i just got my girl friend pregnant what do i do?i am 14!!?

Question

i just am so lost i am only 14!!!
WHAT?
abortion?

oh and i did use a condom IT BROKE!!!!!!!!

what if she wants to get an abortion?

Answer 1

well if she is really pregnant just keep screwing until you find a solution it wont make it worst and it'll get ride of the tension.

Answer 2

Oh, cripes. How I hope this is a prank posting.

Well, because she's the one who's pregnant, it's going to be up to her to decide what to do. The awful truth is that all you can do is stand on the sidelines and wait.

If she decides to have and keep the baby, that means that her parents will most likely be raising the child...but you will be ultimately responsible for seeing that it has food, clothing, shelter, medical and dental care and education. The laws regarding your responsibility differ from state to state, but I feel that you have, at least, moral responsibility. I sense that you feel that way, too.

You don't say how old your girlfriend is, but I'm imagining that she's within a year or two of you. If that's the case, she's much too young to raise a child on her own, and would need help every single day. But, the guilt of an abortion is often too much for a young girl to endure.

You are both going to need all the help and advice you can get. You mustn't be shy about asking for it!

I wish you both good luck in sorting this out, and I hope this really is a prank posting.

Answer 3

Tie it in a knot. You have broken the law. How old is your girlfriend?

If you're both 14 or under, you won't be mature enough to make decisions (hence the whole having sex and getting pregnant to begin with - not mature). You really need to speak to an adult. If you can't speak to your parents, go with your girlfriend to a doctor. Be there for her. A doctor cannot reveal the information due to anyone else because of their privacy policy.

Whether or not you decide on an abortion after the appointment or not, it's completely up to the both of you. But definately get some advice first.

You never know, it may be a false alarm.

Answer 4

Dude, having sex at 14? Seriously, you've learned not only why abstinence is best, but also why so many people tell you to wait. Congratulations, you've just been told that you've decided to grow up.
Personally, I think abortion is a terrible option just because you guys screwed up. Adoption is a better choice. I've got to say that keeping the kid at your age is probably a bad idea. However, you've got to work through this with her and your parents. I'm betting that things are going to get real tough here soon and no matter what you choose, you're going to have to live with the consequences of your actions for the rest of your life.
Yahoo answers is not the place to go to figure this problem out.

Answer 5

I'm sorry to hear that. I think we shouldn't stop and look back at the past but face the future instead. I don't suggest you to have an abortion. It's not fair to kill a helpless small tiny little life to pay what you two have done. I would say, you'd better nurture the baby until it's born and give him/her away for adoption. You know.. there are a lot of people in this world who are longing for the newborns to come into their family :) I think this is the best solution for everyone. Good luck!

Answer 6

this is a no brain-er! ABORTION! they are safer now then they ever have been before. you can get medi-cal to pay (i think). the procedure takes less than 1 day( about three hours total).
you don't want this, trust me. your too young. it is not murder it is a sI'mple medical procedure. if you had a time machine im sure you would go back and use three condoms. but i don't own a time machine, do you ?they also have the abortion pill. its called the day after pill and you can get it at Walgreen's or save-on for like 60 bucks. chalk it up as a learning experience.
what about adoption? you gf is not going to go through the pregnancy and then just give up her baby. ABORTION! tell your parents before it gets any later.unless they are religious freaks that would want you to marry her. good luck

Answer 7

You are only 14! First of all, QUIT HAVING SEX!!! Playing adult games yields adult consequences, as you have just learned. So better go talk to your parents and get an after school job to pay for diapers. You have 18 years of child support ahead of you. And don't even think abortion! Your stupid mistake landed you here. Don't go killing your child just because you stupidly had sex. That baby deserves life. If nothing else, consider adoption. Either way, both of you need to tell the parents NOW.

Answer 8

Dude you should've used a condom!!!! but get her on the pill before its too late.. or maybe it is too late already. Abortion is not very good i mean yes she wont have the baby but she will have to take the risks of the surgery. Talk to your parents about it, im sure they will Freak at first but then understand and help you out because your way too young to be a father and young for her to be a mother. You shoulvde waited on the sex, yout too young and yeah hormones rage at that age but just control yourself and if your going to have sex again USE A CONDOM!!!

Answer 9

Maybe you should have thought about that before you had unprotected sex!!! Deal with the consequences, that is what you should do...its time for you and your little girl friend to grow up, and fast...you just threw your childhood out the window, because from now on, it is no longer about you or her...it is about the baby!! Maybe next time you and your girlfriend will think about using protection and being responsible if you are going to have sex at such a young age...dont look for sympathy here...you know what can happen when you dont use protection....!!! Thats your fault!

Answer 10

I know this is a tough situation. I will try to give you as much facts as I can. It's going to be blunt, but you asked for advice.

First, are you SURE she is pregnant? Has she missed a period, had a positive pregnancy test? If not, run to the store and get a pregnancy test AND condoms.

See, if you think she's pregnant, she's not, and you're still having sex, then she might Really get pregnant.

So, SPEND A FEW BUCKS, and BUY SOME CONDOMS!! Trust me, the price of a box of condoms is WAY cheaper than the price of a baby or pregnant girlfriend... If she's already pregnant anyways, keep the condoms, you'll use them eventually. Or maybe you could give them to your buds.

Next, talk to your parents AND hers, WITH her next to you, together, at the same time. The two of you got yourselves into the situation, you should face BOTH sets of parents TOGETHER like the adults you were acting like when she got pregnant... It will be alright, I'm sure someone's gonna get angry and start yelling, it's bound to happen. Just stay calm, try to stay on top of your emotions, and tell them what's up.

Discuss with Both sets of parents what you and your Girlfriend are going to do.

Her parents may want you to support her now... You might need to get a job... at all costs, though, Start tucking money in the piggy bank now. You're gonna need it here pretty soon.

See, the thing is, if your girlfriend does have an abortion, it's going to cost money. Around $200-$20,000 depending on the circumstances. It might not be what she wants, if she doesn't want it, she doesn't have to get it. No matter what you, her parents, or your parents say. It's her body, it's her decision. Talk to her about it.

If the two of you decide to give the baby up for adoption, that's grand, I think you might still have to pay hospital bills though. Delivering in a hospital can cost up to $20,000 as well. Though it can cost much less, especially if she has some kind of insurance, or if the adopting parents are willing to set something up.

If you decide to keep the baby, obviously there's the hospital (up to $20,000), there's diapers, bottles, clothes, doctor's visits all the time, immunizations, car seats, strollers, highchairs, baby food, baby wipes, teething rings, extra paper towels and lysol... That gets expensive. It's hard, it's tough, but you could do it if the two of you wanted to.

Just look at it this way.

Now you know about sex, you know how easy it is/could be to get someone pregnant. Don't regret the situation, look at it as a learning experience. If you get out of this one and your girl's not prego after all, then you've learnt your lesson young - USE PROTECTION, or Don't Do it At All.

If you are having a baby with her, it's going to be hard. Even if she gives it up, it's going to be hard. Even if she has an abortion, it's... going to be Hard. This is a tough thing you've got in front of you, but it's not impossible.

If you show your family and hers that you can step up to the plate and take responsibility for your actions, that means you're growing up. Everyone has to do this, growing up thing. Some people do it earlier than others. It'll be ok.

Pregnant girls cost money.
So do babies.

But so do CD's, clothes, cars, and fun stuff like that.

Life is messed up, people have things happen when they least expect them.

You've just got to press on, and live your life as best you can, and do right by others. You owe it to yourself, your girl, and your baby to do your best now. However you do your best, it's better than giving up.

Stay strong. If you want to talk about how to deal, you can email me. [e-mail].

*edit*

Just saw the detail about you using a condom. Much respect, you did try. Sometimes things happen... when you have sex.

Answer 11

us young people dont know what we are doing so in that case you should talk to your girlfriend no abortion and next time use a condom realy its a big problem we are not yet ready to do sex and always think about the negatives