when i ground him he gets out of control he can act like a man an dish out bad words an act like a man but come time to take the punishment he act like a baby we have no control over him. but when i do take control i take all his privalages away.he doesent like it.i called his father in texas to take him back soon am i a bad mom??
2006-07-03 12:07:58 · 15 answers · asked by girlfriend_27_2002 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he has a step father and we tried calling the police that dosent work where were from and we also tried counceling and that didnt work either
2006-07-03 12:20:14 · update #1
boot camp
2006-07-03 12:10:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We tried everything we could to control a 12 yearold girl. She at the time was chubby about 150 pounds and taller then her mom which was only about 105 pounds. She would grab mom by the face and shove her out of the way. Mom one day tackled her and stopped her from leaving so daughter called the cops. Believer it or not they took mom to jail for detaining someone againce their will. That that was a load of crap. The next time she picked a fight with mom I grabbed her and chuncked her out the door and told her to go and then through her shoes at her. I would not let her come back in being she wanted to leave I was going to let her go. This time she got the rest of the family involved and they quickly understood. Then she would not go to school and that got the state involved and she told them where they could go as well. S owe sent her to a boot camp. It taught her a lot and she was a good girl for a few years after that. Then she started steeling credit cards and charging them up.. So she spent time in jail over that one. She still has not learn a thing.
So I say give the Boot Camp a try and then send his rear off to the Army for a few years. Or he will just endup in jail. He needs some values. He needs to be put in a place that will show him how bad it gets if he don't do what is needed in life. A shape up or or go through hell kind of a thing.
You are not a bad mom. Kids gets like that.
2006-07-03 19:24:29 · answer #2 · answered by Itsme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think sending your son back to his dad is the best choose you're making. as for you being a bad mom? No i wouldn't say that. Most mothers want to be caring and maternal by nature. the problem with that is that it's impossible to be the disciplinarian at the same time. your son knows he can get away with what he does with you and chooses to do so. i bet he will ship up if he spends more time with the father (unless the father is a good for nothing). you can still be the mother, but what your son needs right now most is a father figure to make sure he stays in line.....
everyone loves my daughter they say she's so polite and well behaved. when they tell me I'm too hard on her at times i turn around and say "if you love the way she is, it's because I'm the way i am."
i know my daughter loves her mom more because I'm the disciplinarian. but I'm proud of that as long as i bring up a great daughter.
2006-07-03 19:18:46 · answer #3 · answered by cesar g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parenting teenagers is very difficult for anyone. It is almost impossible for a woman without a husband. The boy needs a man to help him learn to be a man.
There is nothing wrong with getting his father involved. But in the meantime, keep at it. Take away those privileges. Do not back down when he rages like a man or when he cries like a baby.
Do not provide him money or car or anything unless he is at least trying some of the time to do as you ask.
Keep at it.
nobody's perfect
it is hard, but it is worth it
2006-07-03 19:14:07 · answer #4 · answered by enginerd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not a bad mom. Some kids just don't respond. It's too bad he don't like it, punishment isn't made to be liked. What will he do when he's of age? I like the idea the others said about boot camp. If things get too bad, you can always kick him out, and get him emancipated...that way he's responsible for his own actions. I had a friend who wound up having to do that, after her 13 year old son, who was horrible, stole her new car and totalled it. Best of luck to you......
2006-07-03 19:20:23 · answer #5 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he ever get up in your face or threaten you? If so call the law on him, and maybe coming face to face with the law will show him the error of his ways.
It sounds like you have some control over him if you can take his privelleges away.
Doesn't sound like you're a bad mom to me, I mean it's not like you don't care since you are on here asking this question!
2006-07-03 19:13:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send to bootcamp. My friend did that. Kid came back a totally different person. No you are not a bad mom..Let his dad deal with him. Kids obey fathers better than mothers.
2006-07-03 19:11:11 · answer #7 · answered by devinshell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beat his a$$ down. He wants to act like a man, well see if he can take a beat down like a grown man.
2006-07-03 19:19:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do BOOTCAMP...
Take him to jail, and let him spend the night. I'm sure the guards would like an evening with him.
DON"T SEND HIM AWAY.
That will break you apart.
2006-07-03 19:12:45 · answer #9 · answered by jedilogic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
beat his a***. its all your fault that he acts like this anyways. he is spoiled and you should have started punishment when he was young. give him a piece of the real world. also. how will he act when he gets older and your not around to save him.
2006-07-03 19:28:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't like you, let him go back to dad.
Your the one being punished.
If it wasn't for the state laws on abuse, no one wants to discipline their child. As a Cop told me some years back, if he were my son, I'd take a baseball bat to him.
2006-07-03 19:18:14 · answer #11 · answered by spiritwalker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋