why do we love somebody so much??

Question

i fell in love 4 yrs ago and now the girl is gone
i hav lost interest in life
i don't feel like doing anything
i am always depressed all the time.
i don't wanna live anymore

Answer 1

that happens when you lose someone whome you loved. but try to find a new person. there's always a person born for you. when you find her you'll automatically forget about your past. I'm talking with my experience. but remember don't compare the new one with your old love. it hurts. just accept what you have got and be happy

Answer 2

That is a complex question with a complex answer . I like the way Scott Peck explained it in his book "the road less traveled" it involves the seeking for connection with another and the temporary dropping of our ego defenses. I suggest you get the book and read it . Another good book on relationships and such is by David Burns "Intimate Connections" both books available on amazon or local used book store. They can give you a new perspective on relationships ,soul mates and that kind of stuff.
Hang in there you will meet someone else and do it all over again until you find the right one . Then it will most likely happen again (breaking up and going through hell .)
that may sound kinda cynical but I just got divorced and know it will all be okay again and I will be sitting on top of the world .OH some more unsolicited advise listen to some good blues about heart break but don't spend too much time before you move on again and listen to the upbeat stuff. (another recommendation Harry Nilsson's" Your Breaking my Heart you tore it apart so **** you"

Answer 3

I don't know what you mean by gone. But I did get some great advice when I got my divorce. You have to get up go out and be with yourself. Go to the movies, buy yourself an ice cream or what ever. Interact with other people no matter what. It will fill the void of no one being there. And eventually you will move on and live life happy again. Good luck friend.

Answer 4

A true love last FOR EVER but it hurt so when its blind and onesided , it took time to get over it , in love some times we win and some times we lose but you need to learn how you would been taking care of yourself .
Dont let nothing in the world bring you down be strong

Answer 5

This is the things will happen in love, but this is life, you have to live.
as time will pass you will come out of this depression. Well try to make new friends, it may help to forget the past.

Answer 6

Hey, I know how you feel, and I know that at the moment it sounds like bull, and its not gonna happen, but you will get over it eventually.Just take it slow, go out with your freinds, look around. Maybe you'll find someone interesting and realize its her youve been waiting for.

Answer 7

It's just a mutual understanding and agreement, you can find another person in the same way, life is not so simple to say I don't want to live..

Answer 8

i think, because we feel that the one we loved is the right person we can be together for the rest of our lives. but i had realized and experiencing the more gave love the more you got hurts. but that the essence of love. you will not feel love unless you not get hurt. like now, i got hurt because of loving him so much and it come to nothing.

Answer 9

You and about a million other people... It's called love, it happens... & most of the times it's gonna break your heart. Join the club...

Answer 10

To be honest get over it and get on with ur life go spread ur wings who knows you might find someone they say who dnt know how much something is special to u until you lose it and they also say you dnt know wat u been missing until it arrives .Yes you want to live you just need to start somewere and accept wat happened life is too short to be holding on to something that will never be