i recently met a guy and we really hit it off - we have everything in common and it was really easy to talk to him. The only problem - he's married (which he told me right away). But he still flirted with me all night and commented that if he met me before his wife, he wouldn't have gotten married. I'm not going to do anything with him, but I can't stop thinking about how great we would be together (if not for the wife)/ how do I get him off of my mind?
2006-07-03 12:52:30 · 21 answers · asked by a a 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know its wrong so you know your answer, however, in your mind it's still going. Just keep telling yourself that it's wrong...avod any possible meetings with him. It seems from what you say that he knows you dig him...so he is flirting. You can be the decent one and not allow it to come to anything more. Keep in your mind how you would feel if you were the wife.....Keep stressing that in your mind. I had a similiar situation...not as further but we got along she is beautiful inside and out but I knew no matter what it would be wrong to make it any more. Just chalk it up to fate. Plus imagine what your parents would think. You obviously have morals so I would work on changing your mind set.
Good luck on findin Mr Right.
2006-07-03 13:02:12 · answer #1 · answered by Chef 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
RED FLAG MARRIED. Suppose he left his wife moved in with you, do you actually think he would stop there. Him flirting around and doing things behind his wife back is not a sign of man who is ready to settle down with one woman only. If his marriage is that bad he can get divorced right now, he is doing a great disservice not only to his family by living a lie, but also having you believe all that garbage that every married man always says. He is just using you. Find a single man you will be happier in the long run and have a brighter future and less headaches and heartaches
2006-07-03 20:19:59 · answer #2 · answered by Zoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apprecite what u hv now is all i can say. I had an affair with a married man before & I knew exactly how u feel. He's just so charming, charismatic & he talked his way into my heart. But unfortunately we were apart after the kingdom had come for him..He had a liver cancer.
So take every moment u hv with him now if you don't wanna be regreting (for not doing so) for the rest of your life. At least when u turn & look back someday, u r glad that u hv at least spent some precious moment with him..
2006-07-03 20:04:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about how you would feel if your husband did this to you. If that doesn't work try looking at the fact that he has no respect for his marriage, his wife, nor you. To him, you will only be an unpaid prostitute if you allow him to continue with his behavior. Realize your own self worth, and recognize that you are a better person than this. He is attempting to start an affair, and you will be treated as a dirty little secret, as opposed to a woman that a man would be proud to be seen with anywhere.
2006-07-03 19:59:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where did you meet him? online or in person? Forget about him, he's taken. Go find a nice single man. When you get married, will you want your husband orif not, even your b/f saying this to another woman. Usually what goes around comes around. I agree with Santa's helper, if you hurt someone else,be prepared to suffer the same way later on. The circle of life. Two days ago,didn't you ask a question about someone else, saying you have a crush on them. So how can you be in love now with this guy?
2006-07-03 19:58:36 · answer #5 · answered by nativeamericantay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go girl. He's not worth it. He can only be a friend. If he would leave his wife for you, then what would stop him from leaving you for someone else. You had said "If we had met before he met his wife"......understand this..... "IF" is a big word. If the dog wouldn't have stopped to poop, he would have caught the rabbit. LOL Anyway....it wasn't meant to be, at least at this time. My advice for you is to find someone else, because it sure seems like he's still playing the field, although he's married. Also think of it like this....if you were to offer to go to bed with him....would he accept? If he would.......then you know he's not worthy of a long term commitment. Find someone else to love...you're looking at heartbreak here.......best of luck to you......
2006-07-03 20:00:43 · answer #6 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was married I fell for a single friend.
It lasted for seven incredible months.
I thought the same thing that your boy told you: he'd met me before his wife, etc.
We both suffered a lot, very, very painful. I still can not recover completely.
There are some people that fall for impossible loves just to blame somebody of their further pain. Be careful
2006-07-03 19:58:19 · answer #7 · answered by Saturno 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he is a married man so you better know what you are getting in to. If you really like him and he like you more then his wife maybe try and she if possible get him to leave his wife for you but if you really think it is wrong try to avoid him.
2006-07-03 19:56:38 · answer #8 · answered by Brooke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know that you would be settling for second place.All married men say that very same crock of crap!!! If he cheats on his wife it has nothing to do with her,its simply because he can charm the pants off of almost any girl and will.Yeah you would be great together.......until the next piece of tail comes along.There is something about having someone who should be off limits.If you wouldn't want someone to fool around with your husband......don't fool around with married men.They found and commited themselves to someone,allow them to live with their decisions.
2006-07-03 19:58:49 · answer #9 · answered by girlqueen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well marry him and be his second wife,
1)By this you will not be breaking his family but you would be joining in.
2006-07-03 20:06:13 · answer #10 · answered by saleem k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋