My 17 yr old sister wants an abortion, how can I stop her, should I stop her?

Answer 1

Depending on which state you live in, she may not legally get an abortion without a parent's consent.

I would advise abortion conseling.

Answer 2

I think you should try and stop her. Just talk to her as best you can. When she goes to get an abortion, the clinic usually takes her in and shows her how they do it (with pictures) and what the effects could be afterwards and everything like that, and then they will give her 24 hours to decide. That's usually how it works, and they go into pretty vivid detail, so hopefully that might get her not to. but otherwise, all you can really do is just be there for her. It has to be a scary situation for your sister, too. Just talk to her as a person, don't fight and scream, just talk normally, and then go from there. I would personally persuade her into going the adoption pathway. There are so many people that would LOVE to have a child but can't because of medical reasons or such. If your sister were to go the adoption pathway, she could have the chance to keep in touch with the baby (if that's what your sister and the adoptive parents want) throughout the lifetime. Try and talk your sister into doing adoption. That would be better than killing the baby.

Answer 3

Unfortunately, you can't stop her, but you might be able to help her realize the horrible decision she's going to be making. Google abortion pictures and show her some of what you find. Maybe that'll help her. I was 17 when I had my son. Once you get pregnant, you're already a mother. It's up to you whether you want to be a mother to a child that will be eternally grateful you gave him/her the greatest gift of all (life) or whether you want to be a mother to a dead baby who's blood is on your hands. Give her my email address if need be. Having been in her position not all that long ago, I think I could really help her. Thank you for caring about her and her unborn baby. that's the sort of support she'll need if she's going to make it through this okay. Ultimately though, as the law stands right now, it is her decision.


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Answer 4

Hello David,, you know this question opens a can of worms,, and you will get all degrees of answers. Does your sister want this baby? I would personally never opt for abortion when there are other options. She could have the baby and then if she didn't want the baby , the baby could be put up for adoption, but if she carries a baby for nine months, I'm thinking that she will want to keep the baby for sure by then. and David , the first time that you hold this new born baby in your arms, you will be glad that your sister didn't have the abortion. I've seen this happen numerous times.

Answer 5

Why would you want to stop her? God invented abortion and it is a natural right of hers that cannot be taken away. Would you sit with her 24 hours a day, months on end. I don't think so.
God created abortion for a reason. God loves our world and little children. He knows that some will suffer if a mother makes the wrong decision and does not abort a fetus when she knows that the pregnancy is wrong.
And there is nothing to fear if you believe in an all powerful loving God. Such a God would take the soul of the fetus and protect it from death.
On the other hand you would have much to fear if you believe in the God of the pro life movement. Such a god allows for the death of the fetus and in addition allows for the murder of pro choice people, doctors and the bombing of hospitals.
So just believe in my God and let your sister alone.

Answer 6

Yes! I understand that u are not her and that it is her body and all of that good stuff. But will she be able to live with knowing how things could have been for that child. Can u live with knowing that u could have had a niece or a nephew that could have bought so much joy to not only u and your sister but to the rest of ur family as well. The most important thing to remember is that ur sister knew what she was doing when she chose to have sex. God forbid something happened against her will. But it is not Right to kill a child for that reason. She was ready to have sex. She and her partner made that chose to have sex. Who is to say if God did not let this happen for a reason. I wont go into that too much because I am not sure of ur beliefs. But it comes down to what the two of u are ready to live with. I say u because if u do not stop her....and her because of the life that she has snatched from her child. I hate to get all mushy but that is what i feel.

Answer 7

You could talk to her about it, but obviously she feels shes not ready for the commitment of a child and regardless or your feelings, it's her decision and shes the only one that can make it, but you should support her no matter what!

I would just help her to make the decision she feels right about!

And don't pull that right wing crap on her by forcing her into seeing the dead babies on the internet! That's rude, and you should let her do what she feels is right.

And a person isn't a mother until they think they are, so don't force her to give birth to a baby that she'll neglect and give the worst life ever, because "life" maybe be a great gift if your not on the street living day to day eating trash and contracting disease and being miserable! Or ABUSED for that matter... if someone is not ready to be a "mother" then they shouldn't be... REGARDLESS!

And don't tell her what a bad choice she'll be making, cause you DON'T KNOW!

Answer 8

Depends on the situation. No, you can't actually stop her legally. But, perhaps you should try opening up to her and talking to her about it. If she's 17 and wanting an abortion then she has to have her reasons. You should find out those reasons and work from there... maybe it's something you could help with.

Answer 9

I HAD AN ABORTION AND I REGRET ED EVERYDAY FOR 28 YRS UNTIL I HAD THERAPY. I HAVE TALKED ONE PERSON INTO NOT HAVING AN ABORTION SHE DID NT AND HAS THANKED ME OVER AND OVER. I TRIED TALKING SOMEONE OUT OF GETTING AN ABORTION AND SHE DID IT ANYWAY AND SHE HAS REGRET ED EVERYDAY AND STILL TEARS UP WHEN THE SUBJECT COMES UP. ALL I CAN TELL YOU IS YOUR SISTER WILL HAVE TO LIVE W/IT. AND THE CONSEQUENCES ARE NOT NICE. OTHERS USE IT HAS A BIRTH CONTROL AND PROBABLY CAN LIVE W/IT.
FOR US,THAT HAS REGRET ED,AND I CAN SPEAK FOR MANY MANY WOMEN....HAVE LIVED LIFE THINKING EVERYTHING THAT GOES WRONG IS BECAUSE WE DESERVE IT OR A PUNISHMENT FROM GOD. AND IT IS NOT TRUE. NEEDLESS TO SAY I'M PRO CHOICE BECAUSE I WOULD HATE ANYONE TO GOT THROUGH WHAT MOST WOMEN GO THROUGH.
THE ANSWER IS IF YOU CAN STOP HER SHE WILL THANK YOU . IF SHE ABORTS IT'S HER DECISION AT THE END AND WILL NOT BE BITTER TOWARDS YOU, IT'S YOUR SISTER.

Answer 10

It is NOT her body/her decision. Abortion kills an innocent child that is not responsible for how it was created or got here. I would tell her to put the child up for adoption if she does not want it or feel she cannot care for it. So many couples who want children and cannot have them. I have a friend who had an abortion 10 years ago. It still bothers her. It will haunt her the rest of her life if she does it.

Answer 11

Ultimately it is her body and her choice, Which is how the law currently works. However you might try suggesting other options like adoptions, (there are people looking to adopt babies the same day they are born, she wouldn't even have to see the baby if she didn't want to) One day regardless of her decision she may have regrets, Tell her it would be better to feel regret over giving away a child, than to feel the same regret along with guilt for aborting one. At least then the child would be still alive and with parents that loved him/her.