how can I meet a guy who accepts me for who I am?

Question

I have gained alot of weight after losing my son8-2005.I used food for comfort.I am 66 and men dont seem to like heavy women even at my age.I can lose but kind of need a push and incentives I am really lonley since losing my son so recently.I feel like there is nothing left.I need some friends. I am a loner and dont do anything but go to work and back

Answer 1

i am sorry about your son, i cant even imagine the pain and depression that it can cause, is understandible, howeve there are alot of things you can do to get away from that cicle, the first thing is a good friend who helps you along the way and listens to you, before you know it you'll be on your way,, perhaps i could help you, e mail me at [e-mail] so we can talk and get to know more about you, in the mean time plz, take extra good care of yourself, and keep your head up....always.

Answer 2

I'm not too sure whether you're too old for it or not, but what I like to do when times are rough is to ride on my BMX bike. It's great. I lose weight and land some pretty killer jumps. It's a cool way to meet friends too. There are usually some halfpipes at the local parks and if you made an appearance, I'm sure you'd be welcomed. Good luck with the weight problem and remember that life is a gift and it can be very fragile at times. It's still worth living for though. Your son wouldn't have wanted to see you suffer.

Answer 3

I am sorry about your loss. I would recommend a local grief support group. If you have any hobbies, try to find like-minded individuals in your area, they could end up being friends.

As far as romance goes, there are a lot of singles groups out there. If you attend a church, they might have one.

There are also a lot of resources here on the Internet. Search Yahoo for people who have the same interests as you.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Can you join a local YMCA or fitness club? There are lots of seniors that attend the local fitness facility that I go to. You would have fun, maybe lose a few pounds and possibly meet a nice man. Have more confidence in yourself to. There are plenty of men that like heavy women. Just believe in yourself.

Answer 5

I know what you mean. I'm not only overweight, but I have serious sleep problems, I'm on disability and people always want to change me to be just like them. They don't understand that I want to work and why I'm not. I could go on.

I have found a guy from an on-line singles. You have to ignore a bunch of jerks to find the one that seems right. We'll see- he's in England taking care of a sick mother. If you join an on-line singles you have to ignore the strange ones- mostly young who like to play games. You immediately delete any guy who's conversation begins with "want to view my webcam".. Ugh.

good luck

Answer 6

then there is your incentive..
it has been said women who come fresh from the divorce find dating tough, this is because to men they have both emotioanl unresolved bagagge as well as weight gain. soon they hurry to lose the weight and try to get back to there former selves ,when they were first attactrive to the opposite sex, most womne seem to forget this and take it for granted the man they marry will alwasys desire her, even if hse gains weight, wear fumpy clothing, butch cuts her hair, starts nagging him, in short unfeminizes herself. you alone hold the key to success or failure in finding someone new, a overweight women is symptommatic of lethargy, emotioanl comfort from food and one who clings to much to the past, your son's death, tragic as it was , must be left as a a rememberance of the good parts of his life. think of him on a long trip and which he neve returns, but in your mind he occasinal calls you to say he loves you. with that you can move foward.

Answer 7

The best way I've found to meet a decent guy is to get involved in a group or organization that really interests me. That way, I'm enjoying myself, feel fulfilled, and my focus is the quality of my own life, rather that finding a guy. However, the cool thing about that is, I find that someone who is also enjoying his own life in that group or organization actually enjoys my company, and visa-versa! (Hint: my guy found me at church and we've been happily married for about 20 years. Your relationship to the Lord has everything to do with our relationship to others!)

Answer 8

I am very sorry to hear about your loss. Having friends should have nothing to do with your weight. You need to find someone who likes you for you! If the like you because you're thin. Then they wouldn't really be your friend. I wish you the best of luck!!!

Answer 9

Get active in the community. Volunteer. Join a book club. Do something that gets you out and about. You might then have a chance to meet someone.

Answer 10

well, i've used food for comfort as well. that's a problem because there's ALWAYS a GOOD reason to eat a whole cheesecake!

in my opinion, for what that's worth, i would seek counseling. they can help you sort things out and deal with your pain without resorting to food or drugs to dull the pain.

as far as finding mr right, he's out there somewhere. i'm sure of it. i think good places to look for him would be at church or maybe in some community activities or heck, he may be hiding out at a local college taking some night classes---it happens.

i don't think he'd be in bars or nightclubs--so i'd steer clear of those places.

i'm sorry about the loss of your son, it hurts like hell to lose a kid. best of luck in finding a way to deal with your pain that doesn't involve food---counseling is great! and best of luck in your search for mr right---he's out there, i'm sure you'll find him.

(Hey----don't forget to pray about this, ok?)