It seems to be evident that a guy would like a girl who is really intelligent, has big goals, and can take care of her self. It seems, however, that guys are always with the dumb, empty minded, dependant (upon mommy and daddy) type girls. The dumb dependant girls that I know are always told that they are so CUTE and I am in the background gagging. My friends and I are very attractive, intelligent, pay our own way, and have big goals in life. We are always told that we are so awesome and different from most girls (ie the dumb depdnt ones) however...the catch is we are all single. what gives?!
2006-07-03 19:12:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Being motivated, educated, and hot is great. Are you too intimidating to approach? You might try asking men out, then.
Calling other girls "dumb and dependent" makes me think you might come off as a little full of yourself, which is absolutely the kind of girl I would avoid at all costs. Sorry to be so blunt.
To continue the bludgeoning - Are you certain you're attractive? Women seem to be confused about what a man finds attractive. Let me make it easy for you: If you see a girl that you have never met before but instantly dislike, she's probably hot. Do you look as good as her? :)
Anyway, unless you're a real b***h, being attractive is enough, and you should be getting dates. Hell, even if you *are* a real b***h, you should be getting dates. Just not from guys that like you for who you are. :P
2006-07-03 19:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by mills_pow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a good look at the guys who're dating the cute dependent immature girls. Are they intelligent and attractive and mature and know where they're going in life?
I agree that this is really frustrating, but I think part of the issue is that these guys aren't looking for a mature relationship with an intelligent woman, but companionship, or something that doesn't have to mean anything or exert effort.
You'll in someone eventually I'm sure, but the sort of man I'm sure you want is as rare as the type of woman you say you are :)
2006-07-04 02:17:19 · answer #2 · answered by solitusfactum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a maturity issue..the ditzy dependent girls want a guy to take care of them and spoil them. Many guys like this. The smart, self-sufficient girls as yourself are the girls guys should want to settle down with. You appear to be mature beyond your years and this is a good thing. Would you rather be the way you are and single or compromise who you are to be with someone?? Stay the way you are and someone will appreciate you for who you are. You and your friends have a lot going for you and will be the winners in the end. Good luck!!
2006-07-04 02:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that a lot of men are kind of intimidated by a woman that is independent. They need to feel assured of being able to take care of someone. I can say from experience that the dependant women cause more trouble than they realize. They're more likely to be drama queens and complain constantly when things don't go their way. They can't stand the thought of being alone for a period of time. And they're actually more likely to cheat on their man than other women because they need that constant reassurance that they're worth something. They usually have low self esteem. My soon to be exwife is one of those women. You can't make this type of woman happy. Guys with those type will be disappointed in the long run.
2006-07-04 02:19:45 · answer #4 · answered by Thomas K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so so true I am in that same boat I have just came to the conclusion that men would rather have someone they can control someone who is docile rather than have a woman who is opinionated and has a sense of direction in her life, we are the marrying type not the dating type
2006-07-04 02:19:14 · answer #5 · answered by beauty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg...
I always ask this question to myself..its like guys just like the sluts even thoug they say they don't...
guys are commitment phobic for a while..and have to sleep with the tramps and then later they might settle down with the smart intelligent girls..i dont know..
but i do know what you mean..
so true
2006-07-04 02:16:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where all you girls have been hiding, seems the only girls I find are the ones who want to hang with the bad boys, not the nice guys. I'd welcome finding a girl like you.
2006-07-04 02:18:06 · answer #7 · answered by Some guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ditzy
2006-07-04 02:30:59 · answer #8 · answered by tampabayfriends 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋