my daughter has duplication of tubes between bladder and kidneys. the md's going to fix it but she says she doesn't want the surgery and would rather keep taking antibiotics for the rest of her life-only problem she forgets to take them or lies to me and tells me she already took it. how do i prepare her for this. help!!
2006-07-03 19:29:31 · 9 answers · asked by nenarmz 2 in Health ➔ Other - Health
It is important for her to know that she cannot take antibiotics for the rest of her life. She will eventually grow immune to them and then they will not help her anymore which could lead to her death. No one wants to have surgery but somethings in life are simply unavoidable. Also explain to her that she will recuperate easier and faster at this age than when she is an adult or is very ill because the antibiotics no long work. Tell her she doesn't want to spend all her life ill and that problems with her bladder and kidneys could also impact her ability to have babies when she is older.
Please feel free to contact me or let her contact me for any further help.
2006-07-03 19:37:17 · answer #1 · answered by ilse72 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
U can tell her if she does not go for the operation, she will have more health problems in the future, related to Kidney & Bladder, which is more painful and she were to go to even more complicated opereration.
And taking antibiotics cannot solve the problem, as it is also harmful to her body. Any medician is not good for health, peole take because they have no choice. Since now she has a choice, why not?
Ask her why she does not want operarion. Scared of the pain ot what? Try to talk to her and get know what is she thinking and answer her questions, so she will be reassured
2006-07-04 02:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by a V a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had over twenty surgeries in my short life. I can honestly tell you that you should tell her the truth. If she is scared about the pain drs. give some meds so it wont hurt. I normally get meds to help w/ nausea b/c my stomach gets upset thinking about it. The drs normally understand and are pretty friendly. Plus sometimes they allow a parent to hold the childs hand until its time to go back and even then there's usually a nurse to hold on after that. Hope that helps. PS. make her room a little more comfy for when she gets home. That helps out a lot to.
2006-07-04 02:40:11 · answer #3 · answered by Taya85 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one! When I was 8, I had to have my tonsils removed and was very scared but I had a very kind doctor. She loaned me a book to read about a kid who had their tonsils out. After I read it, I wasn't scared anymore because I knew exactly what was going to happen and that everything would be fine. You may not be able to find a book that covers your daughter's exact surgery, but you can probably find one about an apendictomy or gallbladder surgery - something near the same area where she will have her surgery.
You can also share with her fears you've had of medical procedure but how you knew they'd help you so you endured them. For instance, giving birth to her may have been pretty scary and you really didn't want to go through all that pain but it was worth it because you got her.
Also, I am sure that her doctor would be willing to sit down with your daughter and answer all of her questions.
It also does not hurt to offer a reward after she has her surgery. My parents gave me a my first bicycle after I had my surgery!
2006-07-04 02:41:48 · answer #4 · answered by runningviolin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lie to her. Be the mom and tell her this is what she's going to do because it's what she needs to do. Remind her that you would never put her in harm's way and that you'll be there when she wakes up. I also think having her talk privately with the doctor would help her. She could open up about her fears without you being there to "judge" her. Best of luck!
2006-07-04 02:37:34 · answer #5 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well taking those drugs might cause liver damage, so u have to weight up the prons and cons with her, since i would recommend getting it done.
but it would best to sit down with a doctor to have it all explained.
hope this helps.
2006-07-04 02:33:26 · answer #6 · answered by Paultech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simply convince her . . .if shes a hardheaded girl tell her that she will die young if she doesnt have a surgery.... dnt let your child decide about that problem...u know the best for her weather she like it or not ...she has no choice...ur still her mother
2006-07-04 02:36:02 · answer #7 · answered by SAM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hummm. just tell her it wont hurt or take long and that she wont have to take those pills. you might have your preacher talk to her to.
2006-07-04 02:33:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you lie to her... tell her she will die soon if she doesn't.... and when that doesn't work, tell her the truth... and when that doesn't work, tell her she has no choice, and then stick to it.... and then love her and cherish her always.
2006-07-04 02:34:00 · answer #9 · answered by nimkiw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋