Why people got divorced knowing that it wrecks their childern's lives?

Question

Malachi 2:16
"I hate divorce," says the LORD God of Israel, "and I hate a man's covering himself with violence as well as with his garment," says the LORD Almighty. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith.

Matthew 5
Divorce
31"It has been said, 'Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.'[f] 32But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.

Mark 10
Divorce
1Jesus then left that place and went into the region of Judea and across the Jordan. Again crowds of people came to him, and as was his custom, he taught them.
2Some Pharisees came and tested him by asking, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?"

3"What did Moses command you?" he replied.

4They said, "Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her away."

5"It was because your hearts were hard that Moses wrote you this law," Jesus replied. 6"But at the beginning of creation God 'made them male and female.'[a] 7'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,[b] 8and the two will become one flesh.'[c] So they are no longer two, but one. 9Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."

it's not a matter of judging. no one plays judge here.

but do people know that it is not right to have a divorce?

i just want to know what people think...

can't relationships maintained and fix? divorce seems like everybody just gives up?

Matthew 5:32 = It is ok to get divorced because of marital unfaithfulness of the other person.

hey laila... which bible are you quoting from? that does not sound right! I'm using the NIV...

Answer 1

Yes, it does wreck everyone. But sometimes it is the best thing to do. Any time there is unfaithfulness in a marriage, it can not be saved unless the victim decides to sacrifice the rest of their life for the good of the children. That is a noble thing to do , but it cost that person happiness for the rest of their life. It is a hard choice with no easy answer. It becomes easy to place blame on someone for all the pain you feel. It looks like you are a christian. Hold on to God through this bad time. You will be surprised how far He can carry you. He has carried me for 16 years now. He will never leave you or forsake you.

Answer 2

People have focused so much time developing themselves and their interests that by the time they marry they are set in their ways. They are not willing to work things out anymore because after all they don't need each other anymore. Woman no longer need the husband to provide and the men no longer have the wife to take care of the house or children. The children spend most of their time in daycare anyway so there probably isn't that much difference in their day to day lives. This shouldn't happen among church going people but most of them have become caught up in the women' s lib movement. I look at personals ads written by christian men all the time and they all seem to be divorced and seem to put more emphasis on a woman having a job and being independent rather than will she be a Godly wife that will commit to me for life.

Answer 3

Most of the time it is for selfish reasons, instead of working things out it seems easier to go different ways. But that is the big lie. The split is just the beginning of many years of problems because of the divorce. The Kids pay the big price because the parents use them to get back at each other. It is no wonder of the sad state of the family today.

Answer 4

First of all, a marriage that is in jeopardy should be ended, because if not, it causes more pain than good for all people involved.

And Malachai 2:16
"For he who hates [his wife] should divorce [her], says Hashem, G-d of Israel! He covers injustice with his garment, says Hashem, Master of legions! Guard your spirit and do not commit betrayal."
If you're going to quote the book. Do it right.

Well. I put the source right there. And its not a bible. It would be the ACTUAL text.

Answer 5

The main cause is usally selfish motives of one of the partners. Today's free lifestyle has a lot to do with divorce. When alll of this happens the children are out of the picture. Stay stronge and look for help. J Kelly

Answer 6

The biblical passages you quote are not relevant to the lives of most people. Most don't believe or follow your bible.

That said, sometimes life for the children is better when the parents are divorced. The parents are happier and are better parents when they aren't involved in what is most likely a bad marriage. A happier person makes a happier parent.

Answer 7

I'll answer the actual question in your subject line by saying this: my parents divorced, and it's the best thing they could have done for me and my sister. They fought constantly, and Dad was angry, frustrated, and drunk all the time. Moving us away from that made us both into well-adjusted people who understand things don't always work as planned, and that everyone can make a mistake.

Answer 8

A more pertinent question would be: Should parents stay together regardless of how miserable they are? Isn't it at least plausible that in some cases the best course of action overall is for them to divorce? A couple who hate being together aren't a great example for their kids.

Answer 9

99% of the time, it is because they are selfish.

There are sometimes reasons to get divorced, but they are rare.

Society has told us that we have to be 100% "happy" 100% of the time but that is just not possible. So when people become unhappy, which everyone does, they think there is something wrong, something that someone else will be able to fix. The problem is that someone else will not fix it, it will just repeat itself.

Answer 10

In my case i divorced my first husband because he was emotionally abusive towards me and my son and he was unfaithful to me and we couldn't get along. Sometimes it is better to divorce and let the child see you apart but happy then be together and fighting all the time and always unhappy in front of the child.