his friend. which he has known for a very long time, they hang out alot, and I think he believes anything or goes for anything the friend says.. well his friend is saying that it is mainly my fault becuase I got pregnant cuz he lost his virginity to me and i got him liking sex without a condom and all this stupid ****.and also because he knows i like sex alot and he makes it seem that i am the one ALWAYS wanting sex!!. it makes me feel bad.. my boyfriend just said calm down it it not your fault. what should I do? please help me!! ASAP thank you
2006-07-03 14:41:30 · 18 answers · asked by sarah e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
forget about what his friend said.......hunny......if his friend is saying that s**t to you then he sure as hell is NOT a friend of your bf. Plus his friend would stick behind him......but anyways go to a Planned Parenthood and find out for yourself and bring your bf too. its confidential and your parents or/& his dont have to come......trust me i have been to one more than once and it may not be the best place in the world to find out if you are or not but eventually you will have. other than that.....what are you doing NOT USING A CONDOM? Thats stupid but if he decided on it and you did too then its not stupid but if you just did it for the sex WITHOUT a condom then you really do need to go to a planned parenthood.
2006-07-03 14:50:17 · answer #1 · answered by fryeindustries2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not really your fault because your still a child and your boyfriend is an adult in the eye's law he is guilty of rape and if I were your parent his *** would be behind bars where it belongs. because you see in the eyes of the law it does not matter if you like sex or agreed to it. the law does not care but what they do care about is that an adult had sex with a child. being an adult means having resposibilites and he showed none. I am not trying to upset you just show you that this is a classic case of what happens when children try and grow up to fast. i know your 17 so you say and soon you will be an adult this law will stay in effect for 12 years because the law says so. If the law does find out within the 12 years he has sex with you and can still go to prison some courts will force him to marry you rather then spend his time in jail others may drop it and some will make an example out of him and make him serve the time. Looks like you could use some luck so yeah good luck.
2006-07-03 21:53:08 · answer #2 · answered by Savage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoever is more responsible should be the father. The biological father doesnt mean anything, you have the earn the name of father and you should choose the one who is going to get a better job and have a better chance of raising the child right. Just go with the child and keep close to your boyfriend. Dont give up hope, it's not over and you are just starting your life early, thats all. Raising a child is hard, but you must go threw with it and not worry. Stay close to who you love. This will work out, trust me.
2006-07-03 21:48:35 · answer #3 · answered by AJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there ya go..it takes two to make a baby ..if you weren't raped then the 'blame' is on both of you....But now the real fun starts! It wont be long until you are too tired for sex (2 am feedings) hope your b/f has a good job and lots of cash to support that kid......( you are gonna get sick of buying and changing diapers) Good luck!
2006-07-03 21:48:12 · answer #4 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was 15 boyfriend was 21 how do your parents feel about it do thay know you are sexually active you need to talk to them because of potential legal problems with your age and about who's fault it is it takes 2 to tango and even if you 2 had used a condom pregnacy happens thats how i got prenet with a condon so tell the friend that... good luck hun and congrats
2006-07-03 21:48:43 · answer #5 · answered by Wendi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who's gonna raise the baby? Their opinion is the only one that counts BUT if you didn't want to get pregnant why were you having unprotected sex? And haven't you ever heard of AIDS?
2006-07-03 21:49:59 · answer #6 · answered by angelpockets 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even worry about it...its just a stupid friend with a stupid opinion. As long as your boyfriend doesn't feel that way, don't worry about it.
2006-07-03 21:48:18 · answer #7 · answered by jessdjnick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1, Who's more important to him ?. Is it you,or his so called friends?. If they were really his friends, they wouldn't be tearing him down with their off the wall opinions!. Tell him how you feel about this talking going on & how it makes you feel,& if he really cares for you he'll stick up for you to these so called friends!!
2006-07-03 21:54:02 · answer #8 · answered by sqishieears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give that baby up for adoption. You are both too stupid to be parents.
2006-07-03 21:49:41 · answer #9 · answered by lavenderroseford 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hate to make you feel bad but loosing your virginity before marrage always leads to trouble... good luck with the parents!
2006-07-03 21:46:07 · answer #10 · answered by teehee311 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋