I'm dating a guy who is 34 years older than me. I'm 20 and he is 53. I've been with him for since June of 2000 and thinking about coming out in public and letting everyone know because i really dont want to keep it bottled up inside anymore. I really do love him. Umm what do you guys think of this age gap? , how would you react?. I do know my dad would have a fit and dont know what he would do to him. I know the age gap is kinda big but not sure what to do. any advice would be great.
2006-07-03 22:04:41 · 7 answers · asked by Ginny C & Hobie D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So, when you met, you were 14-15, & this man was 47-48? Wow. I tend not to place too much stock on age differences, but if I were your father, I would probably be getting a life sentence in prison about 5 seconds after you told me. A father is going to look at this & believe this is a sick, old pedophile who took advantage of his baby girl, & there won't be a thing you will be able to say to change his mind. Honestly, if I were your dad, your mom would probably be trying to hide my Remington 870 12-gauge shotgun so I didn't go to prison, & prefer to just let me beat his head in with my fists. In short, this is not going to go well. Your relationship may never be accepted by your family, & may not be by his, either. I'm thinking about this right now, & I'm 32. If this practice were common, some girl might be growing my future girlfriend in her uterus as we speak. Disturbing thought. You'd better hope your parents can't file retroactive statutory rape charges on this man. I think this will ultimately force you to choose between your parents or this man. I'd recommend thinking long & hard about this, because there will be consequences, & you will have to be ready to face them like an adult. I wish you luck.
2006-07-03 22:31:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are too ashamed of your relationship to make it public you should not be together. For sure you will get all the feeble minded do good'ers telling you how wrong you are but if you know in your heart that this is right for you go for it and to blazes with what others think. Good luck to you both - my lady is 19 years younger than me and we could not possibly be more happy.
2006-07-04 05:18:15 · answer #2 · answered by U.K.Export 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U aint alone live example being padma laksmi & salman rushdie u will find some solace in d fact that love knoe no barriers; the only worry being that since ur asking this question u urself aint sure abt this relation. more than asking others u shud introspect and then decide
go ahead, indulge. life neva gives a second chance!
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2006-07-04 06:08:24 · answer #3 · answered by ][[[V i B e $]]][ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well look honestly i don't think there's anything wrong with it...if you don't care about the age gap then **** everyone else and just do it...if you love someone who cares what other people think...it's the you and him not you two and other people...it's your life, you live it like you want to, as long as you're happy and not really harming anyone knowing that it's wrong.
2006-07-04 05:16:33 · answer #4 · answered by disusi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's lasted this long, and it's been a secret? wow, i wouldnt be ashamed, tho, love is love.... you are of age now, so it's not gross, but, 14 and 48 doesnt quite sound as nice, good thing to have waited, i guess.
2006-07-04 05:14:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about it...when you were in your mothers womb, he was done with college!
2006-07-04 05:12:06 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Ms. Heart♥ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be careful
2006-07-04 05:10:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋