I am 33 years old. I was divorced 1 year as of June 28th. While my marriage was a train wreck that ended up in him leaving and cheating on me and blaming me for his actions, I still love him and cannot seem to get him off my mind even when I am trying to focus on moving on with or without a man in my life. I am ok, I KNOW this, but I still feel as though I DO want to be married and have children but I am worried that because I am a bit overweight that no man is going to look at my heart. To see how strong I am, how passionate I am and how much I love serving Christ and others. I'm not judgemental or a gossip.. I feel like I am a really good and MUCH stronger person.. Will this connection with my ex ever be released and will there ever be a wonderful man that will take the time to see me and not my weight? How do I REALLY move on?
2006-07-03 23:01:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Pray, ask Jesus Christ, and the Holy Spirit for strength and guidance thru this painful time. Maybe God (Jesus Christ) has given you a Blessing earlier than later - in finding out what type of man you had married. I know it's painful now - the pain will pass. If you are involved or a member of a church - is there a church singles group - a lot of churches have those - singles, divorced, widowed members of a congregation get together and socialize. I am not suggesting the Internet for dating - check the Internet for churches in your area that would have information regarding their singles ministry.
Please stop downing yourself because you're fat - most people that are small now - will be fat later. Jesus Christ has a fantastic life waiting for you to start living - for Him, for yourself, for your children, for your family, for your church, - if you make that move towards that life - He will do the rest - Go on with Jesus Christ!
2006-07-03 23:25:05 · answer #1 · answered by twinklecomfort 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for what your husband has put you through. You're a nice person and with time he'll realise what he has lost.
You have gone through so much heartache and pain that you need to give yourself time, time to love yourself whether fat or not (your self esteem shows that), time to do things for yourself, hobbies, whatever it may be. Get your self confidence back again and try to heal then look for a potential candidate.
You loved your husband too much and you probably alsways will but going back together with him will not change his cheating behaviours. So my advice is whether the connection is there or not don't go back to your husband or there'll just be too much pain.
YES there will be a man who will appreciate you for what and who you really are so don't worry about how you look like otherwise you'll just give yourself unnecessary headaches.
How do you move on? Go out and have some fun, do the things you love and get rid of everything that reminds you of your husband and lastly and most importantly pray to God for comfort and love and believe me God will heal your heart. Good luck and God bless and I wish you all the best that life has to offer.
2006-07-04 09:40:41 · answer #2 · answered by sweetdivine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you can find peace and harmony with a man you need to find that in yourself. You need to be comfortable on your own and not needing a man.
Sounds like you recognise your fatness is a problem for you as well. Why not get some help to diet and loose a bit?
Nothing just comes to us in this life we have to take steps to get what we want. That does not mean going out and grabbing a man it means making yourself attractrive to one, either with looks, personality or empathy.
If you come across as big committed Christian, born again or not, you will likely scare away about two thirds of the male population!
Good luck.
2006-07-04 06:17:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't focus on finding someone. Focus on spending time with God and finding out what He wants for you. I was engaged for 2-1/2 years to the wrong person and did a nosedive into depression after we broke up. But an older and wiser Christian told me what I'm telling you: Focus on God. Make Him the desire of your heart. If you are seeking Him, then He will give you everything you need to have joy, whether or not it will involve someone else. Just like Jesus said in Matthew 6, if we seek God's kingdom first, then everything else that we're worried about will fall into place. My prayers are with you.
2006-07-04 06:11:02 · answer #4 · answered by Pastor Chad from JesusFreak.com 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that a good Christian counselor would really benefit you. You have a lot of issues that need to be worked through before you can find love again. You say that you are a little overweight - take care of YOU - your body is a temple and should be treated as such. Get yourself squared away - get happy with you - and you will find love again.
2006-07-04 06:07:26 · answer #5 · answered by tieia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just move on any how there is more hope 4 u than u realize
2006-07-04 07:01:38 · answer #6 · answered by kaacee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't ''Really'' move on...no matter what there's always going to be something that'll remind you of him.
There's this lady at my church that this happened to her, but he left her for there maid and also left their kids with her.
She says she doesn't hate him anymore , but instead prays for him...
So my advice would be to just pray, pray and pray...
Hoped it helped...God Bless Ya
2006-07-04 06:07:38 · answer #7 · answered by dronus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
become a lesbian
2006-07-04 06:04:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋