i have never had sex and i have herd that it hurts a girl the first time........so YOU tell me if it hurts and mostly WHY......im 18 i am waiting for the right guy but tell me why dose it hurt the first time........im realy kinda scared and mayby if i no why it hurts i wont be as scared......thats why i asked that Q
2006-07-03 13:11:27 · 10 answers · asked by martini 2 in Health ➔ Other - Health
If it's going to hurt, it will hurt despite your age. Some hymens are thicker then others, those hurt more and bleed more. Mine must have been thin because I was 15 and It didn't hurt at all and according to the guy who said it will hurt more the younger you are I guess I should have been in a lot of pain (kind of like a male gynecologist telling you it won't hurt, you'll just feel some pressure, men don't always know too much about a woman's body). Our bodies are designed to have sex and make babies from the time we start to mensturate, though I don't recommend it in this day and age. There was a 5 yo girl who gave birth in the beginning of the 20th century. There are also other factors to take into consideration. Are you very athletic? Do you ride horses? If so, there is a good chance that the hyman has already broken and you won't feel pain, for the most part. It will be uncomfortable the first time, though. And BIG kudos to you for waiting for the right guy!! And no matter who that guy is he will be very lucky!!!
2006-07-03 13:58:03 · answer #1 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Sweetheart, don't be scared. It isn't a "bad" hurt. I really don't know how to explain it other than it's a good kind of pain. The reason it hurts is because the guy is stretching you out down there. I mean, you aren't born quite "big" enough for "it" to fit, so he's got to squeeze "it" in. Once he stretches you out, you with bleed for a couple of day.. kinda like when you're on your peroid. After the first time, it really isn't that bad. Gurl it's great. But DEFINATLY wait for the right guy. It's something you really want to give to "THE ONE", not some Johnny-boy on the street corner. I hope that this helped you out. If you have any more question, feel free to contact me. I'll be glad to tell ya anything you want to know. good luck! Oh and if you do decide to "do it", relax and don't tense up. It'll help tons.
2006-07-03 13:22:22 · answer #2 · answered by Dear Sweet Tragedy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't *always* hurt the first time, and how much it hurts is a very individual thing (if it does hurt).
There is a flap of skin covering part of the opening of a woman's vagina called the hymen. In most cases, this flap of skin covers enough of the opening that when a man's penis goes in, the hymen tears a little bit -- that's what hurts. Some girls have already torn their hymen by using tampons earlier, some have less hymen covering and so less to tear, and some have "flexible" hymens that just stretch out of the way and don't tear. People are very variable :) The chances are good it may hurt a little, but it's not bad (according to my wife and other girls I've talked to), it heals quickly, and it's worth it :)
2006-07-03 13:17:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok not really the person to tell people this but if you want to know, it is because there is a small tissue inside you called the Hymen and when you had sex it breaks and it hurts. But if it continues to hurt after your first time you should see the doctor.
2006-07-03 13:17:27 · answer #4 · answered by senthetic_sensation 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on a lot of things......it didn´t hurt at all in my case, but I´ve heard from a few other friends that it did. One thing is sure, it´s a bit uncomfortable, but you eventually will get the hang of it. One more thing : just make sure that the guy is gentle and aware that it is your first time.
2006-07-03 13:17:31 · answer #5 · answered by Lady in red 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who has told you that it hurts? It normally hurts because some girls, probably the ones who told you this, have sex when they are not fully developed (teenagers). This is an incorrect decision, and is why most girls get hurt. Also, they normally do it with men who don't really love them, so they don't care about the girls. When you meet and marry the man you love, he will most likely be gentle with you. Don't worry about that, because when the time comes, it most likely won't hurt, and you will be physically mature enough.
2006-07-03 13:19:22 · answer #6 · answered by Ragriav 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, when with the proper guy, the pain will be felt as satisfaction! He must know how to proceed, especially with a sweet and inexperienced beauty!
2006-07-03 22:37:53 · answer #7 · answered by soubassakis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how big it is it didnt hurt me and if it hurts think your having something put in there good job for waiting for the right guy
2006-07-03 13:16:59 · answer #8 · answered by babyanjels420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is thin layer of tissue inside it is broke when you have sex the first time some dont hurt only like a pin prick so i hear.
2006-07-03 13:17:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for most girls sex hurts for the first time because their hymen is still intact
when you have sex for the first time the male organ breaks this thin membrane
"popping the cherry" (yee ouch!!)
good luck!
2006-07-03 13:16:27 · answer #10 · answered by drgn grl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋