I'm a 26 year old engineer, and have been paying off my mortgage for 3 years now. I've paid almost half of my mortage off and have significant mutal funds.
I have a serious g/f and we talk about the future all the time and I'm sure it will lead to marriage. I do love her with all my heart, but I must insist on a prenup. It's not that I don't trust her; I want to spend the rest of my life with her and I absolutely adore her, and she feels the same for me.
My prenup isn't saying "i expect this to end in divorce" because i hope I never have to exercise it. I hope we sign it and its found by our children after we die of old age. But girls get so offended by prenups...it's crazy.
I've worked really hard to get where I am today and am building a very solid financial structure to secure myself for the future. I don't think it's unfair to try and not jeapordize myself in the event that she has a change of heart in 10 years and wants to leave with more than she has invested.
2006-07-03 16:47:13 · 7 answers · asked by thedawn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There's nothing wrong with a pre-nuptial agreement; it makes great sense. You are right for wanting to secure your future; and if she truly loves you, it won't be an issue! You go boy!
2006-07-03 16:53:15 · answer #1 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of you hit the nail on the top. traditionally, we've regarded at pre-nups as a thank you to guard the guy's aspects from the female. those days, the two the guy and the female can enter right into a marriage with the same quantity of aspects...or on occasion, the female enters into the marriage with extra advantageous than the guy. So, with that for the period of innovations, that's functional to get one. For some women human beings nonetheless, the point out of it gets them mad by way of fact they might experience that they are being regarded at as funds-hungry and because it quite is a level to take interior the form of a divorce some experience like that's dooming the marriage till now it even starts off.
2016-12-10 04:14:52 · answer #2 · answered by vogt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel as though you need a piece of paper to secure your assets in your life, maybe you should reconsider getting married in the first place.
A marriage is two people coming together in love and trust. A pre-nup means that you already do not trust the other person right from the start, so if you do not trust them, do not marry them.
2006-07-04 18:23:46 · answer #3 · answered by Paradise Weddings & Travel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not be offended by a pre-nup. Like you said you are trying to secure a future for yourself. It's also a way for a female to secure her future. The pre-nup will state what she would get in the event of a divorce, that in turn also guarentees that she will not be left with nothing.
2006-07-03 16:53:42 · answer #4 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with a pre-nup, and one can be mutually beneficial. I would suggest that both of you have lawyers put one together that is mutually agreeable so that you two don't have to become emotionally involved. You don't mention what her assets are. Perhaps she has money that she wants to protect too in case of a divorce.
2006-07-03 18:36:09 · answer #5 · answered by Linda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pre-nups are for insecure people who deep down are selfish and believe their marriage won't last. If you really truly feel the "Until death do us part...." you don't need one because you won't get a divorce. But if you must it will put a damper on your marriage.
2006-07-04 01:36:39 · answer #6 · answered by Nickel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I do not have a prenup, BUT neither of us had any assests when we were married 12 years ago. You both absolutely have to protect any assests you have. I highly recommend one and you should both send your attornies to negotiate it so you two don't have to fight about it.
2006-07-03 17:30:31 · answer #7 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋