I have been super-cool with this guy for a few months. We are both very attracted to each other but because we are both in a "situation" we've never done anything. I really don't want to lose the friendship; i care a lot about him but I can't stop thinking about sleeping with him. To me sex changes everything but others say go for it. He says he'll be my friend either way but I don't know what to do. I am very confused. Help!!!
2006-07-03 18:47:55 · 21 answers · asked by decembersweetgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OOOHHHHH December WAAAIIIITTTTT!!!!
Please wait!!
This guy could very well be your husband to be in the future. Your description of your relationship screams with the making of a pretty good future together!!
You guys sound like you're made for each other, don't ruin the mystery of romance by allowing your lust to overtake and push you into something that will only give you a few minutes pleasure.
Waiting will insure that this guy could be the ONE. Don't give him his prize that you could keep for him on your wedding night.
Okay. Slow down. Remain friends. If he dates others so be it, it's only for a season. He will never stop thinking about getting with you. If he's the one, he'll come back eventually and he WILL ask you to marry him because he JUST can't get you off of his mind.
Peace Out.
2006-07-18 09:24:19 · answer #1 · answered by blakelycollierbrown 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only way sex with a friend "works" is if there are no emotions between the two, you're just in it for the physical.
Sex without any emotions is basically masturbation. Your friend would have to be depicted as a mechanical blow-up doll.. or a vibrator, I guess. And, of course, your friend shouldn't sleep over.
When your hand gives you sexual stimulation, do you look at your hand afterward and feel more emotionally attached? No. It's just your hand, not the love of your life. Same can be done with a friend, if you play your cards right.
How else do you think the terms "casual sex" and "friends with benefits" were thought up? People do this. It's no secret.
If you're not convinced, the way you were raised obviously doesn't allow your mind to be open to this way of thinking and are limited to the idea that sex is an expression of love and not the physical hedonistic practice that it actually is. Don't have sex with your friend, you'll screw it all up.
2006-07-03 19:01:00 · answer #2 · answered by Amelia Pedophelia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I think sex changes more for a girl than a guy (depending on the guy of course). I think sex does change things, and at that point, guilt could tear the friendship apart. It would also only be a matter of time before one of you gets caught. Depending on how involved you two are, resentment could follow. Is there anyway to get out of your "situations"? It seems very easy for things to get out of control and become a very, very, messy situation. Also, if either "situation" involves children, there is a whole other thing to consider. Best of Luck!
2006-07-03 19:12:53 · answer #3 · answered by justagirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's possible, but difficult.
There needs to be a mutual understanding before stepping into that scene together.
Sex may certainly indirectly change the course of your current friendship. How or when? Who knows. It's a risk you either choose to take, or you don't.
2006-07-03 18:54:13 · answer #4 · answered by Medicated Harmony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course he'll say that!
but to answer your question...i think sleepin with him will do a major destruction to the friendship...but if you are both feelin it..and no one's gonna get hurt..then go for it! unless no one is involved..why not have fun for a while...but you have to think about the consequences first,what it will do to your friendship..and what is gonna happen after...and if you do DO it..there will have to be rules in which you can both live by...like endin this buddy activity once you each both found the one you'll be loyal to...
2006-07-03 18:57:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure u can infact ur frndship will turn out to be more deep.the situation u r going thru is very very normal.just go the way ur frnds say and u feel like.
2006-07-03 18:55:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you sleep with any of your girl friends? No? Wouldn't sleep with anyone you are just friends with? Really? Question answered..
2006-07-03 18:50:26 · answer #7 · answered by Player 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My answer is definitely no because friendship between man and woman means to be brother and sister. we can not have sex with our brother or our sister.
if we can have sex, it is no more friendship that what people call love and that love could sexuality or not.
If I am wrong with my theory, please don't take my advices
2006-07-03 19:26:20 · answer #8 · answered by o town 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi
if u sleep with him you will do it many times.he will leave after he will taste you.guys wants change without commitments.you offer yourself only to your husband ,after legal marriage only.
if you get pregnanent before marriage and ask your bf to marry you ,he will just call you a cheap girl and dumped you for sure.
2006-07-03 19:01:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be careful...you are correct...sex changes everything...sleeping with him could also take it to a higher level for both of you...good luck!!
2006-07-03 18:51:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋