when love for you gets difficult what do you do?

Answer 1

One has to be ready for love as it takes a lot out of a person, changes in lifestyles is probably the biggest, because at that point in your life he/she should be the most important thing in your life. make a list....list the good things against the bad things. Then take into consideration what you have brought to the relationship to make it better. if the bad outweighs the good then its time for you to go. Try to wear the other persons shoes to see what they are feeling. no one ever said love was easy nor relationships. If you really love her show her. If you don't please tell her. I wrote these things down last nite to show my side of the dilemea...
How do I feel?

I don’t feel wanted. I don’t feel needed. I don’t feel like I am suitable, I don’t feel important, I don’t feel desired, I don’t feel like his world is my world, I feel like I am in competition with many women, I feel like my man can take or leave me at any moment, I feel like If I wanted to let it go he would not fight nor would he try to change my mind. I feel like a tool not someone who is loved or desired. There are times when I feel like he is here because it’s comfortable. I feel like he thinks I am crazy and don’t know ****. I feel like he thinks I am stupid or can’t see things. I feel like I am alone out here with no one on my side… I don’t feel like one in this relationship as a matter of fact I feel like an outsider.


What I want

I want to be loved and know that I am loved. I would like every now and then to feel the warmth of my mans hands around my arms. without having to place them there myself I would like to know that my man loves me and not have to guess at it all the time I want us to be one. I want to go to bed with a smile knowing that I am loved and desired. I want to be able to feel my man when he isn’t near me. I would love for us to put all our resources together so we can grow. I would like for him to smile and laugh with me as he does with others, I would love for my man to want me every night like he did when we first got together. I would love not to have to be the one to start a sexual encounter. For once let it be his desire. It seems if I never take a step to lovemaking it would never happen. How do you answer that? When you start making love two three times a day and boil down to nothing….would it not make u think that your man was somewhere else.

It would be nice

If I could come home sometimes and he is already home waiting for me not calling me on the phone checking to see if I made it yet. It would be nice to have a sexual encounter with my man and not feel like it was all my idea. It would be nice if he made me feel like I was the only woman in his life and that there is no other that could change that. it would be nice to know that my man doesn’t need any outside female influence to feel whole. It would be nice to know that I am all that he needs and he desires. It would be nice not to have women contact me telling me they ****** my man at their will. It would be nice to never have to be subject to having to worry about such things because my man makes me feel like there is no other woman who he cares about more than me.

If this world were mine…

I would smile every time I saw my man. I could see the joy I bring him in his eyes. We would want nothing more than to be in each others arms twenty four seven. We would do things and make expenditures together taking into consideration our total objective to better our living standards.

What hurts?

It hurts every day when I think about how much he doesn’t love me. It hurts when I am approached by strangers about his sexual encounters with them. It hurts even more when he insults my intelligence by simply laughing when I ask him about it. It hurts when we have a disagreement and he rather walk away instead of figuring out how we can fix it. It hurts when I think of how beautiful love can be and I see how far I am away from it.

It hurts to be in love!!!

Answer 2

I try to keep and open mind and think about all the positive stuff. In a relationship, I think about everything the person has done, in place of focusing on what they have not done. Looking for love, I just kept and open heart and mind and landed the greatest guy! :D

Answer 3

you try to get past the difficulties but together with the other person.
if however it is the kind of problem that will just give you endless heart ache walk away and never look back

Answer 4

i look at my wife
and thank god for her
love is ment to be hard
it shows how much you care for a person
when you stick thought the hard times
just look at it this way the good will always overlook the the bad

Answer 5

pray and ask GOD to give me the ability to love how he loves us unconditionally

Answer 6

well u gotta try n work it out...if not ish it wasn't meant to be....move on wit ur life...

Answer 7

PLEASE RE ASK YOUR QUESTION .....
WHAT DO YOU MEAN
PLEASE BE SPECIFIC AND SAY WHAT IS DIFFICULT, YOU HAVE GONE THIS FAR FOR ANSWERS SO PLEASE SAY WHAT THE DIFFICULTY IS

I AM SURE MANY OF US MAY UNDERSTAND, AND HAVE SOME FEEDBACK THAT WILL HELP YOU OK]

DONT BE SHY , BE SPECIFIC PLEASE

Answer 8

smoke cigarettes, but I am open to other ideas.

Answer 9

go shopping

Answer 10

let it go.better one will come