I was a little taken back but didn't show it (I don't think). I just told him that mommy and daddy fell in love and decided to get married and one day we decided to have a family. I went on to tell him that he lived in my belly for nine months (only because he knows that my sister-in-law is having a baby and she's pretty noticable). He then asked me how he got there.... OK .... I'm just so flabber gasted at this point, but I pull myself together and tell him that God just put him there until he was ready to come into the world. I'm just wondering if I handled this correctly. I'm pretty sure it's normal for him to be curious about this. What do you think of my explanation? He quickly forgot all about it and started playing with one of his games.
2006-07-03 15:47:51 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
you only tell a child the amount that is necessary to satisfy their curiosity. at 4 years old he didn't need the sex lecture, you are right... but BE PREPARED he will ask again... around 7 or 8 and then he's ready for the sex talk because he's probably hearing incorrect stories at school. my kids are older now... and they have always been quite open with me, BOYS and GIRLS and they say it's because i was always so open with them. i think kids get to curious about things that seem a secret and a forbidden conversation. YOU DID GOOD MOM!
2006-07-03 15:56:23 · answer #1 · answered by JayneDoe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you worded it well for a four year old. You even hit some good points with adding that you were married first, and envolving God in it. Kids are usually really curious about that kind of stuff, but quickly lose interest. Dont forget to keep updating it though, because by the time he is 6 or 7 he will have heard the word "sex" more than once from school, even if its a private school. And by the time he is 9-11 he will probably get very interested in learning about sex, this only increases in the almost-teen and teen years. Dont think that is the last time you will have to have a weird talk with him!
2006-07-03 15:55:55 · answer #2 · answered by Dagfinn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"They" say that you should just give minimal honest information to kids of this age until they start asking more and more questions. For instance, my 4 year old might say "Momma, where did I come from?" And I would answer "From Momma and Daddy's love and from God." Then when she's 5, she might ask the same question and not be satisfied with the same answer and might further the question with "But how did I get in your belly?" Then you give a little more info, like "We decided the time was right, so with the doctors help, we planned just right and became pregnant with you."
Kids get to a point where they keep asking, and you know when the time is right to elaborate. Instead of help from the doctor, you could say "Mommy has special parts inside her body to make a special baby like you with God's help!"
My daughter asked the same question when she was 5, and I hopped online to find some advice.
Hope all goes well with your son...smile.
2006-07-03 15:54:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Job! I too have a 4 year old who asked me a few weeks ago the same question. Im 7 months pregnant, and hes curious about babys. I didn't handle it half as well as you did. It didn't help that we were sitting in the middle of a restaurant at lunchtime either. Very loudly he says " how did the baby get in your tummy mom?" *silence from the other diners*....then I heard a giggle from the kitchen, and mr 4 decided he had an audience. Next thing hes all " did daddy put it in your tummy".....by now im bright red and most of the restarant are laughing..... " did daddy put it down your throat?" *more laughs*....im near hiding under the table by then, and hes grinning around at everyone in the restaurant......frantically trying to hush him....
I wish i'd been as composed as you were. Next time he asks i'll give your explaination.
2006-07-03 18:13:54 · answer #4 · answered by mandy n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you handled that very well. And the proof is that he took your answer and went on about playing. It's normal for kids to be curious about where they came from, and especially if they know someone who's expecting.
There are great books at the library that you could get, and they will help you with the step-by-step explanations by the age group. I'd go to the library, and if you find one you really like, then get it on Amazon. What kids need really varies by age, I mean, what you told him today won't fly when he's 6. So as he grows and is able to handle more information, you can tell him more, but play it by ear and see how many questions he asks. No need to tell him everything when all he wants to know is if you go to the hospital and purchase one! :)
That's my 2 cents. Your mileage may vary.
2006-07-03 15:55:14 · answer #5 · answered by OK yeah well whatever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"....Also before his visitation he freaks out cries, throws up when he has to go with his father. He says his father, and his fathers mother is mean to him. " - That is not good. If you had only said the above I would say that his dad might be stricter than you are, but since you have also indicate an unexplained burn, and urinated clothing it sounds like you may want to ask that his visitations be supervised for a while. Something isn't right here. If he is hitting, screaming and punching when he comes home it could be that he is stuck in a defensive mechanism, or he is really angry at you for making him visit his dad. Is there someone at the school who you can talk to who may be able to work with your son, the nurse maybe?
2016-03-27 03:02:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
good job. it is normal at that age. that is when my nephew asked his step mom, cause he din't care where he came from he wanted to know how to get a little bro or sis. she told them that all of mommy and daddys love put together would make a baby. and that god will give them a baby, if he wants to. just don't tell more than needed.be prepared for more questions.
2006-07-03 15:57:57 · answer #7 · answered by vmbbfreak06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was a good explanation at the time.
Eventually you'll have to tell him the full truth. It'll help him make more informed decisions in the future.
Otherwise they may succumb to inaccurate information from their peers.
2006-07-03 15:54:26 · answer #8 · answered by Chreap 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i told mine pretty much the same but i said when mommy and daddy love each other daddy plants a seed in Mommy's tummy and then they grew in my belly thank goodness they were satisfied with that answer and never asked how did daddy plant it there : )
2006-07-03 15:54:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's OK to tell your son that baby's comes from god. It's normal for children are curious, because they are still learning.
2006-07-03 15:57:15 · answer #10 · answered by teresa l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋