My cousin died about a month and i need help??

Question

Its been a month since my cousin died and i still think about it and i feel like i don't belived that hes really gone. is there anyway for me to stop thinking about it and move on?

Answer 1

It will take time for you to heel just pray about it and god will see you through.

Answer 2

Life sometimes can feel as if you are thrown head on into and it never feels kike its really happening. I know, because my own cousin died a year ago. He was sick for a month and then he passed away. It all happened so fast. It still doesn't feel like it's real. You can't stop thinking about it. It doesn't go away. Then again, you really don't want it to. The grieving process is normal, and whether or not it feels this way, theraputic. You will move along in life. That is for certain, but you willl never forget. As time goes by, the pain will weather away and you will remember them for everything you want to. You have to accept it, but on your own time and naturally. You cannot force yourself to believe this because even then it will not feel real. Life has a way of making something wlse out of something awful. When my cousin died, and we were very close, I actually had a renewed faith because in order to believe he was in heaven, I had to believe in God. Life teaches us things, eben if the learning process is difficult.

Answer 3

There is never any set time for grieving the loss of a loved one! My brother died 25 years ago when I was 12 and I have still not gotten over it! Just try to remember the good times you had with your cousin and keep the faith that one of these days the two of you will meet up again when your both in heaven!

Answer 4

My sister Lisa passed away from AIDS almost 11 years ago, my Grandma Shirley passed away from cancer 4 years after that. My Mom Victoria, was found dead 2 weeks after my Grandma.

My point in telling you all of that is, there is not a day that goes by that I do not think about them. There is no way to "move on"

Acceptance, forgivness for leaving, is all that I have. I miss them so much. We cannot change the past, we have to let go and not be sad.

Take care of yourself and your family that are still here. Remember your cousin is here with you. When you smell that smell, hear that song. They never go away.

M

Answer 5

Sorry to hear about that. Need help you say? Grief is not something you say or do like take a pill and the pain goes away. It takes time, reflection and tears. Lots of crying and talking about him with family and friends who feel the same way. Eventually as you get into the routine of school, job and concerns of this world you will think of them less and less. Then when you reflect on them it wont hurt so much. As they were probably young you thought they would be around forever (as long as you are alive). Thats why God has his death policy in place also (Bible scripture Romans 10:9) because tomorrow is not promised to no one.
Hope your on it.

Answer 6

You will think about it and it will hurt, but these feelings will eventually subside. Take a journal of the event day by day and only read it on the last Friday of each month, you will see the progress you have made. As well, don't try to avoid it, deal with it, cry when you need to, and talk to someone, not just us on the Internet. Sorry for you lose and remember tell other how you feel.

Answer 7

Time is all it takes tots. Meanwhile, get out the photo album and remember the times. Laugh, Cry and feel the loss. You'll see your cousin again. He must have been a pretty great guy to be so lucky to have you missing him so much. I'm only an email away if you want to tell a story about him or anything else. Thoughts and prayers are with you.

Answer 8

It is very hard but time will heal everything. It will not erase what happen but it will make it faded away. I do not know if you are guy or girl. But I found that the best way to face it is to cry it all out one time. After that you will feel so much better. The reason why you are still thinking or feeling about it is because you do not allow yourself to fully let it go. You need to find things to do. Go outside, shopping, clubbing, mingle with other people. Or you can find someone to talk to. Do not be by yourself a lot during this time. You will feel better after you cry, or have someone to talk to. If you keep everything to yourself, emotions and thoughts will build up and it will get worse.
In summary, cry it out, and find things to do that get you to interract with other people. Finally, time will heal everything. TRUST ME!

Answer 9

I am going through kind of the same thing. My mom died about 8 months ago. I still think about it all the time. It's just part of the greiving process. It's okay to be sad. It will help you eventually get on with your life. If you want to talk to me some more, My email is [e-mail].

Answer 10

I don't know I really can't say anything to make you feel better. I am sorry for your loss and hope you are doing well. Over time you will move on but the pain of losing your cousin will always be there.

Answer 11

by the sounds of things you guys were close, a month is to soon for you to be over it. or feeling any better my grandfather died 10 years ago and i still think about it from time to time and when i do i cry,, but with time it does get better. try writing you feelings down.. or what i did was i would go to the cemetary and i would talk to my granparents and it sounds wierd but i could hear them in my head telling me that that they were okay and i shouldn't be sad cause it hurt them to see their happy little girl feel that way. and even now when i have a problem it's like they alwyas come to me in my dreams. i wish you luck and i'm sorry for your loss..