2006-07-03 11:53:26 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A book I read once (It's called a break up because it's broken) says to give yourself at least 60 days with no contact with that person so you can get over them. Good luck!
2006-07-03 11:57:33 · answer #1 · answered by sakareri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually it's a little more complicated. (At least to me) I so much wanted to get back together with my ex-wife as I realized more and more that the grass was not greener and the grapes were sour. I really had to work through this feeling and it took some time. Even discussed it with my ex. She asked me if I was lonely and couldn't be without me by my side? We both were seeing counselors and trying to understand the challenges we faced. I replied "yes, I was tired of the loneliness". Her response, AND THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT STATEMENT IN ALL PERSONAL MATTERS!!!! EVEN BEFORE YOU START HAVING A RELATIONSHIP THIS IS IMPORTANT.
Here it is: "UNLESS YOU CAN BE CONTENT AND CREATE HAPPINESS OR CONTENTMENT WHEN YOU ARE ALONE....YOU ARE NOT READY FOR ANY TYPE OF INTIMATE/MARRIAGE RELATED RELATIONSHIP!!!!!!!!!!!!
I love my ex very much she is such a wonderful person and mother. I admire her and still let her cry on my shoulder when she needs to. Thing is though, if we were married again we would fall into the same rut. It is such a better life to have her as a best friend. We have kids, one of the main reasons I stayed and kept trying and investing in the marriage. Yes, we were not intimate and anger and passive aggressiveness was the theme for over four years
I am going to cut this short now but to answer the question directly: Do not get back together with your ex. Yes, you have pain now. But the pain will subside after time. By getting back together, you will part again, then you start it all over again and it hurts more the second time.
Luck and clear thinking to you.
Jeff
2006-07-03 19:22:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both are an x for a reason......if whatever problems there were when you split still exist, what do you think the chances are? Getting back together involves two people wanting the same thing....if one moves on and is doing fine, then the other should follow suit. Why waste time wishing for something when a really good thing could be missed while you are wasting time on wishful thinking? You need to feel appreciated and cared for who you are and there is that person out there just waiting for you to meet them.
2006-07-03 19:01:33 · answer #3 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually x's don't get back together, I said usually, look around, ask around like you are,
You have wishful thinking, unless this person shows signs, and you really have reason to believe they will come back,, then probably they won't.
Move on with your life, and if you keep hurting and waiting, and hope that things will change you are stuck, and not free to love again, and don't punish yourself when or because it is over by waiting,, get on with your life, there is a lot of persons on this earth to love.. and they will come, if you make room in your heart,and do not be bitter , just be thankful for past good moments, and go on to your future of many more,, good luck cheer up ok
2006-07-03 19:03:06 · answer #4 · answered by Maureen K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think there is any chance at all of getting back together, then contact her and get together - talk it out, diplomatically - Find out exactly what the problem is so that you can determine if there is hope in correcting things, etc and, you won't be wondering one way or the other....! And, take care...
2006-07-03 19:00:20 · answer #5 · answered by carol_grad@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. I am going through that right now. I am afraid to move forward if there is a chance to be with the guy I really want to be with. But like people say if they really wanted to be with you they wouldn't have let you go in the first place. I need to realize this and move forward.
2006-07-03 18:58:06 · answer #6 · answered by Maimee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you guys would have already been together. Dont loose hope.. but X does come from the end of a Elephabet..., so its used as your past. So you should maybe move on. you will grow out of it when his interest shifts to another girl.., unless your a guy then its the other way around.. she shifts to another guy.
2006-07-03 18:58:34 · answer #7 · answered by sweet_poetic_fire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the mall.
Buy chocolat
come home
Sit under a blanket
watch chik flicks while eating the chocolat
cry your eyes out
find something you love doing eg. listening to music and don't take your mind off that
hope dat helped
2006-07-03 19:12:04 · answer #8 · answered by ~bootilicious~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's no use darling.. It will make the matter worse...
Funny.. because I posted that question before when I need an advice..
But you know what.. I already recovered!!
Just meet new friends,. go to the mall.. have fun.. meet new guys/girls if you have to!
Life is fun.. don't spend it on thinking about ex!
2006-07-03 19:02:39 · answer #9 · answered by vhernice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on or start by cuttin all ties with your ex just to make sure that there arent any head games going on, some times it can take a really long time to get over some one
2006-07-03 18:56:54 · answer #10 · answered by starjessiegirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋