No matter how much advice I give him on how to get off drugs he won't listen to me because I'm his younger brother. I'm always trying to help him out. I gave him a car to drive and he called me today saying it was overheating and when I got there he punched the **** out of me and stole my wallet. He has threatened to kill me in the past. He's waiting to go to court on drug charges and he says if he goes to jail hes gonna make sure I go with him. As far as I know he's on exctasy, crack, and meth. Please only respond if you've been through a situation like this with a family member.
2006-07-03 19:00:20 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i had a similar thing with my cousin... the first time he hurt me, i let it slip, but then it just got worse, he stole my jewelry, sold some of my expensive clothes and shoes, took my money and hurt me, not just me, but he also did those things to every one close to him just so he could support his bad habit so i told my parents and then we reported him to the police and had him arrested, when he got out, he went on a rehab program and he's fine ever since. good luck!
2006-07-03 19:10:17 · answer #1 · answered by maricar_cute 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother was an alcoholic. he became dangerous more than once. The worst time he got in a fight with my other brother and pulled a knife on him. Threatened, lied and stole. I ended up throwing him out of the house and when he threatened me, I told him to just try and I would blow his head off. He knew I was not kidding.
When a family member is an alcoholic, it is bad enough, but on drugs like you describe, that is even more deadly. If you do not resolve this soon, he just might kill you. You need to get to the police and get some help. Forget the threat about you going to jail too, he might try, but if you get to the cops first and give them enough to bust him, they will not believe him if he tries. Make sure you tell them of this threat.
Now if for some reason he somehow stays out, go some where. Leave town, take a vacation, move, whatever it takes because he is entirely unpredictable and he will keep harassing you, beating you up, and stealing from you. It is better to split town and stay alive, than to stay and get dead.
My brother knew I was serious when I promised to blow his head off if he tried to harm me, but then I was an ex-cop and he knew it. You are afraid of your brother (with good reason) and he has taken advantage of that. he will react violently if you try to stand up to him.
Remember this. He is no longer your brother, he is a mad man who does not give a damn about anything or anyone, even family. He is selfish, uncaring, violent, and will kill you in a minute if he gets angry enough. The human being that was your brother was destroyed by the drugs and may never return. Do what you have to in order to stay safe and don't worry about him, he deserves no pity when he treats family so cruelly.
2006-07-03 19:24:14 · answer #2 · answered by Seikilos 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason he doesn't listen to you is not because you are his little brother, it is because he hopped up. You need to report this to the police and you need to stay away from your brother. You cannot help him. He needs professional help. This is serious. People on drugs do outrageous things a sober person would not do. Do not take his calls, do not be near him. Do NOT give him money or anything. It will not help him. If you can move where he doesn't know where you are - do it - it may save your life!
2006-07-03 19:19:24 · answer #3 · answered by limeyheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a sister like that except she never threaten me she just stole anything that wasn't bolted down. It is a sad situation to be in but you have to let them go. I know its family but sometimes there the worse ones to be around. Just know that you tried the best to your ability and only god can help family members like that. Stay strong and please limit yourself to him because when there on the drugs there not thinking straight and are capable of any and everything. Its sad though because when there not on the stuff there totally different that's what makes it harder. Just be careful and strong and just pray for him.
2006-07-03 19:13:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you could do for him and you is to call the cops! Put a protective order out also, so he can't come near you, he needs help! You don't say how old either of you are, if he's under 18, your parents can put in rehab, it works! If he's over 18, he'll go to jail and they will give him rehab. Pleas, take my advise! Reply to this and let me know how everything turned out and if you are alright. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-07-03 19:12:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to distance yourself from this person right away. I would talk with an attorney to get advice on this to protect yourself. While you have done your part as a concerned family member, you can't live his life for him. If he is going to destroy himself and perhaps end up in jail, that's his doing, not yours. Also, when you talk with an attorney, talk about what could be done for your brother to get help for his condition even if he doesn't want it, like having him held under medical care for a period of time if possible for an evaluation.
2006-07-03 19:05:46 · answer #6 · answered by jumpingrightin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be a co-dependent and help him out any more. He is an addict and addicts can't be trusted. Unfortunately, his addicition is stronger than his love for you. That is hard to hear, but it is the nature of addiction. I have seen mothers forsake their own babies for dope.
DO NOT GIVE HIM ADVICE- unless you are a recovered addict, it's not your place to give him advice. Unless he asks for help in getting clean, do not help him. Addicts manipulate people around them. Again, sad, but true. It is not fair, in fact it sucks, but it is the nature of addiction.
For the time being, avoid him- stay away from him as much as possible. If he threatens you, you may need to call the police.
Good luck-
2006-07-03 19:12:40 · answer #7 · answered by cigarnation 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never been through it, but thats your brother and he needs your help.Even if it means calling the cops.Don't get me wrong I would never get the police involved in any street situation,its a rule that you don't break.But this is your brother that needs help.Even if he hates you at first in the long run it might be the best thing to do!!!
2006-07-03 20:50:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him in a rehab..Tell the Judge he has a problem with drugs and treating you. It's likely the Judge will sentence him to rehab.Sounds like you think alot about him so get him the help he really needs.No Matter now mad he gets.
2006-07-03 19:36:32 · answer #9 · answered by lil-bit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Press charges and never ever do anything illegal to help him, EVER. Learn what an "ENABLER" is and make sure YOU are NEVER one for your brother. And don't give him advice. When my brother was going through this, even my Priest told me that "things will get much much worse before they get better. He will have to hit rock bottom before he decides to change." He was right.
2006-07-03 19:06:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋