I dont know why it hurts so much. I love this person with all my heart and I would do anything for them, but I dont think they realize it. I'm so confused and I dont know what to do anymore. Its like I want to be with this person but the way I want to be with him he doesn't want to be with me. I'm not even going to try to get to that point anymore. I'm told from this person that we're just friends with benefits but I dont know what to think of us anymore. Yes I do argue alot and I may call this person a little too much but thats because talking to him makes me sooooo happy. If only he can understand how I feel. Then maybe he wouldn't act the way he does. God knows I love him sooo much but he will never love me. And knowing that hurts also. Its times where I just dont want to be with him because I feel I can get over him if I dont have to worry about him but I cant bring myself to tell him that, Cause I know I cant let go. Its hard to let go of someone you love.
2006-07-03 15:54:49 · 17 answers · asked by kaila10032 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well first off your problem is you are friends with benefits,if you would stop sexing him maybe he'll start respecting you as a girl friend.
2006-07-03 15:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by It's all Love!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some times being to pushy can push him away of understanding your feelings. First just sit down with him and tell him how you feel, but in return if he feels that honestly you are only friends with benefits then you need to make a decision. But respect his feelings and wishes when he tells you his feelings in return. Some times feelings get deeper for another even in situations where its only friends with benefits. But you need to realize that friendship is more important then friends with benefits. If you just back off completely then he would realize how much you mean to him. If you find out that his feelings are not the same as yours, then you need to move on. Let him go and tell him that friendships are more important and you really do not want to ruin the friendship that you have. Once you cross that line and do friends with benefits, your friendship has changed in so many ways. Why put yourself through the heart ache of loving a person when that person only loves you as a friend? Think about how the friends with benefits is changing your friendship and be real honest with yourself as you are going to honest with him. Trying doesnt hurt but if you feel that his feelings are hurting you, then walk away for awhile and take time for yourself. Dont become obsessive with calling him because that is only making him feel sufficated by you. Just take time for you in the end if he doesnt respect your feelings.
2006-07-03 16:06:28 · answer #2 · answered by blue_packy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same exact situation a couple of years ago. The whole thing lasted longer than it should've. The longer you wait to end it, the more it's gonna hurt. Everyday you'll want him a little more, thus making it more difficult to let go. Do it now. It's still early. When I was in it, I felt ike there wasn't anyone else in the world for me but him. I knew he was with other people, but I didn't care. Just as long as he was there for me, I was okay with it. But then I started to lose respect for myself. You don't want that. If you felt so right about the wrong person, just think how the right person is going to make you feel...build the strength and love yourself enough to say goodbye.
2006-07-03 16:08:32 · answer #3 · answered by biodlphn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you cannot be friends with benefits with someone you care about but does not care about you in that way. Because when he does find an actual "gf" its going to hurt you more than its hurting you now. And yes it is hard to let go of someone you love but in the long run it will work out. I was friends with benefits with someone for almost a year. That person led me on and i fell for it. We briefly dated but as someone once told me " you cant make a peice of a.ss someones gf". And now we are broken up and its very painful. So do yourself a favor and end it before you end up really being hurt. Good luck.
2006-07-03 15:59:15 · answer #4 · answered by andrea lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being friends is not the way to go.. and i know this from experience.. i had a friend with benifits once to then i got pregenant by him. yeah he was there for me and all that but now we are just friends... and nazarath said it best when the wrote the song love hurts. casue it does and it's not fair...also i'm sure he loves you it's just that he is not in love with you.. you guys should sit down and have a talk and let him know how you feel and how he is hurting you becasue if he is a friend i hope he would not knowingly hurt you the way he is,, but it needs to end the friends wit benefits before i child gets brought into this... yeah i know your probably thinking we use protection and that can't happen to you well it can.. i use to think the same way.. and guess what i know have a 3 month old daughter who is never going to know what it is like to have her mommy an d daddy together in the same house..
2006-07-03 16:05:00 · answer #5 · answered by broken hearted n confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"why buy the cow when the milk is for free?" it's an old saying but you are giving it up to him with out any commitment, you should have thought about that first before you decided to spread the legs for him. It seems like you are borderline if not already obsessed with this person. And you can let go of someone you love, it's not the end of the world, there are over 6 billion people in this world you will find someone else.
2006-07-03 16:00:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look as hard as it may be to get away from him u have to because he isnt going to accept u . u have to realize he brings nothing good in ur future. he will not marry you.he will use for sex.he will tell u what u want to here.he is a player.u have to learn to love urself more than u love him and do this for you. find sum1 else there are alot of nice guys who will love u back :) also tell ur friend how u feel and stop giving him the benefits i think u can still b friends but dont let him take advantage of u. ull find sum1 else chick
take care
dont do anything stupid
good luck
2006-07-03 16:00:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to hurt your feelings at all but if someone doesn't return those feelings when you so willingly give them out then you don't belong with them, it will only make you sad because in the end all you'll end up being is 'friends with benefits.' Is that what you want or would rather be with someone who returns your love?
2006-07-03 15:59:03 · answer #8 · answered by jonday_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends with benefits, Hmmm... Well if you want to make him want you just a little bit more, try not always being available. See if that reels him in a bit.
If not, then take the relationship back to friendship. Because you are just to handy for him, know what I mean
2006-07-03 16:01:24 · answer #9 · answered by 4mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh geez - you're confusing sex with love
women tend to do that - talk with some of your girlfriends/sister/mom about your feelings - you'll see that some of them went through the same thing and will tell you it's just sexual enjoyment -
love is way more than sex
and for the sake of God have protected sex - USE CONDOMS as well as birth control pills I would recommend but of course that type of decision is not up to me
2006-07-03 16:00:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋