Shrink problem?

Question

I've been seeing my shrink for about a year now, every few months for my Zoloft. My shrink seems to be more focused on my weight than anything else. I am trying to build my self esteem. He is well aware that I am exercising at least an hour three times a week and I eat fairly healthily. I know that I'll never be a supermodel or maybe not even where the BMI says I should be, but I CAN be healthy and active. My weight has been stable for a couple years now as well as my thyroid levels (hypothyroidism).I talked to my BF about this yesterday and he says that the shrink is overstepping his boundaries and I should call the local psychiatric board. BTW, my GP doesn't harp on me like this! What do you think? I've tried talking to the shrink and telling him that I'm working on being more active and healthy and that's more important to me than losing weight, but I feel like he has a different agenda--like making me depressed! Advice?

Answer 1

You should definitely let him know how this is affecting you!!! One reason he may be asking about your weight could be about the medication though. A lot of these meds make us gain weight, so they like to keep tabs on whether or not we are gaining or losing pounds.
But you should say something to him!!! He is putting extra stress on you!!! You do not need or deserve this!!!!! Find your voice, and use it girl!

Answer 2

I think that if you feel your shrink "has a different agenda - like making me depressed", you should leave your shrink and perhaps find a new shrink if you feel it necessary to see one.

I think that you must have a rapport and trust in your shrink in order for this relationship to help you. If trust and rapport don't exist, and it seems in your case these qualities are missing, you should move on.

Also, consider this: Do you really need a shrink? From what you have written, you seem really OK to me. Sometimes, people use shrinks just to have someone to talk to - like a best friend. Of course, it's different from friendship because he is suppose to be working with you professionally on improving your life without judgment.

But consider this also: Sometimes, you have learned enough about yourself from your relationship with your shrink, and really you are just holding on to a crutch - a kind of dependency - like when you are afraid to leave home (your parents) and start your new independent life.

Only you can make this decision - I have just given you some ideas from my own personal experience.

Best of luck to you and be well.

Answer 3

Now i had a Dr. that commented about my weight as well but that was because i gained weight after i saw him and he thought it was the meds that were doing it could that be the answer? he is worried the meds are making you big? I know its easy to jump to oh he's picking on me etc. but ask that question first then seek another Dr if that isn't the case and one question for you what the hell is a GP? i guess I'm dumb.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

I know from personal experience that regular exercise can and does lift some people out of clinical depression on it's own. Maybe he's just trying to see if that approach will help your depression. Aside from that I would think it is none of his business what your weight is!

Answer 6

do what your boyfriend is telling you to do. your shrink sounds like a total jackass, and you should report him for talking to you about stuff that probably isn't within his range of expertise.

Answer 7

I would change therapists if possible, because if you sense he is not working with you well then he won't be helping you.