'm 18 so marriage is a long time in the future (i'm about to start college full time..). The fact that i'm waiting has never really been an issue (except now he's way more "playful" than he used to be...but hey, we've been going out 7 months), so will me waiting actually become an issue? how difficult will it be?
i feel confidant moving in with him, except for this issue...
2006-07-03 13:18:52 · 19 answers · asked by beth a 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
guess all i gotta do is love and have faith in my bf.
2006-07-03 15:20:59 · update #1
explain that to him
if u move in together set rules
separte rooms if u have too
but the best thing to do is to talk to him
if he loves u
he'll understand
2006-07-03 13:23:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it!
Ever heard the saying why buy the cow when you can get the milk free?
Why marry the girl when you can have sex without being married?
You are about to start college, do NOT throw away your future now. You need to get your education free from all the worry about missed periods and possible pregnancy scares. Rest assured HE thinks that if you move in together that means SEX for him. The two of you better sit down and have a long talk about each other's expectations BEFORE you pack your bags g/f!
2006-07-03 20:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beth you say you are confident except for this issue, but Beth this the biggest issue asside from abuse. if he truly cares for you in such a short time he will respect what you want if not then he is not the right one. Also even if you two do agree, it is all to common to live together with the intention of waiting then feelings and hormones kick in which is much pressure. I would wait if I was you and hopefully wait till you are married to live together. GOD BLESS and Good Luck!
2006-07-03 20:27:49 · answer #3 · answered by Jake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad move. Never think about moving in with someone, especially whenyou seem to have your life headed in the right direction,. He may not be the one for you. You are smart to wait for sex. Yes it is going to be an issue if you hold out. He will continue to wonder why can't you get closer. You need to define right now what your limits are. If you move in together, then you are sending a mixed message. Will you be sleeping in two separate rooms? I think not. If he is for you, he will respect you and wait. Mr. right may be in college waiting on you. THis guy can pull you down if you get sexually involved. It's time to back up and get your priorities in order.
I wish you well.
2006-07-03 20:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by "Q" 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your principles. I wouldn't move in with him because it would be very hard to live together and stay a virgin - especially if you can't get married for four more years. Waiting will be difficult but worth it. You can make it easier for yourself by not going "as far as you can without going all the way."
2006-07-03 20:23:46 · answer #5 · answered by rosemary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its great that you are sticking to your guns and what you belive in. If your boyfriend truely loves you, you should be able to approach him with this problem, without himbacking away. Explain your beliefs and how you are feeling. Sometimes you have to lay down the rules also, don't let him walk all over you ok? Trent
2006-07-03 20:23:06 · answer #6 · answered by City C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know you can't move in with him and remain a virgin. If you think so, you are lying to yourself. I congratulate you for having made a very good decision and sticking with it up to now. You are playing with fire. If he doesn't respect your decision enough to help you keep it by cooling things off and not spending much time alone together, and making a joint decision to keep your relationship right and clean for the future, you have to let him go in order to keep your promise to yourself, and your self respect. God honors the decision you made. Keep it and He will send you someone wonderful.
2006-07-03 20:32:35 · answer #7 · answered by choo-Choos Mom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well to me 7 months isnt a very long time. but if you feel comfortable with moving in go ahead just make sure your boyfriend knows the limits.
2006-07-03 20:23:09 · answer #8 · answered by MiZZ CURiiOUS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him straight out : NO DEAL !!! If he cannot respect your wishes, he does not respect YOU. Hold firm to what you believe, and do not let him or anyone pressure you. EVER. If you have to add "....except for this issue..." then you are not that comfortable with him.
2006-07-03 20:25:18 · answer #9 · answered by parkmaven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take you time there is no need to rush. I have this friend that is nineteen and is still a virgin He just didn't Ms. Right yet. Just tell him you just don't feel like you should have sex before you get married.
2006-07-03 20:27:51 · answer #10 · answered by Jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋