my18 year old sister is getting married to a lowlife and i wont support her b/c she is getting married to a low life sun of a hctib and i wanna stay the rest of my child hood with my dad but my mom wont let me so i have to put up with the marriage how can i ingore this?
2006-07-03 15:58:48 · 20 answers · asked by Punk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
keep your eyes on him and kick him in the balls if he does anything suspicious
2006-07-03 16:02:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all how old are you? If you are older you sister talk to her reasonably about your concerns...definately dont call him a lowlife and so on. If you are younger than you sister you need to just stand back and let your sister figure this one our on her own. Shes not going to listen to her younger sister when it comes to her life and love. She must love this guy and it will take her to realize she makeing a mistake, noone can convince her. What does living with your mom have to do with you sis getting married? Wont she be moving out if shes getting married? Anyway all im saying is noone cant change her mind. she has to live and learn and you as her sister have to stand by her side and wait till the day she figures it out on her own and be there to support her.
2006-07-10 00:56:22 · answer #2 · answered by flonehotmamacal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your life is certainly full of turmoil. For a time you will have to follow your families court ordered living arrangements. When you get a little older you will be able to decide where you want to live.
You should express your concerns about your sisters marriage to her. If you can't do this without fighting do it in writing. Just remember that you can only say what you think the decision good or bad is hers. If she is making the mistake you think she is it will come out in the end.
Change can be hard but do your best to get Thru it and things will get better.
2006-07-03 16:08:31 · answer #3 · answered by Kenneth H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind her how many marriages these days end up in divorce!The divorce will cost much more than the wedding,and if he's a low life ask her how is going to take care of a family? I got engaged at 18 and broke it off,because I was actually smart enough to think about what I was doing.Tell her to wait,that is way too young,why get married in such a hurry? There life isnt really going to change much,it's a name change and both of there names will be on all the bills...she also needs to make sure his credit is good,if he has bad credit then it will make hers bad too .If she doesnt listen to you then just say okay,but dont come running to me when your getting divorced.
2006-07-03 16:36:44 · answer #4 · answered by hotmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though this guy is a "low life" in your eyes, this is the man that your sister loves. I think that you need to find a way to at least tolerate the situation for the well being of everyone involved. How would you feel if the situation were reversed?
2006-07-03 16:02:33 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the real problem here? Your sister's marriage or living with the parent you want to? It's your sisters life. If the guy is a low life, she'll figure it out soon enough.
2006-07-03 16:03:35 · answer #6 · answered by mopargrapeape 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your Mom gave your Sister her Blessing there is not much you can do to stop the Marriage. Are they going to live with you and your Mom, if so why not have a talk with your Mom and/or Dad about this?
2006-07-03 16:05:33 · answer #7 · answered by lousylaus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To each his Own. Unfortunately everyone is entitled to their opinion.... and ultimately to making their own mistakes. The more you push you sister to not be with this guy the farther you will push her out of your life. Consider for a moment that it was you.... would you wish for your sister to but in? I'm sorry that it sounds harsh but we cant choose who to fall in love with.... or who to fall out of love with., She will eventually see what you see.... and if she doesnt and he treats her like a queen then everything will still be ok. Focus on being her sister and loving her uncopnditionally as that is how it should be.
2006-07-03 17:02:13 · answer #8 · answered by Raven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt turn your back on your sister. If she is marring a lowlife she needs you.
Prove to her why he is not good enough and if it doesn't work just except it she is your sister for life and you need one another.
If you cut her out of your life you will regret it later.
2006-07-03 16:03:05 · answer #9 · answered by Questions&Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was not too fond of one of my friend's husbands when I first met him but when she became pregnant he really came around, he immediately found 2 jobs (he had been unempoyed) and she quit hers, he treated her like a princess, your sister probably see potential in this man - now, he may not live up to it but it his her life not yours - now, on the other hand if he is abusive, alcohohic/drugdepedant, cheating, or otherwise harmful to her do whatever you can to stop the weddin, and remember just let her know you love her no matter what
2006-07-03 18:02:58 · answer #10 · answered by leo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always sad to see people we love make bad decisions but you could lose your relationship with your sister. My advice is to have a talk with your sister and let her know that you can't be happy for her but you will always be there for her. We all have to make our own decisions and learn from our own mistakes. Best of luck.
2006-07-03 16:04:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋