He works at Walmart which is 27 miles away. We live in rural, illinois and jobs are not plentiful here. I don't mind him being at home. He is a great kid, but I feel like society is putting pressure on me to move him out on his own. There is no way he can make it on a walmart job. He is a help to me at home. He fixes stuff. He never gets into my privacy. He is just a good kid. He would like to go to college, but I am concerned about the financial end of things. Could anyone please tell me how to give directions to a 20 year old?
2006-07-03 17:58:14 · 12 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
this evening he installed the icemaker in my refridgerator. He is totally responsible. We are a little bonded because I raised him by myself and know I have a tendency to be over motherly. My daughter is a hell raiser and my son keeps me grounded. I want to do the right thing.
2006-07-03 18:13:48 · update #1
dont let the pressures of society dictate how you are to lead your life and if he wants to go to college, he can always take out a student loan. do what you know is right.
2006-07-03 18:02:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 1⤋
As a parent you know what is best for your son. Society is not always right. Your son has worked hard, so always show him how proud you are. Going to college is a tough decision. I applaud him for that. my parents did not have the mean to finance my studies, but faith got me there and I recently earned my Bachelor degree. I truly believe that it will happen for him as well.
First and for most, he should not be discouraged. Then again there are few things you both would have to do.
1 find out what source of financial aid is available to students in your community
2 Is scholarship an option? There are all sort of scholarship programs around for different categories. You would not believe your eyes at some of the requirements.
3 find out if there are any governmental financial aid program such as PELL TAP or student loan
4. Are you a union member? Many union organizations have scholarship programs available to their members.
5 Maybe moving to another area (only if this is the last option)
A personal advice based on experience
I wish you the best success in your journey. Let me know if this was helpful.
take care!
2006-07-04 01:58:12 · answer #2 · answered by turntowisdom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go to school don't worry about the financial end of it because if he actually commits to finishing school I'm sure he will find a job good enough to pay that back.
Stop worrying so much about him not making on a low salary, it happens everyday. Some people have to work harder than others to just barley make it. As a mom you can be there and help him out every now and then or cook him dinner or even invite him over to your house to do laundry together, but besides that let him be! He has to learn how to become a man, and living at moms house dam sure will not do that for you!
It really sounds like your scared to let him go and you wouldn't know what to do with out him! If that is the case, you have nothing to worry about. Its not like he is joining the Army and going overseas, he lives close and will always be there for his mom if things are the way you say they are.
2006-07-04 01:10:02 · answer #3 · answered by Jessie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
school loans, school grants, scholarships, school jobs or outside school jobs. get a roommate or live in dorms. check out the college first, there are alot of money available. the first year is tough, going to school and working. but after awhile, he will get use to it. he can transfer from a community college to a 4 year university. (im majoring in accounting. ) he can pick any major, and school will help him find a good career. he doesn't have to pick his major first, he can take general education requirements where he will have a chance to get to know what the subject is about, for instance he can take chemistry, calculus, history, sociology, etc. he should start slow at the beginning like one class or two, and work up to 3 or 4. if he stays committed, it will pay off in the long run.
2006-07-04 01:04:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would start by finding out if he really wants to go to college. There is enough financial aid out there for him to qualify for, that he shouldn't have any problems finding a school within your budget. My daughter went to a very expensive college (her choice) and, as a parent, I paid very little every year. I was allowed, by the college, to submit a financial aid revision form which allowed me to explain my bills and financial situation and they helped to find additional funding for her.
Your son is at an age where he does need to go on to college if he wants to go. The longer he waits, the more study habits he loses and the harder it will become. Even if he is at college, he will be home often enough to "fix things". I live in Iowa and if I can help, e-mail me at daddysnurse@yahoo.com Good Luck!!!
2006-07-04 01:06:54 · answer #5 · answered by daddysnurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started out at a community college. It's cheaper and it gave me a lot of options and ideas to help me figure out what I want to do with my life. Financial aid is always available and you can go to a lot of different websites to help find out more about it. Community college usually has a lot of resources. Most community colleges are fairly close to home to.
If he's working and not getting into trouble then I think he/your okay. As long as he knows his responsibilities and knows when to stand on his own 2 feet, then you're fine. Don't baby him, but also support him. I hop this helps.
2006-07-04 01:11:48 · answer #6 · answered by Blue Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For his own good, he needs to be on his own. He can work during the day and take classes at night and week-ends at a community college so that he can learn a skill and earn more money. A tech skill such as plumbing or electrician would be great, too. Mom, encourage your great kid to find his own space. He can be nearby but he needs to be independent. He'll do just fine. Wait and see.
2006-07-04 01:03:54 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is working, he is respectful, and he is a good kid. Count your blessings.
Maybe there is a community college where he can get started. He could take some business classes. Or learn a trade that can't be outsourced. Or even consider the military (when this stupid war is over).
2006-07-04 01:03:53 · answer #8 · answered by Diane D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he didn't plan his trip to well, Or maybe he did (staying at home)
The United States Marine Corp has a great training program for young men that want to make it in the world ,,
But then he could always stay home and swing from momma's tit
2006-07-04 01:56:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
good luck my daughter is 20 and told me she is not leaving because she is a college student and she is driving me crazzzzzzzzzzzy it can only be one women head of the house now my son is 17 soon to be 18 but i know he will be living with me for a while he has ADD and no maturity yet good luck
2006-07-04 01:05:35 · answer #10 · answered by caramel4u352000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋