me and my fiance wants me to stay out of it but b/c my soon to be step kids hate their mom and i always take there side b/c there mom is abusive well my fiance hates her too,but if he hates her why are we always fighting about this??
2006-07-03 16:50:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Perhaps because you are getting involved. These kids are theirs and you are new to this. They aren't your kids yet so keep your opionions to yourself and your relationship won't be affected. Let the two of them work this ou t.
2006-07-03 16:53:46 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very touchy subject. it could be because he feels helpless in the situation so reminding him that they are being abused and there is nothing he's doing (because there is very little that he can do) might be like rubing salt in an open wound. I sugest calling a social service orginization and lettign them investigate ONLY if you are sure that there is abuse. If you cry wolf without proof, it can and will look very bad on you. Think of the kids and put them first, do what you think is right and it will all work out in the end, good luck.
2006-07-03 16:54:31 · answer #2 · answered by Raven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a way to start married life. You do realize that if you marry this man you will be involved in this stuff for years. A new marriage is hard enough at first without all this drama. I think I would really have to think about marrying this man.
2006-07-03 17:00:14 · answer #3 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love him and the kids stay neutral until he asks for your intersession, until then i hate to say it but you are violating also you have to know the game kids play they have a way of playing both sides to the middle i went through this with my son and his step mother when he did not like something at there house he came back to me and vice versa.care-full yourself
2006-07-03 17:00:46 · answer #4 · answered by JazzyJ72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay as far away from that as you can...be there for the kids of course, but let the your fiancee and the mother take care of it on their own.
2006-07-03 16:53:36 · answer #5 · answered by USC Fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because either you don't understand the situation or you have simplistic ideas
2006-07-03 16:56:18 · answer #6 · answered by benderedundat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go too much drama
2006-07-03 16:53:14 · answer #7 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he feels that it is his duty to do it.. and that you are taking away his masculinity.. or manliness
2006-07-03 16:53:44 · answer #8 · answered by David 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go
2006-07-03 16:54:50 · answer #9 · answered by kf4wwe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmmm I don't really know.
2006-07-03 16:53:58 · answer #10 · answered by Coodles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋