I have a friend who recently lost a son to suicide and I need to know the best way to help her,which I know it takes alot of time also,But what can I say?
2006-07-03 16:31:17 · 9 answers · asked by pumpkin 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
My daughter,Rachel died 4 yrs ago. She had cancer. I think the best thing you can do for your friend is to be there if she needs you. At first when my daughter died there were people around and friends calling and every one was trying to be helpful....but then after about a week or so when the funeral was over and everyone was back to their lives I was alone with my grief...All my friends had said if you need anything just call but it always seemed they were never available... I think its just because they dont know what to say... So just be there for your friend...even if you dont know what to say to her just be there to listen and to hold her and cry with her....and maybe even look for a support group and offer to go with her.. Oh and remember things like her sons birthday and death day will be particularly hard for her... You can also give her my email and she can email me if she wants to...My daughter was 10 yrs old...how old was her son? my email is myredangel86@yahoo.com
2006-07-03 16:42:15 · answer #1 · answered by KELLY H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my 15 year old daughter to kidney failure in 1999 and my mom to suicide in 1989. There really isn't anything you can say to help her, just be there for her not IF, but WHEN she needs to talk. The grief process is different for everyone, but everyone wants and needs to talk about their loved one. That really helps.You don't have to say anything, just tell her you are there to listen. Helping out with housework and bringing food are also very much appreciated. The everyday things like vaccuuming and cooking seem extremely difficult when you lose someone, especially in a tragic situation.... Good luck with your friend, she is lucky to have you.
2006-07-03 16:39:45 · answer #2 · answered by b_friskey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her it"s not her fault and how sorry you are! Be supportive and maybe suggest counseling, the death of a child is a hard burden to bear! Sometimes marriages split up because of there child dying. One wants to blame the other, you should have noticed the warning signs! But some kids are good at hiding there problems and unless you invade their personal space you would never realize!
2006-07-03 16:39:25 · answer #3 · answered by single mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but I lost a twin in similar circumstances a little over 25 years ago. The pain eventually sibsides but the hole remains.
Making her aware of your love and concern and desire to help means a lot.
Initially, the pain is too great. Just be there for her.
I'll pray for you both.
2006-07-03 16:44:49 · answer #4 · answered by NickofTyme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep on supporting herr. its hard but she needs friends to get through it all. trust me, just stick by her side and tell her she can call or talk to you at any time and to not be afraid to. if she needs someone to cry with be right there beside her and if she needs someone to laugh with still be there. its what friends are for and this is a great time for you two to realize that. Good luck and my condolences.
2006-07-03 16:37:54 · answer #5 · answered by sk8bunny13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's so hard to say...i've lost numerous family members in the past 2 years and it's something that u never no what to say. u just have to let her know that you are there for her and at her side for anything she needs. buena suerte!
2006-07-03 16:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
every thing is not in our hands,
it's like a visa, v don't know for how many days have v got the pass, after it expieres v have to leave,
somethings cannot b renewed
2006-07-03 16:36:04 · answer #7 · answered by the insider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend did...her 18 yr old daughter died on her bday.
2006-07-03 16:34:54 · answer #8 · answered by mazzygirl83 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am still a single. :)
2006-07-03 16:34:42 · answer #9 · answered by changmw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋