How can i stop fighting with mom?

Question

I keep on fighting with my mom, we never been freinds like other girls, she wants me to do everything her way even when she's wrong and every time i i ask her to give me her openion in an issue with a freind it ends up i don't talk with my freind because of the bad decesion from mam.. how can i solve this problem ? i can't stand my mom any more

Answer 1

Check out the book "How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk" at your local library. Read it and do the exercises together.

Answer 2

Wow...that sounds like I felt back when I was in high school living at home...honestly, my mom and I fought basically until I moved out. Now we do much better. I have more respect for her and what she went through raising me and she's come to realize that I am now a grown woman.

I'd say, you and your mom probably will never been friends "like other girls" and honestly, there are mothers and daughters who just never are. Part of that may be the generation gap (i.e. huge age in difference like if you were born when she was around 30) or a cultural gap. Either way, it probably won't ever happen.

Of course she will want you to do everything her way - she's a mom and they always think they are right (and as much as you will hate me for saying this, unfortunately, they tend to be right most of the time). As for issues with your friends - I'd say don't ask your mom for her opinion or help. You two obviously have very different circumstances/situations that you grew up in, so honestly she wouldn't be much help. For example, pretend you are a goth and your mom is in your age group (and not your mom) and she is a prep - if you have issues with a friend, would you ask her for her opinion? No? Okay, so basically, if you have a problem with a friend, I'd say ask your older sister, another friend, basically someone you trust. And if there is no one you can trust...well, I guess try asking on here.

I guess in conclusion, the best way to stop fighting with your mom is by: 1 - when she gives you her opinion and you don't agree with it (as hard as it may be) don't say anything, just basically be like "ok" but keep your opinion to yourself. Then later, you can think about what she said see if MAYBE it does make sense in that issue at hand, and whatever you conclude and decide, so be it, it's your decision. And 2 - Don't ask her for advice on your social issues like friends - obviously you two have VERY different viewpoints so asking her would just be like opening a can of worms.

Answer 3

Try your best to get along with her. I dont know how old you are, but as you get older you will realize that she will always be there for you no matter what. in spite of all her defects and everything you can possibly hate about her, just remember that you have your defects too. You guys are dealing with two different personalities.....but who isint? No one is the same. And most importantly, people are who they are mainly because of where they come from and their history. Do not judge your mom for what she does. Explore WHY she does what she does and you will begin to stop taking things so personally and you will feel less attacked. It will not be easy at first, but as I said at the beginning, your mom will always be there no matter what. If you can think of one time that your mom got you out of some "Sh*t"....then you've got a real mom!! If you cant think of one time, then you must be a great daughter....
TALK TALK TALK>>>>COMMUNICATE.....with her w/ out screaming, offenses, judgements, pretend you are not mad at the moment...just pretend.....u will soon forget that you are angry....and ..its the only way to understand eachother.

Answer 4

if you are adult grow up if you are a child mom supports you you have to follow her rules