I am in the navy and away for a while, I want to make My family feel whole again when I return, any advice?
2006-07-03 23:40:28 · 18 answers · asked by hoebag82 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your wife has been holding it all together while you have been gone. After the initial rounds of kisses and excitement and unpacking you probably want to just soak up your home for a little while. Talk to your wife. Ask her what she wants to do. Tell her you know she has had her hands full. She has a routine with the kids for eating, sleeping and playing. Dont just assusme you are going to change it all in day or two. Tell her you want to help her with the kids now and ask about their schedules. Everything will come together very well if you dont try to shoot her down from the position she has held for so long. I am not taking anything away from you and what you have been doing. That has been a job on its own. But she is not bringing the kids to your submarine. You are walking back into their world. So go slow and just reassure them of your love and ya'll should do fine. Welcom home sailor!
2006-07-04 01:20:56 · answer #1 · answered by Mache 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your upcoming return home. I'd suggest discussing it with your wife and deciding together what's best for the whole family. Be prepared to ease back into things rather than diving back in. It may take a while for you to get up to speed on what's going on with everyone and everyone will need a bit of time to adjust to being a two-parent family again.
When my husband is gone for a long period of time, I really resent him coming in and assuming he knows what's going on and what needs to be done when he hasn't been around to know the history and background of everything we've currently got going. I also resent the implication that I wasn't doing a good enough job with the kids, but now that he's back, he'll fix it all. Obviously it can be a sensitive transition!
Again, discuss it with your wife, and make sure she knows how much you appreciate her.
Best wishes for a happy reunion!
2006-07-04 06:50:53 · answer #2 · answered by Miss_M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a military wife:
Your wife has had to hold everything together. And she is tired from overresponsibility.
Be sure to: Make lots of time for family things OUTSIDE of the house...walks, parks, movies, water theme parks, shopping....believe me...she wants OUT of the HOUSE! WITH her man!
Be sure to: Fix all the stuff that is broken that she couldn't fix herself. Clean the garage and spruce up the yard. Tune up the car, clean the car...all those manly things that overwhelmed her and she didn't get done quite as good as you would have done.
Be sure to: Talk, listen, give lots of massages that don't have to end up in sex.
Be sure to: Thank her for the good job she has done managing YOUR family and life while gone. Relish in her new found pride in being able to thrive not just survive while you were gone.
Don't worry; she will be planning nice things for you to. Be prepared for some surprises...maybe a weight loss, new furniture, new hair color, a tattoo...or any other assortment of surprises!
2006-07-04 07:56:24 · answer #3 · answered by rachel_waves 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing you could do is sit them down and tell them what you went through while you were away (good and bad) this is the best theraputic thing you can do for yourself and them, and it will make them feel like they are a part of your life. If you had really bad experiences and you begin to cry (which I hope isn't the case) there is no better group of people to share such expressions with than your family because they will give you something shipmates can't--wholehearted love and support. Way better than going to a family therapist. After that, take them on a vacation somewhere. Guaranteed to bring your family together.
2006-07-04 06:47:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, wash ur feet when u get home, water the flowers, mow the lawn, wash the dishes, snoop around the neighbours, piss in the neighbours lawn, roundhouse kick the milkman, and the gardener just fof fun, have sex with the wife, bring the family shopping, drop by a family type restaurant and have lunch, then return home to finish up with the neighbours by killing off a few of them with a lethal roundhouse kick like Chick Norris, then late evening supper/ice cream with the family around the patio chit chatting about the adventures in the navy...
yep all in a days life at Wisteria Lane....lol
2006-07-04 06:47:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just love them and be with them. Just you coming home will make the family whole again. You don't have to do anything special, just being there will be enough. Spend time, talk, and just be a husband and dad and it will all work out. I wish you the best of luck also I would like to thank you for serving your country. We are lucky to have people like you, thank you.
2006-07-04 06:58:24 · answer #6 · answered by Badkitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to ease into the family again. Don't just come home and try to take over. Your wife has been taking care of everything while you have been gone.She has managed the bills, taken care of the children, etc. I'm sure they have their own routine.I think it would cause problems if you come home and just start taking over(not saying you will). Spend some time just getting to know your family again, then ease into the husband and father role.
2006-07-04 06:52:14 · answer #7 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think just seeing you and holding onto you will make them whole. They will be so happy, you don't need to do ANYTHING else. I'm so excited for you. That will be wonderful. Thank you for what you have done for me and my family from the bottom of my heart. I appreciate you. I hope you enjoy your time with your family. Take care.
2006-07-04 07:26:32 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should do 2 things-
(1)- In past 6 months,what u have missed; according to u.....
(2)- Give some time,& share some moments with ur family,try to know........... what they are expecting now with u.........?
Just do those 2 things.....
Problem should be resolved in simple way.......!!!
2006-07-05 03:31:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them a big hug and tells them how much you miss them... and make up their loss of your company by spending quality & precious time with your wife and children..
Bring your wife for a little gateaway if you can, to rekindle the passion..
Good luck!
2006-07-04 06:45:23 · answer #10 · answered by HaloVivian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋