How would you deal with a PSYCHO bf/gf?

Question

here are some cases
-attempted to commit suicide if u broke up with him/her
-accusing u for having an affair due to the break up
-harsh words to the extend of aggressiveness or even beating
-stalking u outside yr home/office
-calling u non-stop (24 hrs)
etc.........whatsoever a psycho might do to freak u off

p/s; Oh, don't mistaken my question, it's a female friend that is encountering this. This is far more serious than just restraining order

Answer 1

If you can stand to, stand by them and support them; this is hard for them to. But look out for yourself first -- society has (limited) support networks for such people. Looking after this person is not your job.

Watch your own response to the situation, and be aware of how they are changing you. Even when their behaviour is bearable, they will still manipulate you. Be prepared for this, and stand up to them.

If they have a history of physical violence against you, then they cannot be trusted with your physical safety; in this case, definitely leave now.

If you do choose to leave, do not make any contact with them. Any kind of response from you could be seen by them as a reward for their behaviour, so do not respond or react directly to them (i.e. walk away or hang up, do not speak). If they are impacting your ability to live or work, call the police and have them deal with the situation; once again, controlling someone like this is not your job, regardless of the relationship you share(d).

Answer 2

Your friend still needs the restraining order. She needs to END the relationship (perhaps in a park??) and have a good friend or two nearby in a car or something just to be safe. I would NOT handle this in an enclosed place all alone with a psycho. Your friend needs to tell this person to get on with their life, and this friend MUST STICK TO THIS!! ALSO - ALL TIES to the psycho and the mutual friends and such MUST be cut off. Do not have ANY form of contact with that psycho - not even a letter. Another way of dumping this person is to get into an argument over something that lovers argue about, let the psycho make the argument worse and then your friend should initiate the breakup over it! BUT MAKE SURE IT IS NOT DONE IN A SECLUDED PLACE AND DON'T DO IT WITHOUT SOMEONE NEARBY!! Let the machine handle all the phone calls until the number is changed. She should have overnight company or go away for a few nights. Tell your friend not to let anyone manipulate her into being with someone she doesn't want. AND tell her to DUMP this weirdo and DON'T take that nut back because nobody will help if you cry wolf.

Answer 3

I think your friend should break up with him!! If she tells him she wants nothing to do with him, maybe he'll back off. This relationship is not healthy at all. . .

But your friend could be in danger, because there are a lot of seriously crazy people out there. She should talk to the police about a restraining order, but there are other things she could do to protect herself. She should always keep her doors and windows locked (a home security system would be best), block his email address and phone number (or maybe change her number). If she lives alone, she probably shouldn't go out alone at night. She could even invest in pepper spray or a self-defense class if she's really scared. Your friend should also keep track of how many times he stalks her, where and what time, and maybe record his phone messages if they become threatening. That way she will have something to give to the police for proof.

I don't know the extent of the problem or how serious her stalker bf is, but I would rather be safe than sorry. Good luck.

Answer 4

You may not find this much help, but I had a psychotic girlfriend with an extremely rough past (or should I say present?). It took work and we stayed together for three or so years, but finally I made a single screw up and she dumped me and that was the end of it-despite all my continuous asking of forgiveness and declaration of love. My best advice for you is to be considerate towards this person and make it evident that how they behave around you is not appreciated. If this is beyond their level of understanding, then just end it. Also, if you are a nice, giving person, offer them help and recommend seeing somebody like a therapist. Otherwise, end it!

Answer 5

First off, I'd break up with them and have no contact whatsoever. Then, I'd get a restraining order. And then, I'd get on with my life after blocking their number and ridding myself of common acquaintances and everything else that had to do with them.

Answer 6

If there are no police reports of the abuse, then the victim is a willing victim. If there are police reports, it needs to be taken one step higher : charges need to be filed and court action must be taken. The best advice you can get will be from the hotline volunteers for the abused. Good Luck !

Answer 7

made 'em bored,
don't made em anggry
just give em friends, for 'subtitutes'?
well, some folklore said to give them imposible tast to complete in your live time, or a task that can keep 'em busy or meet someone else

Answer 8

aw...poor baby...I did mean you! Move to a different state and hope that she can't find you! I have sisters who have said stuff like that to their ex's...they don't mean a word of it!

Answer 9

the best thing to do would to be so pbnoxous that she wants to leave you, one of my such cases i just avoided her till she left me alone

Answer 10

can we say "restraining order"??