ummm what do i do?

Question

what do i do i am 15
and i got my gf pregnant and idk what to do!!!
what about an abortion

Answer 1

you should stay in school and try your hardest to try and support your child... dont tell your gf to get a abortion... that shouldnt be your decision that should be a decision that you both should make... but the most important thing if to finish your education because without atleast a highschool diploma you will get nowhere in this world anymore... people are not willing to teach people a job anymore like they used to...

Answer 2

What you should have done is used protection... you wouldn't be on here saying " Um what do I do? I'm sure you are not ready for marriage let alone a baby but now you have to grow up and make grown up decisions, if you have already thought about abortion, you really should be thinking of your gfs thoughts on this, she is the one that will not have a normal life again with out this on her chest forever. There are other options besides killing an innocent baby. Adoption, there are open adoptions where you can keep in touch with the baby and know the baby is safe with a happy couple because you two can decide whom you want to be responsible parents for your baby. On the other hand, your gf will be very emotional over this and the least you could do is stand by her side through thick and thin even if you do not get married. It takes two to tango, it takes two to clean up the situation. I agree on finishing school and going to college either way. I guess using protection wasn't such a bad idea was it? God bless this baby and you both as well, I hope what ever you do, you all decide on this together and do what is best but remember, the child will grow up one day and want to know why you didn't want him/her. I hope you have the decency to at least let this child have any info on you for their own medical records and just so the empty feeling they will feel will not hurt so bad.I hope you do not abort. This world is so disposable now days and it's a shame it has to be on humans as well :(

Answer 3

Abortion is a tuff issue. If you think you have ruined her life and yours now, just tell her to get an abortion. It will screw her up for life. Can you say chemicle imbalance and depression like no other. She may not forgive you for a while about getting her pregnant but it was a risk you both took. Get ready to grow up and fast. She would never forgive you about "your" decision for her to get an abortion. I know it sounds like the end of you life, but its really not that bad. Just take it in stride. and the I dont want to talk to my parents because I screwed up attitude is wrong. They are your parents, they have been through this pregnancy thing before. THEY can help. there are many organizations that are glad to help in your situation. These days this is a normal thing and although you may be frightened and ashamed, they can help. Look at it this way... When you failed that last final in school, did you give up and drop out? Probably not. You looked back and told you self you should have studied more. Do some sole searching and make sure your intentions are pure. Accept that you used poor judgement and move on. If you think that she needed you when she beconed you to slip between the sheets with her, then just wait. Shell need you now more than ever. honesty is the best approach with yours/ and her parents. try your best and you wont regret it. Your life isnt over. My wife got pregnant at 15 and now our son is eight. We also have a five month old daughter. Some sacrifices have to be made especially with the unexpected things like pregnancy, but youll be able to live your live non the less. We are just now getting our lives in order and going to college but at least we are still young.. Most of our peers are just now in the nidst of college and so we arent far behind. just take things in stride. You have already made the first step in asking for someone elses opinion, dont stop now and dont give in to selfish ambitions.

Answer 4

The abortion is on her! You are not the one to decide. You know that if she has an abortion now , she might not be able to have a child in the future? And an abortion is really pain full! Why didn't you take protection? Gosh! You are 15! Couldn't you wait till you are 18? It's 3-4 years. You should discuss it with your and her parents. BEFORE IS TO LATE .THE ABORTION WILL NO BE THE SOLUTION AFTER SOME MONTHS! only BIRTH

Answer 5

When I was 16 I had an abortion, and now almost 10 years later, it weighs heavy on my mind. I know thinking about the future is really hard to do right now, but I am talking from experience. I thought when I had my abortion that things were very simple, get it done and forget about it. And I did for many years, until I got married and wanted to have kids. I have had two miscarriages since then and gave birth to a beautiful baby girl age 6 now. My husband and I would love to have more children, but for some reason, we are not able to. It brings me to a place of guilt and regret. If I would have kept that child at least I would have two. If I would have given the child up for adoption, maybe I would be able to have more kids now, you know the movie Pay It Forward??

I would like to suggest that you look into adoption, there are many homes that would love the chance to give your baby a home, as my home is one of the many. If you would like to talk more or would like to contact me, please feel free to do so. My messenger name is someonesmominmichigan2000.

I would suggest talking to someone that you trust and let them know that she is pregnant, there are places in your area that can offer more assistance because they will know the resources open to you. Also talk to your girlfriend, she may want to keep the baby, but together you need to talk about what you are going to do. Whatever she decides, you need to support her choice.

Answer 6

Don't get an abortion. You are scared now, But when the baby comes, things will change! Stay in school, try to get a job (some states let 15 yr wk) and be a good role model for the baby. If you abort it, you will regret it later. You will never forget.

Answer 7

Talk to the girl. She may not want the abortion. I got pregnant at 14. I kept the baby. Best thing I ever did! If I had not gotten pregnant, I would be in jail or a druggy. I do not have a single person in my family who does not do drugs. My son got me away from that

Answer 8

Be man enough to take responsibilities. Abortion is definitely not an answer. Talk to your parents and tell them about it. You may think that you have the most problem then think again. It's your girlfriend who will suffer most now. Talk to her parents about supporting her and your kid. This time you have to be serious in life. Study and at the same time find a job to support them. It is not your parents nor her parents obligation to support your own family. it was your choice so you have to face the consequences.

Answer 9

You guys need to sit down and talk about it. You may want something that she doesn't want. But if your mature enough to have sex and get someone pregnant than YOU MUST be mature enough to sit down and figure out your goals in life and what w/this pregnancy you need to do for BOTH of you to obtain them.
I hate to say but ultimately it is her decision...since it's her body. But you have to be supportive in whatever way. You being careless got you in the mess...so now turn around and be responsible and do what is right. If aborition is best for both of you I can't tell you not to. Most will but it's what you need to do for both of you. If you both want to go to college and have careers then that may be your only choice.

Just promise whatever you decide that the next time you have sex you will be responsible and use protection. If she says she is on the pill don't beleive it unless you watch her take it everyday. Be safe and most of Good Luck this at 15 y.o. will be the biggest decision you will make in your life.

Answer 10

you tewo need to talk and deside together. it is her body after all. if you are old enough to have sex then you should be prepared for the consquences that follow. if you choose abortion there could be alot of emotional distress for the both of you. if you choose to keep the baby you have 40 weeks to ge ready fro your new arrival. both of you should sit down and lay out a plan for your futures. after you deside talk with your parents to see if you ahve thier support. most important finish school and go to college get a job. both of you get a job see if a grandparent will care for child while you go to school and go to work or resonable $ daycare. there are many assitance programs for daycare, food stamps,finacial assitance. grants for college. do whats smart for you both. i am personally against abortions but everyone has to make their own choices. good luck. i had my first child at 20 and i enjoy every minute. if you deside to have an abortion counseling would be good. if you keep it parenting classes would be good.