The church I want to join is a great church with great values. It will keep me out of trouble for the rest of my life. She doesn't like it because people have been mean to her because she hasn't join the church yet. She thinks if I join I am going to treat her badly and I'm not going to. I have made up my mind and I'm not going to change my mind which church to join because I have already chosen one.
It's a great church and there is nothing bad about it. Every time I ask her she laughs at me and changes the subject. She rufuses to let me ask her. How can I tell her this is what I really want and have her listen to me and maybe sometime soon she'll let me join without hurting her feelings?
2006-07-03 15:09:43 · 23 answers · asked by operajester 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
First of all, how old are you? If you are under 18, your mom legally has a say in what you do so get over it. Secondly, you claim "there is nothing bad about it" yet you've already told us how this "church" has harassed the woman who gave birth to you and gave you life in this world. If you cannot see that these two statements are in direct conflict, I would have to say you've been brainwashed by a cult and need professional help.
Good luck with that.
"Respect/obey thy mother" - God
2006-07-03 15:17:13 · answer #1 · answered by PALADIN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a saying that what an old woman will sit down and see a child will stand and will never be able to see;It may be that the church you want to go isn't a good one.You must know that not all the churches have good teachings and for that reason your mom wouldn't like you to join it.It could also be that your mom isn't a believer and wouldn't like you to be part of a good church .The only way you can convince your mother is through effective prayers and you would be able to over come her .You can also ask her to give you her reasons and you use the Bible to compare but prayer is the only key and solution to the problem at stake amen
2006-07-03 15:27:13 · answer #2 · answered by Gideon G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. If god is leading you to this church then do what you know in your heart to be the right thing. However I question your moms reasoning for not wanting you to join a church. Most parents would be thrilled that their child wants to join a church(it's not like it's a gang). You want to know god and their is nothing wrong with that. Your mom needs to grow up. People are going to be mean to you no matter where you go. I think she is having reservations for some other reason cause that little people pick on me routine is really immature, she needs to save that one for the 5 year olds.
2006-07-03 15:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by Lin_Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to think about if you want to join a church who would be mean to your own mother because she hasn't joined the church... God doen't hate anyone..or wouldn't be mean to anyone.. so what gives a church and the ppl who belong to it the right to treat ppl whom just havn't came to the point of believing or joining the membership yet badly... That isn't what religion is about.. I would look at the situation and wonder if maybe your mom has a point..
2006-07-03 15:15:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has no problem with you going to Mass or church activities, then i'm no longer certain why she has an difficulty with you studying about what the Church teaches -- this is what takes position in the time of maximum of RCIA. this is in straight forward words on the latter part of it that those who settle on they favor to remodel are prepared to receive the sacraments. you would possibly want to recognize her proper to have an opinion about the Church, yet in very reality you're the right age to make this determination for your self. notwithstanding, if she will change into adamant about it, there is that commandment about honoring your moms and fathers ... and your faith shouldn't change right into a battleground between you. If it receives to that aspect, then talk with the priest about the priority back and ask for his advice. Edit: Is it purely the providing this is an difficulty? She need no longer experience undesirable. there is not any expectation; human beings supply as they're in a position, and some are purely no longer in a position in any respect. no individual takes know who places what contained in the basket.
2016-11-30 06:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but this does not sound like the kind of place anyone should join. Why would you want to join a place that does not respect your Mother. How can this place teach you the Bible, when one of God's Great Commandments is Honor your Father and your Mother. How can they teach you to Honor her if they don't . If you Love your Mother then stay as far away from this place as you can get. Find you a Church that teaches and preaches the real Word of God
2006-07-03 15:34:12 · answer #6 · answered by PREACHER'S WIFE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to let her know that you are joining the church for a deeper relationship with God not for the people. She is your mother and you will always love her. You can't change people and NO matter what church you join you will Always find people that can be nasty, & you just don't associate with them. You have to do whats right for you and in the end just continually show her that you still love her. Pray on the matter and put it in God's hand. He will take care of it and he will put everything in order.
2006-07-03 15:43:33 · answer #7 · answered by Krys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself WHY you feel this church is so great. Why were they mean to your mother? Why weren't they mean to you? Will they turn on you too if they don't approve of something. You can't be mean to someone who hasn't joined your church, if they are, then they don't know JESUS! Find another church, this one church won't "keep you out of trouble for the rest of your life".
Church is not about excluding others, it's about worshipping and learning about GOD.
2006-07-03 15:27:45 · answer #8 · answered by jess1978 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'll say just one thing- the congregation shouldn't treat your mother badly because she won't join the church. i will vouch for the congregation and say that they probably have a good reason for treating your mother badly, if that is ever possible. they may worry that she may not ever get saved, like the way you might. to be perfectly honest, i understand.
you know, you probably still live under your mother's roof and if you do it might be best to listen to her until you are older and preferably have a job of your own. if you don't live under her roof anymore then you can go ahead and go to this church you so humbly enjoy. if it bothers you that the congregations talks about your mother badly, and treats her badly maybe you want to ask them to stop. if they don't change, or at least refuse to, maybe pray for you to change so that you may be a light for them: maybe if you change, they will. if they change your mom may and consider coming to church with you.
pray and leave it in God's hands. nothing bigger than that
2006-07-03 15:20:49 · answer #9 · answered by tinerr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you old enough to decide for yourself, legally and morally? Whatever your answer to that question is, remember, you have only one mother and you should honor her.
Church should promote harmony and good will not only among members, but among mother and child as well. Sometimes the Church is not at fault, but its members are. I am not sure this church is for you. Are you sure you don't just want to join because of fellowship with some of the members of that congregation?
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2006-07-03 15:24:40 · answer #10 · answered by H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋