why does he have to talk to her,he has custody and she is very abusive...just cause he talks to her does that mean he likes her??
2006-07-03 16:23:54 · 14 answers · asked by JEN-JEN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It doesn't mean he likes her at all. He may detest her, in fact.
The thing you need to remember (and what he may be aware of) is that the two of them are tied together for life ... just because of the kids.
At some point, it would be a very good idea if the two of them quit fighting and hating on each other ... because it's far healthier for the kids. That doesn't mean get together or be pals ... it just means to get along.
Once the hatred goes away (that'll take some work on both their parts ... and some support from you) ... it makes the whole damn world seem better, believe me.
The best thing you can do is to not put any pressure on him. Don't bad-mouth her to him. Don't jump in with your own remarks when he's on a rant about her. Just listen and keep quiet.
Love him. Protect him from his own emotions as much as you can. Don't ever bad-mouth his ex to his kids, that could really hurt your relationship with them and your fiance.
In other words ... be there for him, but don't join in the hate-fest. It's important you understand the ties the kids have to her ... and the ties that will always exist between your fiance and his ex BECAUSE of the kids.
Don't be jealous ... just keep working on loving him.
2006-07-03 16:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL PLEASE,
He has to talk to her because she is the mother of his kids, and they have to communicate with each other because of the kids. I'm sure if she's the way u say she is he rather not talk with her but he has too. It doesn't mean he likes her it just means they have to communicate for the kids sake and because they're both adults.
I think ur having a problem with this because may be u don't like her because u think he may get back with her. But u shouldn't have to allow that to be a problem if she's as abusive as u say. He's ur man now and she's his (ex)
Plus u said he hates her
2006-07-03 16:34:13 · answer #2 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He talks to her because of the kids, wouldnt your fiancee want to be called and get info on the kids if he didnt have custody?? Hes trying to be a good parent and inform the other. It doesnt mean that he likes her.
2006-07-03 16:26:13 · answer #3 · answered by i_lovethis_bar03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have to communicate with each other regardless if he has custody or not those are her children too.And no it does not mean he likes her cause he talks to her he has to they have children together. I hate my child's father with a passion but I have to talk to him regardless he might hate her too just dont think to much about chill out o.k
2006-07-03 16:29:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may hate his ex-wife, but if he is a decent person he will continue a good parenting relationship with her. He is doing the right thing for his kids. Don't deter him from that cause the kids will only resent you for it.
2006-07-03 16:29:31 · answer #5 · answered by Laney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
somewhat no longer. There are some motives besides the undeniable fact that the most well-known is because he's following his courtroom order of custody and he or she isn't. it may help in case you preserve copies of the incident comments from the police and telephone information. both are somewhat available
2016-10-14 02:33:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't mean he likes her at all, people that are divorced have SO much to talk about. My friend's parents are divorced and her parents NEED to talk - no not want - about kids, money and all those regular things. If he liked her you would be hearing your fiancee saying things like "OH BABY!" on the phone with her... so yehh...
LOL
2006-07-03 16:27:25 · answer #7 · answered by Pearl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he still loved her he would be with her. Whatever was between them is history. Leave it there, and focus on the future for the two of you, or you will spend way too many days upset and jealous over nothing.
2006-07-03 16:27:44 · answer #8 · answered by deangelis88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT means he is not over trying to play games with her and has not gotten over the relationship yet.
Becuase they have kids together, he will have to "talk" to her, or at least though an attorney to her till the kids are 18 or older and from time to time, grandkids and the such forever.
so you will have to get used to him getting mad over her, hearing about her and more
2006-07-03 16:28:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's still hurting over the way she treated him and trying to get her to wake up and be with her children......I'm sure if he has any sense he will realize that this is bothering you....(By the way, have you told him it bothers you????)
2006-07-03 16:27:42 · answer #10 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋