I'm 2 months pregnant and i've been with my b/f for 7 months now, he's seems happy but im not. At times he just annoys me and i know it's probably because im pregnant (this is my second child so i know) but i cant help it. With my first child i didnt have no one else to help me i was a single parent and i liked it that way! Now i feel like i have to stay with my b/f. Should i? Have you ever been in my situation? Do you think i'll regret breaking up with him when the baby comes? I just want us to be friends for right now but im not sure if im making the right choice.
2006-07-03 18:54:44 · 17 answers · asked by jessica 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think this is a bad time to decide that. Your hormones are crazy and will drive you crazy during pregnancy. He was good enough to have sex with and keep around, so keep him around awhile longer. I know its hard to give up your independance, but it doesn't have to be a bad thing. He sounds happy to help you, and excited to watch his child grow inside of you. So talk to him and try to ride out the pregnancy. If you still feel that way after the birth, then do what you must. But don't drive a nice guy away just because he's stepping on your comfort zone. Being a 2 parent family means having to agree on things and work as a team to solve problems. Its a skill you need to aquire, and he sounds like a good enough guy to do it with. My Mom went through 4 husbands because she was too independant, couldn't share the decisions, and refused to share the responsibilities. She now regrets alot of that. So please don't chase him off just because the situation is new and hard for you. Work on loving the guy instead of trying to get rid of him. No matter if he lives with you or not, he is now forever a part of your life because of the child you share. So let him enjoy this experience with you, and reserve deciding until later. You might be carrying the baby, but it sounds like he wants to share in this with you. Let him. Be nice to the guy. And talk to him about what is going on. Then if you part ways after the birth, at least you can do it on good terms without bitterness.
2006-07-03 19:11:52 · answer #1 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not trying to be rude, but please listen. Didn't you learn the first time. The reason children are growing up crazy is because of the irresponsible people out there who don't know how to make decisions. You are two months pregnant and have only been with him for 7 months. What's going on? You weren't making the right choice by getting pregnant within 5 months of a relationship.Please seek professional help.
2006-07-04 02:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by curly98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you know it's very hard being a single parent. But you shouldn't stay with someone if you're not in love with them and only for the child. It's not good for anyone involved. You should really evaluate the reasons your not happy with your boyfriend. Could it just be your hormones? Be careful not to let someone that you could really love and especially the parent of your child get away if your not sure. It is a lot easier to have someone to help you.
2006-07-04 03:05:57 · answer #3 · answered by Tamara D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was a single mom of two kids. I LOVED being able to decide what was best without having another parent to tell me yes or no. I never got along with there father we were together 8 years he always wanted to spank. I liked having control of my kids without hitting them. I could not Parent with him around. He was a unhealthy person is all of our lives. I am now 14 weeks pregnant in a new relationship I'm worried about how things will go. When i first left the ex i thought things would be easier without him, WRONG. It was a TON harder to do it all alone. Relationship are hard. I prefer to live alone. I'm a Private person. It is hard to share your life with kids and a husband, it takes commitment.
2006-07-04 10:45:56 · answer #4 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to find out why you are unhappy before you base it on the b/f or not. Do not stay with someone out of obligation!!!
Seek a counselor, there are many resources for such. It could be hormones, it could be that you are relating to your previous experience and playing off on him. Sit down and talk to him and if he does not understand or is not sympathetic be done. IF he listens and is willing to work with you then give him a chance, he may actually be a good guy.
2006-07-04 02:04:37 · answer #5 · answered by beth r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For now you have to go with what you feel down deep. I think it is kind of late to want to take a time out, but if that is how you feel then by all means do it. If you don't then you will end up feeling trapped and nothing will ever come of this relationship, a time out may give you time to reflect on what it is you want without building up a resentment.
2006-07-04 02:00:50 · answer #6 · answered by ronrlogan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really have to listen to youself - your gut, your core. If you have to ask people for advice, then you probably know the answer. Do what you feel is right for you, not for anyone else. Take care of yourself. You can always be friends with your b/f and if later things work out . . . then all the better. I believe that you already know the answer to the question you have asked. Take care. Good luck and best wishes.
2006-07-04 01:59:43 · answer #7 · answered by MINI ROW. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stick it out for a while before you make that decision. Besides, as a pregnant woman, are you in a hurry to meet someone else? Probably not. Just give it some time.
2006-07-05 12:11:58 · answer #8 · answered by MOMof2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to be like that when I was pregnant I didn't want my baby's daddy around me, I was annoyed by him and he was loving and stuff. You should just tell your boyfriend that you need alittle space between you two with you being pregnant and all. Why do you feel you need to stay with him? Is he the baby's daddy?
2006-07-10 17:28:47 · answer #9 · answered by shygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you need some space for a bit. Relax and truly think things through. Make the choice because of your feelings, not hormones.
2006-07-04 01:59:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋