After I had my baby I have went up to a D cup. My friend...a girl...has mentioned a couple of times how big my breasts are and I feel as if she is constantly staring at them. What should I do or say in a polite way next time this happens
2006-07-03 20:43:41 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Okay how can I be jealous...learn how to spell it dummy
2006-07-03 20:47:46 · update #1
I went from a 34B to a 36D when I got pregnant.
EVERYONE I know has noticed, and made MANY comments.
"Aha, the Titty Fairy has come to visit!"
"Wow, yer knockers are HUUUGE now!"
"Will they go back?"
"Are your nipples bigger too?"
"Did you have to take out your piercings?"
"I like pregnant/nursing lady boobs. Sorry, couldn't help myself."
I was offended at first, like OMG, this lady just remarked how big my boobs were IN FRONT OF HER 19 YEAR OLD SON!!
But now I realize, people think this is THE only time they'll be able to get away with staring, making comments... Big full pregnant/nursing breasts must be appealing, even to women. They can't stop staring either. Try not to be so uncomfortable, realize your beautiful body is growing and changing, and it's all out of your control. People are going to look.
If it really, Really bothers you, just tell her it does. Polite? How about "Please don't make comments about my breasts anymore... I know they're changing, but I'm sort of shy/awkward right now, it's weird... embarassing..." Trail off, let her know it's uncomfortable for you. She probably doesn't realize it bothers you.
Congrats on your baby!
2006-07-03 20:55:06 · answer #1 · answered by happy-dance 2 · 9⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do think it's rude. I don't know what your relationship is like with your friend. But, from the little bit that you've said, she seems to feel comfortable saying and doing things that embarrass you (she must see your uncomfortable reaction to her comments and stares) and you feel uncomfortable with confronting her about it. Normally, it would be enough to say, " I know that my breasts have gotten bigger after I had my baby (every woman's does and she should know that) and that you've been staring at them and making comments. I feel uncomfortable when you do that." Most people would respond, "Oh. I'm sorry. I'll quit doing that".
If your friend doesn't respond that way, it may be because she likes being dominant over you. Then she may respond by being defensive and telling you that you are being overly sensitive and by minimizing your concerns. If she does that then you have to quit worrying about her feelings and tell her that it's rude of her to do that and that you want her to stop.
Like I say, I don't know your friend and I don't know how she'll react. But if she reacts by putting the blame on you and arguing with you, then you need to not argue but stick to your guns and demand she stop that behavior. Once she learns that she can't push you around she will either be much nicer to you in the future or look around for someone else she can dominate. God bless you.
I hope that all that's necessary is for you to say, " I feel uncomfortable when you do that." By the way. It's best not to wait until she does that again. If you do, both of you will feel more uncomfortable. It's often best to work it into the conversation the next time you see her.
2006-07-04 05:01:54 · answer #2 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its rude. I also have a D cup and I get comments all the time. It makes me feel very weird too. People will always look at them and comment.
2006-07-04 03:47:26 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think comments about breast size are rude no matter what size you are. I notice its normally girls who make fun of me (for being small, but either way its still very rude). Maybe they're just jealous.
2006-07-04 03:50:51 · answer #4 · answered by solitusfactum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl you got so just flaunt, buy the best and perfect bra size cause if you wear a good fitting bra you feel good and your breast will look good so be happy they are big cause my ones are very tiny...
2006-07-04 03:49:39 · answer #5 · answered by Thobie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think you have it bad, know that i get comments about my breast size all the time...and i'm a man!
2006-07-04 03:50:04 · answer #6 · answered by ugafan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is very rude
2006-07-04 03:50:27 · answer #7 · answered by der_grosse_e 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just let her be and ignore it. She maybe just jealous or ignorant.
2006-07-04 03:51:50 · answer #8 · answered by Just come a while 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT IS RUDE HIT EM WITH THEY PAY THE RENT...
2006-07-04 03:47:18 · answer #9 · answered by Penney S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her wat r u staring at and if she says your breasts well then tell her to stop because she is freaking you out.
2006-07-04 03:48:25 · answer #10 · answered by aldoc_69_co 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋