she is so hot and cold with me. one day i'll see her and she's happy to see me and wants to chat. other days i'll see her and she hardly speaks to me. she also makes comments when i have new clothes like "is that ANOTHER new coat?". she also acts funny when i talk about finishing uni and going overseas on holiday. it's almost like she is jealous or something. what should i do? should i say something to her?
ps - i'm 25 and i don't live with her, i live with my boyfriend.
2006-07-03 20:29:03 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'd say that your mom is in her 40's and that is a very challenging age. Some women go through many hormonal changes and these variations lead to physical and emotional transitions. Mild emotional effects like mood swings, weight gain, etc., can be treated with easier options (change diet, exercise, yoga, etc.), but there are more severe effects like depression, anxiety, fatigue, etc. that require special attention.
To this add physical problems (osteoporosis, cholesterol, etc.), you need to understand that maybe she needs your help, because she can't control the involuntary acts of her body.
Try talking to her and express your concerns. Hopefully she'll agree to take a full psychical and psychological check-up. One way or the other she'll feel much better knowing that you're with her ... God Bless.
2006-07-03 21:53:01 · answer #1 · answered by missanti 1 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Your mom may be a little envious. You are the best judge, you know how her life is right now, if she has at least some good things that she likes - or if she is dissatisfied.
She may be wondering "why didn't I get to do all these great things? why did I not have those opportunities?". she may even not realize she is feeling like this...
I don't think confronting her would be very useful. Perhaps it would be better to take some time with her, a small vacation together may be very useful, and help her see what is wrong.
That would also be helpful if she is just worried she'll miss you madly!!!!
There is a time when we grow up, when we can start being peers with our parents: it looks like that time has come for you.
2006-07-04 03:37:34 · answer #2 · answered by OneLilithHidesAnother 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When was the last time you told her you loved her? Also that you appreciate how much she has done for you, and what sacrifices she has made so that you can have a better life than she has had. She is concerned that you are wasting money, and damaging your future because you see having a good time as more important than getting an education. Like most parents she has gone without herself so you can enjoy life, and she sees you as repaying her by wasting opportunities that come your way.
2006-07-04 23:20:04 · answer #3 · answered by Nofret 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably just misses you... "acts funny when i talk about finishing uni and going overseas on holiday"... she def. misses you when you go overseas. Just make a point to give her all of your attention now and again. Maybe take her out to the mall and let her pick something out and then take her to dinner. Just make her feel loved. lol
2006-07-04 03:33:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she may be a double-minded person... loving (positive) attitude/opinion & critical (negative) attitude/opinion... all in the same mind.
I've known people who are double-minded & here's a small example>>> these potatoes taste good, but they sure are lumpy.
They're easily confused people & can cause others to be insanely confused... the more they talk to you, the more they confuse you.
If that doesn't sound like your mother, then she's undoubtedly jealous... at times.
2006-07-04 03:45:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe at this time your mother is going through Menopause...it can trigger moods and emotions all the time. Maybe if you brought her a gift like something your wearing it might make her feel better. Just ask if shes feeling okay...pretend you noticed something different...if something is ,,,she may tell you
2006-07-04 04:59:17 · answer #6 · answered by Chocolate_Bunny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes missing you...if bitter things hv happened btween u and her then clear it..give her importance....
2006-07-04 04:00:03 · answer #7 · answered by enlighten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she feels left out of your life.
2006-07-04 12:40:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there isn't much you can do give her the silent treatment when she is shitty next so she can see what she is doing
2006-07-04 03:34:50 · answer #9 · answered by seahag09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say to her what you feel,all the heartaches that lies within your heart.ask her why she is doing that to you.
2006-07-04 03:35:14 · answer #10 · answered by eloisa m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋