I am 42 divorced 8 yrs I have 4 children ages 11-17 I have a great job as a RN in a truama ER make good money own my own home. I go to the YMCA 4 to 5 days a week dont smoke.drink only socially. Three of my children are adopted and of a different race than myself I am caucasion I know this isnt for everyone so I am always very upfront about my kids with anyone I meet. I have tried the online personals with a little success but havent found anyone for the long term, which is really what I want. I am attractive but very shy and quiet I have many friends at work but most are either much younger or married. I know I look good for my age but I have zero self esteem always thinking I look fat etc... critical of myself. I try to be positive but after months of not meeting anyone I blame myself,.what can I do to increase my chances of meeting someone decent w/o having to become this outgoing phony person.At times the thought of another first date is so overwhelming I would rather not go.
2006-07-03 18:36:57 · 10 answers · asked by cutenjnurse2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey,....how do you meet the right guy?....Be the right girl...All you have to do is to stop looking and you will find him...Sounds silly but its true....You will be presented with situations and things will fall into place. Do things you like to do....Bowling, sailing, golf,....whatever, maybe the one you are looking for is looking for you:)
2006-07-03 18:44:02 · answer #1 · answered by Bram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww, you sound like me! I'm really shy and I want to meet a guy who appreciates me for that, though people keep telling me to start being more outgoing and talkative and stuff like that.
I don't really know how to solve your situation. I think online dating is a good option, but there are other ways to meet men. I'd reccomend dressing a *little* bit more provocatively, just to make a statement to people. Also ask your friends if they know anyone they can set you up with - friends can be good with that. You're only 42 years old though, that's pretty young, you shouldn't have a problem finding someone willing to be in a long-term relationship.
By the way ... I plan to adopt a black child (there are so many of them in the states that need homes), if I fall in love again.
2006-07-04 01:44:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had the magic antidote for this one.
You have to be careful online. YOu have to be aware that there is much fraud and perverted people online too, waiting for people like you and they will try their best to nail you and take advantage of you and or ruin much for you.
I would forget the online dating completely.
Be cheerful and oopen to your surroudings, at the grocery store where men go to get theri salad for their evenig meal and see you may find some men there and strike up some short conversation with them.
I really dont know what to tell you , though I am one year older than you, it was hard for me too. though I have my life settled now. it was always hard to find good men. but dont give up. dont loose hope. and pray to God HE knows wshat you will get and when. Leave all into His hands. You will be glad you did this. Believe me.
2006-07-04 01:45:48 · answer #3 · answered by noteparece? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop searching and wanting. It'll happen. Church singles groups are a good place.
Be interested in other people. Really interested. What men want for a long term is someone who cares about their interests and who will applaud them. Listen and say a lot of "That's greats" and "What a good ideas!"
2006-07-04 01:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by Einsteinetta 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok check this out send me a pick of you and ill let you know if your dateable! this will also help you get over the being shy thing! you have to be spontaneous and just do things! if you decide to send a pic its deadlysaintvolcan@yahoo.com!
2006-07-04 01:42:44 · answer #5 · answered by perfect_demise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHEN YOU DESCRIBE YOURSELF AS 'ALWAYS THINKING I LOOK FAT' YOU HAVE SAID VOLUMES ABOUT YOUR SELF ESTEEM. IF YOU NEED TO DROP A FEW, SIGN UP AT A LOCAL GYM..THERE YOU MIGHT MEET A GUY WHO HAS SIMILAR ISSUES RE; WEIGHT LOSS, SELF PERCEPTION, ETC. GOOD LUCK.
2006-07-04 01:44:17 · answer #6 · answered by homerunhitter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't tell people that you have no self esteem. that is a turnoff. only list the good things about yourself. the bad things won't matter to your true love.
2006-07-04 01:40:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously - Try Yahoo! Personals....
2006-07-04 01:39:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby you don't need another man-look what the first one did to you!!!!
2006-07-04 01:40:18 · answer #9 · answered by Joseph P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
match.com
2006-07-04 01:39:48 · answer #10 · answered by monkey-mama! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋