why I slapped him, I told him to get out and he wasnt lisening to me. Am I evil???
2006-07-03 14:33:17 · 21 answers · asked by GTZEVRYTHNG 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I do feed my kid...he just always want to have something in his mouth.
2006-07-03 14:37:34 · update #1
AND NO I dont beat my kid I rarely hit him unless he does not listen after the third time.
2006-07-03 14:38:38 · update #2
no your not evil .
2006-07-03 14:36:30 · answer #1 · answered by camarozsonia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started slapping my son's hand for touching DVD players, electrical outlets, the vacuum, etc when he was bout 5 months old and beginning to prove he understood things. I combined it with a "NO hands" and now that he is two, all I need to do is say "no hands" and he won't touch anything no matter where we are. A little discipline is good. An arm turning red is not a big deal, its if you slap them repeatedly or really hard and they get a welt that you would need to feel bad. Eating out of the garbage is a new one to me, mine likes cat food.
By the way, if your kid is very pale skinned, like mine, they will turn red on their skin from giving a hug, so the red skin means nothing.
2006-07-03 21:40:58 · answer #2 · answered by elliecow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not evil. I have a 22 month old and I have slapped his hand on occasion. It CAN happen -- but if this occurs regularly or if you feel like you want to hit him regularly you need help.
Best thing to do is pick him up and remove him by saying NO very strongly. You might even have to put him in a playpen or crib for two minutes of crying so he gets the point.
Act immediately and deciseively and consistently, so he knows you mean business when you say NO.
Hitting is usually counterproductive -- I reserve it (in conjuntion with the above) for when he goes near a hot stove or lets go of my hand on the sidewalk and heads for the street. Dangerous situations.
Hope this helps
2006-07-03 21:40:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you evil? No, if you were, you would not feel bad. Did you overreact? I don't know, I was not there. It is important to be patient with toddlers, though I know that is easier said than done. Don't dwell on it, just think ahead and decide on an action plan, what you are going to do when he does not listen or anything else, that way, you will be less likely to react out of emotion. Don't worry, you have not damaged him, most adults grew up being spanked or smacked on the hand and in my opinion, when used properly, we are better for it.
God Bless!
2006-07-03 21:40:05 · answer #4 · answered by anonglass62 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not evil. You are human and a parent. I'm sure you love your kid but- Please don't do it again.
Slapping doesn't help and it could hurt him. Being a parent is tough enough. All children push the limits, some more than others. Next time something like that happens (and it certainly will), take him to his room for "time out". When he is ready to listen to you, then try to explain in a way he can understand. No spanking and no hitting please. It will not help.
2006-07-03 21:42:13 · answer #5 · answered by Zelda Hunter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi
well first of all try not to too bad, it is important he learns not to eat from the garbage, i dont know how old he is, but tell him no no in a stern voice, say yuck stick your tounge out, and then pick him up and move him to something else. he is partly feeling curious and then maybe a little hungry give him a snack. i am a stay at home mom and your nerves can get shot sometime. take some crackers or cheerios and go out side for a while, give him some hugs and tell him that wasnt good at all! and feel better! your not the only one who has felt like crap after correcting your little one-when you know better you do better! take care rayjenne
2006-07-03 21:40:01 · answer #6 · answered by rayjenne24 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why the hell would he be eating out of the trash...do you feed your child?
Never give him a food after he does that though thats just a sign that he is hungary. Then he will do it again so he can get real food.
Next time make sure you tell him.
NO DINNER! or something like that then he will stop for sure.
if you are going to hit not the arm go for the but! It s called a spanking and it works just dont use a wooden spoon!
2006-07-03 21:40:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not evil, but there are other ways, my son gets into everything so somethings with things that are dangerous like the garbage I put it on the landing behind the gate. and he also reaches drawers that i put my knives in so I keep the on the counter where he can reach.
as a parent we need to keep are emotions intacted and use other methods like time outs or getting down to their eye level and be the parent and be stern you should never hit a child because the tells them that hitting is okay and it is not.
2006-07-03 21:41:31 · answer #8 · answered by sasssy00 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.. I sometimes pinch or tap my toddler's hand when she's up to no good.. not until the hands are red though.. just enough for me to get the message across that whatever she was doing is a big No No
2006-07-03 21:38:01 · answer #9 · answered by cadbury FREAK!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no. eating out of the garbage is disguisting. he'll thank you later on in your life. my mom slapped me a couple times when i did some, bad stuff and i still love her. its a good way for the child to learn, you dont do that or i'll be punished and no one wants to be punished.
2006-07-03 21:37:37 · answer #10 · answered by pookie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
CPS needs to be told about you. You deserve a medal for taking a stand. Kids need constant reminder and directions.
2006-07-03 21:37:01 · answer #11 · answered by Nocsotulb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋