My friend is a Muslim...we (his non-Muslim school friends) NEVER try to talk him out of Islam, nor do we use any forms of drugs or commit crimes. We respect him, his family, & his faith.
He has introduced us to his family, but it seems they really don't like us too much & especially don't like him being our friend.
Why is this? Is there any way for us to better the situation?
Please help!
Peace Be With You.
2006-07-03 14:50:56 · 21 answers · asked by BeforeDelilah 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
as a note, I know quite a lot about the religion & culture. I adore it & am studying it in college. Knowing what I know, I'd rather have his family like me, than have him lie to them about being friends with us.
2006-07-03 14:58:43 · update #1
just be his friend.....forget the parents
2006-07-03 14:54:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Muslim family has their own issues and beliefs and
nothing can be done to change that.No matter what you try
they do not fully understand our culture and you should always be true to yourself because if your not your lying to yourself
It is very kind of you to try to be the best you can be for your Muslim friend but you don't need to change your life for him.
His family will eventually like u or not at all.But that is not your problem,ask the son what is up with that?
2006-07-03 21:59:44 · answer #2 · answered by countrykarebare 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Religion is a sensitive topic for many people, in all faiths.
Just try and be his friend - someone's religion is just one component or facet of the gazillions of other attributes that make up a person. Find something else you have in common, earn his trust that you're not trying to convert him or win him over, and that should begin to earn his family's trust.
Be patient. Forcing a friendship, I think, will make his family even more suspicious of you. Earn their trust that you want to know him for him, religion aside.
2006-07-03 21:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by rt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to ask him what you can do to make his parents feel more at ease with you. Ask him if they'd like you to greet them in a particular way, etc.
Be sure not to point the soles of your feet at them, as that is considered very rude. You might see if you can assure them that you respect his faith and culture. I'm sorry, but I didn't check to see whether you were male or female. They might be afraid that you're interested in each other romantically.
It might not even be a religious issue, but could be some other problem entirely. Have him ask his parents what he thinks of you guys and what concerns they have about you.
2006-07-03 21:55:31 · answer #4 · answered by lalasnake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no harm in making friendship with non-muslims as long as they don't influence one religion (islam).
I think your friend's family may be afraid of this factor or they are culturly scared.
Don't worry about that and try to tell them that we are not going to distract your son by any means and his religious integrity will remain intact.
2006-07-03 23:35:37 · answer #5 · answered by A muslim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably they think that he will be influenced by you all. You have to understand that most Muslims have values that are very different from the western value trends. It's better for you to learn more about
Muslim society,culture and values before you can deal with that matter.
2006-07-03 21:56:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be friendly. maybe his family is a little bit on guard right now considering how many people in the world today are against us, muslims. they may feel unpleasant with your surroundings because they could just possibly be scared that you and your friends might make fun of them and their faith. just be nice. show that you are warm and kind. and most of all, show that you are a tolerant person to any religion. good luck! =)
2006-07-03 21:58:05 · answer #7 · answered by anak sendu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They do not trust you because often non-Muslims are critical, evangelistic, racist, prejudiced, etc. towards Muslims. All that you can do is to be good friends. Perhaps in time the family will understand that you are not a threat and accept you.
2006-07-03 21:55:58 · answer #8 · answered by Raymond C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just show more respect to Islam.A good suggestion is to try to say "happy Ramadan" or "happy Eid" in their relkigious holidays. Do not forget that Muslism are normally very very conservative people and they do not like social relationships with non muslims
2006-07-03 21:57:15 · answer #9 · answered by peace_lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, be his friend...I'm not a Muslim but I'd just stay away from the parents. They usually don't like anybody that isn't Muslim anyway so you're friendship is rare.
2006-07-03 22:12:02 · answer #10 · answered by Sweetgal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to show them what a gr8 person u are....they mite not trust u because they might have this image of non-muslim boys(prob involved in drugs etc)
so show them that u are not like that .... be urself around
be thoughtful and nice....after seeing that u are truly a gr8 person they will like u
(maybe they had an bad experience with another non-muslim friend of his)
2006-07-04 00:49:59 · answer #11 · answered by icehot_pk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋