Advice needed pleasee!!?

Question

Ok my family doesn't like to except the fact that I have a steady boyfriend now and I'm growing up. I'm 16 years old and have been dating my boyfriend for about 6 months, and my family still insists on calling him my "friend" and they constantly tell me not to get too deep with him. But i really do love him...so how do i let them except that?

Answer 1

Parents always find it hard to accept their children are growing up. They are concerned for you and worried to might get too physical with your boyfriend before you are truly emotionally ready for that step.

The best thing to do is to communicate openly with your parents. Let them know how you feel and genuinely listen to their concerns. Chances are, they only have your best interests in mind.

Make sure when you talk, that everyone is calm and nobody is upset. When you engage in a screaming match, instead of a conversation, people often say very hurtful things, and you can never truly take those words back.

Best of luck.

Answer 2

well sweetie, ur parents are right in a sense. i was 16 also when i had a steady boyfriend. my family constantly called him "my friend" that's just something older people esp. parents say no matter how long u have been seeing a person. the thing is ur young and it's okay to have a boyfriend, but don't get too close, trust me. in the end, when u put ur all and all into the relationship u will get hurt. i surely was hurt and deceived. college sort of torn us apart, at first i couldn't accept it and all i could do was cry and feel hurt because after 2 years i had developed a relationship with him and i actually thought we were getting somewhere. he started to act differently when we went to college and i couldn't accept that he just wanted to be friends with me. i now understand what i was being told in the beginning; don't put ur all and all because in the end something may hurt u very badly emotionally that he may do. continue to have fun, but do it in the right way accept what ur parents are saying because it could help u out in a alot of ways. i wish u the best, u will see other guys through out high school and college and u may feel that u love this guy, but ur actually too young to really know the true meaning of "love". Good luck with ur relationship

Answer 3

If you are acting immature at home, then of course they're not going to trust you with your boyfriend. So first start by taking some resposibility - cook, clean, help out, do your chores. That way your parents will start taking you seriously and respect you. Then, after a couple of weeks, sit them down on a quiet evening, and tell them what's in your heart. Tell them that you really love this guy and even though you might be young, and even though this is probably the guy you don't want to marry, you still want to have a serious relationship, even if it's just for experience. If they refuse, ask them what is the problem. If they want to get to know him better, then bring him over for dinner so that your parents can see that he's a great guy. I hope this helps! Good luck.

Answer 4

You're only 16, love isn't the same when you're 16 as when you're 25, or even 18. Your family is afraid of you growing up too fast and probably of you having sex with him. Also, when you get involved in a relationship your moods are greatly affected by how good/bad the relationship is going. If you have a fight you might be too upset to study for that big test and fail. Your parents have every reason in the world to worry.

Answer 5

Your parents love you and do not want to see you make the same mistakes.

You're 16 and from conversations and track records, there will be a couple two or three more beaus in your life that you'll say you love and can't live without.

At 16, your focus should be in being the best student you can be and attempt to make a decision on your life's goals.

At 16 harmones work overtime - aaaaaaaaaaa pregnancy!!!

Take care!

Answer 6

Studies have shown that love at your age is every bit as deep as love when you are older, but a lot of people have a hard time believing that you are "mature" ejnough to really know what love is.

I would not spend a great deal of time and energy trying to convince them that your feelings are real. Let them call your boyfriend your friend or whatever...as long as they allow him to attend family events and participate in your life, it doesn't matter how THEY feel about him...ultimately your relationship with him is just between him and you.

Answer 7

That is so cute but the fact is that at 16 you have no real clue about love and the responsibilities that come with it. That may not be something your parents feel that your ready for and sorry to say that mostly will not last. Your young, have fun and enjoy your youth. I know you think your family is wrong, but one day you shall see the truth in their words.

Answer 8

I think your parents are just having a hard time excepting the fact that you are growing up! Talk to them a little more about it and eventually they should understand! I mean after all they were your age once!

Answer 9

You could explain to them that it may or may not last forever, but he is making you happy now and that is all that should matter. If you guys do break up and you do get hurt, it's ok, because it is all part of growing up and living. Everyone has to go through that.
As long as you are not harming anyone, then what is the problem?

Answer 10

the only reason i'm answering, is because you sound like me when I was 16! Sweetheart, NO ONE knows what love is at 16, nor do you know what you want. Life has lots of surprises, and unfortunately, once your in your 30's you realize, hey, my parents were right, my parents both died before I could tell them that I realize they knew what they were talking about.