and he wants to be with me forever, but I am very jealous of his younger female friends. I feel very threatened and extremely insecure. Is there any possible way this can work out?
2006-07-03 12:11:51 · 17 answers · asked by nativemaiden27 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
GIRL go ahead wit your bad self i understand cause my man is 21 & im 31 but i konw he loves me cause now were married & at 1st i was not sure about em but now its the best thing that ever happen 2 me and dont worry bout them haters they just want what they cant have cause my baby looks like USHER hes FINE as HELL girl and girl want em bad even at church lol but its ok I GOT THE RING and he has 2 jobs so GO 4 IT & GOOD LUCK!
2006-07-03 12:26:17 · answer #1 · answered by jacci mcann 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are insecure because of the age difference.....you might always feel this way because of that. BUT you might always feel this way with any man, any age....what you would need to work on is called self-confidence and I have heard many a man state that this quality in a woman is a huge turn on! I am almost 11 yrs older than my husband and we have been married 10 yrs now.....I have been with this man longer than any other. We are very compatible and I have felt a twinge of jealousy now and then, but you know what........so has he. Bottom line... we love each other and age difference is something we laugh about when we think of younger school yrs....then I am called a cradle robber. When you are older it is different and I was much more mature in some things than he was when we were first together, but he has caught up. Love is patient, especially when he has qualities you have been searching for...bottom line I love him more than I have anyone else and he loves me. It does work and I am sure it does all the time either way......find your self-confidence and feel good about yourself, obviously he feels that way about you.
2006-07-03 12:22:34 · answer #2 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope it works out for you. It probably could but it seems like because of the way you feel it most likely won't. If you're that insecure now imagine how you'll be when you're 50 and he's 35. I'd say work on your self esteem issues. Obviously he wants to be with you instead of these younger girls, because otherwise he'd be with them. If you can get past your insecurity, if you have a lot in common ect. I don't see why it couldn't work out. Good Luck to you!!!!
2006-07-03 12:17:33 · answer #3 · answered by Maryanne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought - goodness knows why - one of the reasons guys were attracted to older women was because of they were secure individuals - I know a guy who is married to an older woman and she is way insecure and has lots of problems. Have you had this problem with relationships in the past regardless of the age? I am 44 and would be super flattered if a younger guy was interested in me - but it sounds like you need to break it off and work on Y.O.U. Why are you so insecure?
2006-07-03 12:27:21 · answer #4 · answered by wapitig8r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both legally adults, and you both realize that there are some major issues that will hit you both, and mostly you should be aware. You are much more mature, and have had a chance to experience life, and he has not. You also know of your own jealousy, and should be well aware at this point in your life, that that one emotion will generally destroy a relationship. You are smarter than this, and you know that you are setting both of you up for a fall. You may not fall as hard as he will, but you both will end up hurt in the long run.
2006-07-03 12:21:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, get someone your own age. You are not a spring chicken. Having a younger man will not make you look or feel any younger. Also does he work? If not, he is looking for a mother figure to take care of him.
2006-07-03 12:15:05 · answer #6 · answered by devinshell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first question is "what can you guys possibly have in common"? Please don't be offended. I'm not trying to be disrespectful at all but I am 35 and I can't imagine what I would have in common with someone that much younger than me. I gotta be honest, I'll be surprised if it works but if he truly makes you happy then I hope for your sake it does!!!!!!!!! Best of luck to you.
2006-07-03 13:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say it will be harder as you get older- Unfortunately most women don't age as well as men- think about when you are almost 60 and he is only 40ish- that's a huge difference! It is also a lot of pressure to stay young looking. Get someone your own age.
2006-07-03 12:16:32 · answer #8 · answered by weswe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End it now... You know what.. It's hard for a guy especially for his age to link in a much older women... They always look for the younger ones..
2006-07-03 12:17:45 · answer #9 · answered by vhernice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my parents are 14 years apart, and my mom is the younger one, but she couldnt be any more in love with him...If he loves you, but he flirts its a guy thing. He loves YOU not his friends. Tell him how you feel, but there is nothing to worry about. if You love him, and he loves you, nobody else matters.
AND WHOEVER SAID THE THING ABOUT WHEN YOUR 55 AND HE IS 40 ... MY DAD IS 55 AND MY MOM IS 41, AND THEY COULDNT BE HAPPIER!!!!! SO SHUT YOUR MOUTH IIF YOU DONT KNOW WHAT UR TALKING ABOUT!
2006-07-03 12:16:47 · answer #10 · answered by Va-Akgurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋