Sex Ed. Is it Going to Far?

Question

My daughter is 13 and going into the 8th grade. However awhile back twords the end of the year i found condoms in her back-pack. So when i asked her why she told me that her Science/Health taecher was passing them out to everyone as part of there lesson thing for Sex Ed and on having safe sex!

Dont you think that passing condoms out to all the kids is just going to make them want to have sex?! Or do you think that its a good thing?

I know she got them from Sex Ed. And she knows not to have sex yet at such a young age....and yes i "would" rather have her having safe sex than not using protection at all. However I just think some of the kids can take advantage of the condoms.

But yes, its better to be safe than sorry!!

Answer 1

Would you rather have a pregnant 13 year old? Studies have shown giving out condoms does not make people have sex. They actually do show that many already were sexually active, hence giving them condoms.

Answer 2

There are several things that make teenagers want to have sex. A condom is not one in my opinion. The topic is much more complicated than most parents care to admit. Most reasons for having early sex relate to low self-esteem, and lack of sex education. The more self-esteem a teenager has, the less susceptible to peer pressure that person will be (pls don't confuse self-esteem with conceit). Peer pressure ALWAYS says 'Have sex'. A teen that has problems at home and doesn't feel accepted/loved, will look for an external surrogate in the form his/her peers and will do almost anything to gain acceptance (kind of like being in a gang to escape a bad home life). Soooo......if a teen has a good parent/child relationship, and feels secure at home, he/she will be much more likely to listen to what a loving parent is saying b/c the child senses it is well meant, even if they don't want to let you know they depend on and need your guidance. After all, teens are trying to show the world they can be independent, but they are emotionally very vulnerable. But if all fails, the last bastion of hope is that your well-adjusted teen with a good family life and sense of self will know about condoms and therefore, if she chooses to have sex, tell her partner he must use a condom . After all, unless you make her wear a chastity belt, it is ultimately her call. Sex is natural and it will happen. Sex ed and condoms increase the chance that it won't scar your teen's life when it does happen - no STDs and no unwanted pregancy. So even though it seems like a contradiction on first blush, I think it is a good thing, if it is accompanied by well thought out sex education delivered by a compontent individual.

Answer 3

No, educating kids about sex and giving them protection does not mean they will want to do it. That is a completely slippery slope argument, and it has 0 support. Stats say that the more informative a sex ed. program is in a school, the less likely those students are to become pregnant or get Sexually transmitted infections. So it's awesome that your daughter's school handed out condoms, not because she might use them (and she might anyway b/c about 15% of 13 year olds have already had sex), but because if she decides to experiment with sex she knows how to protect herself..

Answer 4

Better safe than sorry just have a talk with her and remind her that just because she has condoms does not mean that she needs to have sex. Talk openly with her but let her ask the questions. Hopefully she will keep her panties on but there are no guarantees. Not only could condoms protect her from pregnancy but they could potentially save her life. Kids are growing up sooner these days and it is hard to keep tabs on them 24/7 but if you talk to her and let her know that you trust her judgment and you trust her to make good decisions for her life and let her know that you will always love her you may be on the right track. Maybe you should talk to the school and let them know you would have been better prepared to talk with your daughter if you knew condoms were going to be passed out.

Answer 5

The people they are attracted to are going to make them want to have sex. Peer pressure will make them want to have sex. Don't be naive. Actually discussing it and at least providing those tools may save her life or prevent an unwanted pregnancy. Which would you rather have happen? Her wait, not have the right information, and get an STD, or be pregnant too soon, or for her to do it sooner but be protected and be able to live a full life. I know you want her to be your baby forever, but there came a time when you weren't someones baby anymore too. Get her on Birth Control pills. Tell her it is good for her acne, and she will be sure to take them every day. But you check to make sure that she is.

Answer 6

I think it would depends up on how much you believe you have taught your daughter about abstinence... and whether or not you think her "friends" would use peer pressure to get her to go against what she was taught.

I was 13 when the doc put me on the pill for cramps - after having a long talk with my parents and my doctor - even though I had plenty of friends who were expirimenting - I remained "intacted" all the way through high school - just because it was what I beleived was the right move for me!

Have faith in your teachinging, God's teachings, and simply ask the school to NOT provide them to your child(ren)..... its up to the other parents to decide whether it is suitable for their children.... or not!

Answer 7

I have done Sex Ed., and the teacher passing out condoms is something new, bad, and VERY GOOD!!! Where is this school?

Answer 8

I'm against giving condoms out to middle schoolers. wait till at least High school.

Answer 9

Better prepared to be safe than find out you are going to be a grandmother before your daughter is even 14.

Answer 10

you sure the condoms came from her sex ed class? I'd double check that