i have scars from si on my lower arms that are highly visible, now that it is warm weather, i can't wear long sleeves...what should i say to nosey people???
2006-07-03 14:39:37 · 20 answers · asked by running2adream 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I have the same problem.
I have visible scars on my arms, just below my shoulders.
I used to tell people that my cat did it.
Then I started telling people the truth.
"They are my battle scars."
"Dude, you were in Iraq or Something?"
"No. It was a battle fought within myself."
And sometimes they get it and sometimes they tell me I'm nuts.
I wasn't trying to kill myself. Wrong location for the cut anyway.
But people will always be that way.
2006-07-03 17:58:57 · answer #1 · answered by Martha M 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell them the truth - they'll regret asking, and you'll never have see them again. Or just walk away. I have a friend who's in a wheelchair, and if someone she's knows or even has talked to for a minute asks her why she'll tell them, but one time someone just asked her when she was walking past what happened and she just kept walking. I think that's what you should do when people ask about your scars, cause in a way it's the same - a medical thing that you might be sensitive about so people shouldn't just randomly be asking about it.
2006-07-03 22:02:41 · answer #2 · answered by Ellie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the truth. honesty is the best policy; besides, you have nothing to hide, right? some people will be nosy, but smart people won't mention the scars at all. just keep in mind that the people that are asking aren't as mature as others and probably mean no harm by it.
or, if you can't / don't want to tell the truth, (which is completely understandable, and your choice) cover them with concealer. aveda makes a really good one that covers most scars fairly well.
2006-07-03 21:45:35 · answer #3 · answered by Tory W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother was in a horrendous accident...over 400 stitches on one side of his face...and really had some scarring. He got used to people staring...every once in a while a close friend would ask...and he would talk.
One day a little kid, like 5 years old asked him "Why is your face bleeding?" (It wasn't...but it sure looked like at one point it had). And, he answered the kid. He would always talk to little kids cause they don't really know the rules or whatever...what is polite or not.
It was the adults he DIDN'T know that really got to him. Sometimes he would stare right back. Sometimes he would say "excuse me??" as if they had said something. Sometimes they would ask...and he would simply say "I'm sorry, but that is not something I talk about".
I don't know that it will ever end for you. But...if little kids ever ask you...give them a break. You might even help them without knowing it!
2006-07-03 22:25:51 · answer #4 · answered by tsbr1963 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very difficult to have people stare I'm sure. It is painful and everyone wants to be attractive. I think the issue is not to let it stop you from living or enjoying your life. Rather let your personality come out. smile be pleasant that is the most attractive thing about anyone. your scars may not go away but how you deal with them will effect your happiness.
wishing all the best
2006-07-03 21:47:40 · answer #5 · answered by mkl2695 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to love your scars. They are a part of who you are.
For Strangers:
Recognize that it is human nature for people to stare at what is different, and learn not to take it the wrong way. Also realize that people might even be taken aback from looking at them, and it is again a natural reaction, not a mean one. Learn to ignore little kids that are curious and perhaps even mean or rude without them realizing it.
For People you are close to:
Learn to talk to them about it. They might want to know how it happened, if it hurts, blah blah blah. Learn to use it as a bonding tool with people you really care about. Be comfortable talking about it. It is who you are, and it does not make you any less of a person.
I have a similar problem with one of my legs. Knowing that there is no way for me to hide it, I confronted it, and I learnt to cope with it.
2006-07-04 06:16:51 · answer #6 · answered by Guhu 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If they ask, lie. It's none of their business. I have a horrible scar on my hand and when people ask me about it I make up a horrible lie that makes them feel like sh*%t for asking. If they don't ask, screw em, your hot **** and you know it. They have no lives if all they want to do is stare at your scars.
2006-07-03 23:14:01 · answer #7 · answered by ricodiva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just so rude and it hurts others. Ignore them and they'll go away. I'm sure you're a very beautiful person so stop worrying about what others think of you and enjoy your life......it sure goes by quickly
2006-07-03 21:56:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just smile and tell them I don't remember.
Then, I quickly change the subject. After awhile, people get the hint that it's none of their business and they stop asking.
2006-07-03 21:45:07 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ ☆ StarLiteGrl~98☼1 ☆ ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not comfortable telling them the truth just say it was from an accident when you were very young and leave it at that. It works for me anyway.
2006-07-03 21:44:48 · answer #10 · answered by whitetrashwithmoney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋