her. You will need some assistance - to help your family get thru this traumatic period - still together.
If you feel you should tell her - tell her - please be careful, considerate, and available in helping your wife and children thru this.
2006-07-04 00:39:33 · answer #5 · answered by twinklecomfort 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being a military man myself, I am married and have two kids also, I would have to say that, man you ****** up but I will give you my advice. If you think that you can deal with the fact of not telling her(guilt) then I would definatly forget about telling her. Other then that if you two are very open with each other then I would tell her. It might be the best thing that happened. I personally wouldnt have made the same decision. Take care and good luck.
2006-07-04 00:04:41 · answer #6 · answered by hoebag82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had any balls at all you would stop your philandering ways and come clean with her and beg for her forgiveness, knowing full well that she will most likely leave you for all of this. Other than that think about this......All the time that you've had to **** around on the devoted mother of your children, she has had too. Food for thought.....think about some swinging dick grabbing, groping, mawling and bending over your wife while your away defending this country of ours. Let that thought rattle around in your pea brain the next time you drop your tighty whitys for some disease infested two bit floozy in some smoke filled overseas dive. Just a thought... have a great day
2006-07-04 00:24:00 · answer #7 · answered by rsqur 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should be honest and tell your wife if you really love her. She needs to be checked out to make sure she didn't catch anything from you. Just because you're in the military doesn't mean you can go sleep with other woman. Why did you get married if you were going to sleep around? You might lose your wife but, like they say if you let them go and they come back they're yours, if they don't come back then it was mean't to be. I think you should treat your wife with the respect she deserves especially being the mother of your child!
2006-07-04 08:39:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your wife you're a lowdown, cheating dog who can't keep his hormones under control or his zipper up. Then, tell your two kids their feelings, as well as their mother's feelings, and your promises made when you married her mean nothing to you, that's why you disrespected them and denied them their right to their hopes of a 'normal family'. Go above and beyond with being there for the children YOU created-and get ready to have your military earnings tapped till the kids are 18, or beyond. WAS THE STRAY WORTH IT?? Have a good life. You should be court-martialed, too.
2006-07-04 00:09:43 · answer #9 · answered by thatwench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I Love America, her people and her constitution and bill of rights, her optimism, and what is left of her freedoms, but, You are an idiot with more brains in your scrotum than in your head. You should tell her and then let her leave with the kids. You do not deserve her.
You spend your career fighting to protect the share values of the DOW Jones companies (making obscenely rich people even richer) and the spare time cheating on the mother of your children?
You are not fighting for freedom or democracy. So long as Diebold counts the votes, you don't even have democracy. The only freedom you are fighting for is the freedom of large multinationals to exploit the third world people's paying them less than a dollar a day so they can sell their products cheap at WallMart and putting American workers on the scrap heap in the process. Your country is sinking deeper and deeper into debt, and you are being sacrificed to try and pay for it.
You are not making America safer from terrorism either, you are breeding terrorists. for every good innocent person you kill in a foreign land, you are breeding another Western hating terrorist. Wouldn't you want to kill people who invade and kill innocent people in your country? and don't give me any of that 911 crap, your military was 'effectively' stood down that day! Those aircraft should never have gotten anywhear near those buildings. Especially the Pentagon! America is hated around the world, because of people like you.
You are what is wrong with humanity. You un-evolved idiot!
If in the future, some other intelligent life-form comes to earth and studies why mankind failed as a species, they will show a picture of you and thousands of others as dumb as you.
I wish they would declare a war and nobody show up to fight it. The American Senate and Congress people should fight their own wars, but they don't even have relatives involved. The days of a king leading troops into battle are long gone, it's easier for them to send idiots like you to fight THEIR wars for THEM!
When the power of love (not lust) overcomes the love of power, we will know peace.
Now I happen to LOVE America and her peoples, the bill of rights, the constitution. They are all being undermined and destroyed by the people who send you off to war.
Why allow your leadership to destroy your great nation?
2006-07-04 00:25:54 · answer #10 · answered by kenhallonthenet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I as a girl, would advise you as NO!
never confess as a woman NEVER forgives.
ignore all the others who say this or that, just never confess. if a woman loves a man, it means she gave you her trust. to breach trust in a woman is something that you will never never get back.
think of your kids and family. N E V E R C O N F E S S.....
I just hope you did not get any VD and that you learnet some nice new sex games out there in somalia, irak or god knows!!! .-)
2006-07-04 00:06:09 · answer #11 · answered by freespeechgal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋