My husband and I have been trying to get preganat for 9 months and we finally have managed it! We are extatic and at 7 weeks we decided to tell our immediate families. My family were all really excited and supportive, and have been talking about it lots ever since. Then we told my husband parents. His Dad said congratulations, but his mother just said "Oh".
I'm really upset by this! We are married, have a house and good jobs. My husband has a child from a previous relationship who we see regularly and we all get along great. So what is OH!
Since then she has not said a word about it, and I don't know what the problem is! I know her daughter (my sister in law) has been trying to concieve for 2 years now, so is it some sort of jealousy?
Anyone else's insight on what her problem may be would be very appreciated!
2006-07-03 17:07:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I was unaware that mispelling 2 words made me "linguistically illiterate". I have a big word for you. TAUTOLOGY.
2006-07-03 17:32:28 · update #1
If I were you, I wouldn't worry too much about what she thinks. If she isn't happy about the new addition to your family then maybe she shouldn't be a part of your new baby's life. You have enough to worry about right now to let his mom upset you. Maybe she is jealous because her daughter hasn't been able to conceive yet. Maybe by the time the new bundle of joy arrives she will be happy too.
As far as the rude comment from the other Yahoo idiot, this isn't a spelling contest. Not everyone can be as perfect as that @$$hole!!
Oh yeah, congratulations on finally being able to conceive! It took me several years to finally get pregnant as well and that in itself can be very stressful! Good luck!
2006-07-03 17:45:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to hear that your mother in law was not more supportive. She could have a least said: Congrats to you or she could have told you that she was excited but maybe she is not sure how to react knowing that her daughter is having problems concieving. You should be happy no matter what. Just thank God that you are pregnant and try to ignore your rude mother in law.
2006-07-03 19:56:22 · answer #2 · answered by jj02 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a case of, "If you can't say something nice, then don't say anything at all."
Saying, "Oh," was probably her way of not saying anything at all.
As to WHY she's not happy for you--I haven't the foggiest notion. You know her, and I don't! (If she dislikes you, then I can see why she'd be unhappy. After all, it's not so easy to be dismissive of someone who's the mother of your grandkid, even if you and her son were to split up at some point in the future [which might be what she'd been hoping for--a clean break-up, with no kids to complicate matters].)
2006-07-03 17:17:09 · answer #3 · answered by Cyn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let the little things stress you out. right now is a major time in the development of your baby. and if you let this woman set the pace for your pregancy then it will be a stressful one... dont share anything about the baby unless she asks..... and remember this is a very happy time in your life...... surround yourself by the people who care and who are happy for you both. the baby will know this when he/she does come into the world and meets the grandma for the first time.
as for jealousy..... yeah she probably is jealous but hey, maybe now isnt the correct time for your sister in law to be pregant.
2006-07-03 17:15:40 · answer #4 · answered by toodie7298 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what inlaws think. It's their loss on the attitude part. Either they will grow used to the idea or not. You need to concern yourself with you and the life you made inside you. Some people will never get over themselves. Eventually she'll grow old enough to pass away then everyone will have one less concern.
2006-07-03 17:14:04 · answer #5 · answered by GTO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, perhaps the grandmother to be isn't thrilled with the prospect of being a grandmother. I do hope that you will endeavour to improve your spelling and grammar before the baby begins to talk. You don't want him/her to appear as linguistically illiterate as yourself.
2006-07-03 17:13:13 · answer #6 · answered by top-down 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be shock, jealousy or even concern for you both. I wouldn't worry about it if I were you. You just take care of yourself for that baby's sake and everything will work itself out the way it's suppose to.
Good Luck!
2006-07-03 17:13:15 · answer #7 · answered by Angie P. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like shes got a problem with this, i feel for ya, cuz my mother in laws a big weirdo like that too, they cant just be happy for you cuz they think they know whats best for their son. mabey she doesnt want him having a child with you for many reasons, shes really close to the first grandchild and doesnt want anymore, she wants her daughter to conceive and not you, or she doesnt like you that much and thinks he made a bad decision by getting you pregnant, who knows, its her loss and just ignore her.
2006-07-03 17:12:53 · answer #8 · answered by hotsing1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe but that is great news for a married couple and your friends and family should be happy.
2006-07-03 17:11:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you answered your own ? ...sounds like she wanted her daughter to get pregnant first..just don't let it get u down and be happy...wait till she holds ur baby...it'll be a different story
2006-07-03 17:13:25 · answer #10 · answered by Robin L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋