2006-07-03 19:53:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
About something bad that happen during my childhood. Now that I am an adult she finally told me the truth what should i say to her now...
2006-07-03 19:59:46 · update #1
That question has a different answer for every person. However you can either choose to accpet the truth and work on dealing with the emotions that this new situation has brought you or you can dwell on the hurt and anger of being lied to untill you can work past that and deal with the new situation. Time heals all wounds and she will always be your mother, no matter how much she hurts you. Always remeber that and it will help. TRUST ME. :D From someone who knows.
2006-07-03 21:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 1⤋
I would sit down and discuss the particular issue/s in question with her, find out the reasoning, and how she feels about it all now.
If she continues the lie, obviously there is no trust, and I don't know how much relationship with her can be salvaged.
If she own's up to it/them, explains her reasoning (whether you agree or not), and apologizes for the harm it has caused you, forgive her and give her another chance. Let her know you expect her to be straightforward from that point on.
Good luck!
2006-07-04 02:58:21 · answer #2 · answered by Pichi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on why she felt she needed to lie.Was it to keep you from harm or from getting hurt.Clearly more details are needed if you want us to give you an honest answer. Your mother may have been trying to portect you and if that is the case chalk it up to mothers make mistakes and she at least admitted she did so she can't be all that bad.
2006-07-04 03:08:12 · answer #3 · answered by yahoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because I don't know what the lie was litterally about I can't give a specific answer.
I would say you should confront her bout your feelings in the matter. Get her reasons for keeping the lie all those years..........
Don't judge her though.....She is your mother and not your peer.
2006-07-04 03:08:10 · answer #4 · answered by sandra_k19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please let me know what info you find out. I discovered after my mother died that she had lied to me my entire life about numerous things. Now I can't say anything to her. It's very frustrating. I can tell you now, if you know for sure that she lied to you, you need to confront her and tell her how it makes you feel. Or you will never have any peace over it. Let me know ok....slvrct1@yahoo.com
2006-07-04 03:04:22 · answer #5 · answered by slvrct1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why, kindly, and wanting to know in order to understand her - not just to make her account for "wronging" you. She must have her own hurts that made her lie - possibly to protect you as much as herself. But she washed your nappies, and comforted you when you cried, didn't she? Do the same for her, in effect. You will grow.
2006-07-04 03:00:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say I was pretty angry and upset. Is your mother an alcoholic? It depends on what she lied about - and are you sure she did lie?
2006-07-04 02:58:25 · answer #7 · answered by limeyheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends maybe she was trying to protect you give her a chance let her explain. have an adult talk with her. dont say anything hateful. you will regret it.
2006-07-04 03:00:39 · answer #8 · answered by Make Love Not War! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what it's about? Your dad? You're Adopted? Santa?
2006-07-04 02:56:01 · answer #9 · answered by akamoonpie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be pissed off but I would forgive her, especially if she had a good explanation of why she lied.
2006-07-04 02:57:02 · answer #10 · answered by hotmama3712 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋